# Age difference at first straight sex **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 12, 2012, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228 "2012-08-12T00:09:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Moonlitherial](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4bbf92/32.png) [@Moonlitherial](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moonlitherial)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/41 "2012-08-13T01:13:11Z")
I was 16 and he was 17 and from there the age gap widened regularly until my second marriage. 17-27 19-35 20-40 23-26 I’m not sure what drove the years of dating older men but I really thought during those years that I couldn’t be attracted to anyone my own age. Turns out the guy I needed was much closer than I thought 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![missred](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missred/32/14096_2.png) [@missred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missred)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/42 "2012-08-13T01:15:15Z")
I was 18 and he was 27. ---
**Author:** ![kmshrader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b782af/32.png) [@kmshrader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kmshrader)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/43 "2012-08-13T01:34:15Z")
I was 17, he was 18 – I think. Honestly I don’t recall if the sex was before or after his 19th birthday; regardless, I voted “within two years.” ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/44 "2012-08-13T02:12:04Z")
My first het sex was at 19 with a girl with a year of me. First homo sex was at 18 with someone at least 8 years older. ---
**Author:** ![SandyHook](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dec6dc/32.png) [@SandyHook](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SandyHook)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/45 "2012-08-13T02:35:11Z")
> [@manila](#): > > I was a week shy of twelve and she was 19 Oh dude! I gotta say I’m impressed, all of that pedophile stuff not withstanding. I can only hope that this was only the start of a long streak of whoopie and not just the beginning of a long dry spell. Tell us more, leave out none of the horny details. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/46 "2012-08-13T02:57:24Z")
> [@Becky2844](#): > > I’m flabbergasted. Did you read D-Paul’s post? Or the thread? What he/she expressed was a healthy attraction to people of their own age. And you’re sorry about that? They should lose weight and stop eating garlic? Blind arrogance is becoming to no one, and I should know. But at least I’ve known enough to be ashamed. > [@Giles](#): > > I think **Musicat** ’s post was intended as a joke. > [@Napier](#): > > Musicat, could you explain this? I don’t understand. It was a snarky response to > [@](#): > > I’ve never had heterosexual sex and at age 41, am unlikely to do so… ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/47 "2012-08-13T03:09:52Z")
> [@AK84](#): > > Surely you jest? I know I am no one to throw stones, but 29???:D:D:D Not all of us are social Olympians. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![TimeWinder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bcef8e/32.png) [@TimeWinder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TimeWinder)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/48 "2012-08-13T03:32:49Z")
> [@Musicat](#): > > It was a snarky response to > > [QUOTE=D-Bear] > I’ve never had heterosexual sex and at age 41, am unlikely to do so… [/QUOTE] I think piece most people are missing here that makes this a (rather bad) joke rather than completely rude is that D-Bear is not heterosexual, and Musicat was assuming (incorrectly) that everyone knew that. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/49 "2012-08-13T03:51:03Z")
Not sure how old she was. As previously mentioned, I lost my virginty at age 17 in West Texas to a Hispanic hooker who bore a striking resemblance to [Claude Akins](http://www.google.co.th/imgres?imgurl=http://compmast.tripod.com/akins/akins.jpg&imgrefurl=http://compmast.tripod.com/akins/akinsphoto.html&h=635&w=504&sz=81&tbnid=QYvicPOl-s6rkM:&tbnh=82&tbnw=65&prev=/search%3Fq%3D%2522claude%2Bakins%2522%2Bphoto%26tbm%3Disch%26tbo%3Du&zoom=1&q=%22claude+akins%22+photo&usg=__sWHXxOEbvLQIii6P6_e1Znggdmo=&hl=th&sa=X&ei=z3koUKz4C8PtrQeU3ID4Cw&ved=0CB0Q9QEwAQ). I’ve been told that sounds like a Country-and-Western song. ---
**Author:** ![D-bear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/aeb1de/32.png) [@D-bear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D-bear)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/50 "2012-08-13T04:42:55Z")
> [@TimeWinder](#): > > I think piece most people are missing here that makes this a (rather bad) joke rather than completely rude is that D-Bear is not heterosexual, and Musicat was assuming (incorrectly) that everyone knew that. To quote Dan Cathy of Chick-fil-A… [QUOTE= Dan Cathy] Guilty as Charged! [/QUOTE] Gay as charged and happy as a Clam… ---
**Author:** ![listedmia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e0b2c6/32.png) [@listedmia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/listedmia)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/51 "2012-08-13T07:44:07Z")
I was 14, he was 17. He was my friend’s older brother and we bonded over punk rock and having dead parents. His 92 Corolla wasn’t quite spacious enough, so we went back to his house. There was a mirror over the bed, which I found odd. The next day at school I got to hear from my friend how her brother brought home some random skank and weird noises emanated from the basement. I was mortified. ---
**Author:** ![Olentzero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/90ced4/32.png) [@Olentzero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Olentzero)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 10:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/52 "2012-08-13T10:42:57Z")
I was 17, she was 25 and married. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/53 "2012-08-13T13:18:26Z")
We were both nineteen and madly in love. I don’t remember how far apart we were in age, but it was a matter of months. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/54 "2012-08-13T17:43:01Z")
I realize I’m late to the party, but why does only straight sex count? ---
**Author:** ![Mister\_Rik](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mister_rik/32/491_2.png) [@Mister\_Rik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mister_Rik)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/55 "2012-08-13T18:04:09Z")
I was 20, she was a 19-year-old redhead, and it happened on St. Patrick’s Day 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Giles](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giles/32/60_2.png) [@Giles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giles)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/56 "2012-08-13T20:14:58Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I realize I’m late to the party, but why does only straight sex count? Because it adds an extra variable or two and complicates things. One complicating issue being, What counts as gay sex? Another being that many people experience both gay and straight sex. If you want to ask about gay sex, go ahead. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2012, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/57 "2012-08-13T20:16:33Z")
> [@Giles](#): > > Because it adds an extra variable or two and complicates things. One complicating issue being, What counts as gay sex? Another being that many people experience both gay at straight sex. If you want to ask about gay sex, go ahead. [blatant lies] But I don’t know how to start a poll! Coding scares me! [/blatant lies] ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2012, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228/58 "2012-08-14T01:29:11Z")
I’m a lady and he was 3 years younger, closest in age to me of anyone I’ve had sex with. I seem to be doomed to notable age differences. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-difference-at-first-straight-sex/631228.md?page=2)