With the exception of true exploitation, no one interferes in your life without your consent. You always have the option to ignore them and follow your own path.
It’s about owning your choices. You don’t have to like all your choices, in fact you can regret them, recognize them as errors, etc. But you still have to own them.
When you rationalize your choices away, as being ‘forced’ by another’s actions or responses, you are doing yourself a very, very harmful disservice. You are deluding yourself, and ignoring what you know, deep down to be the truth. You didn’t have to swing at that guy, you didn’t have to say that hurtful thing, you didn’t have to look the other way, or keep quiet. All choices.
Once you begin to delude yourself, you will continue, no stops at just one. Pretty soon you’ve bent yourself into not being able to see reality, as it is anymore and there is very little hope for your future. I think we all know someone like this. It’s pointless to even talk to them about anything, they literally cannot hear.
It’s a hard reality, but in the end, you are not your intentions, you are your actions. Right or wrong, if you’re willing to take ownership of them, especially the missteps, you’ll probably turn into a gem of a person, in my experience.