# Age differences re: older women, younger men

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**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [August 30, 2022, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-differences-re-older-women-younger-men/970617 "2022-08-30T19:22:44Z")\
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**Author:** ![Moonrise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moonrise/32/14764_2.png) [@Moonrise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moonrise)\
**Post date:** [August 31, 2022, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/age-differences-re-older-women-younger-men/970617/22 "2022-08-31T15:30:13Z")

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I agree that the gap isn’t as important as the age you have when you meet.

In 1999, I had two successive relationships with girls, Lauren and Eva, who were 18. I was then in my mid-20s. The difference in our outlooks on life very soon proved insurmountable.

However, Gini, whom I met in late 2019, was 10 years younger than me. Before we met, she’d been in a relationship with a guy who was 5 years younger than _her_. Both [relationships were riddled with problems](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/realizing-that-you-are-at-risk-of-becoming-like-your-partners-psycho-ex/969025/51), but in our case, age was not one of them. We were in similar places in life : our University years were long gone, and we had both been professionally active for years. Sure, she’d chuckle when I struggled with some smartphone app and I gently ribbed her when she hadn’t heard of some 80s event but on the whole, we were on the same page. I’m not sure what the dynamics with her ex were in that respect, although I remember that she was embarassed to tell me me how much younger than her he was.

It’s weird to think that Lauren and Eva are in fact several years _older_ than Gini. In my mind, they are still those sweet but immature girls I dated for a few weeks, while Gini is the accomplished professional woman I was in a long-term relationship with.

> [@LSLGuy](#):
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> I’m now 63. My first wife died last year when I was 62. We started out the same age when we were married 30+ years ago, but by the time the cancer had finished with her she was, practically speaking, about 90.

That must have been a terrible experience **LSLGuy**. As for the rest of your post, I find your attitude extremely wise and considerate.

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