# Am I an asshole? (Not for the squeamish) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 23, 2001, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-an-asshole-not-for-the-squeamish/62925 "2001-04-23T00:05:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Wartime\_Consigliori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9d8465/32.png) [@Wartime\_Consigliori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wartime_Consigliori)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2001, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-an-asshole-not-for-the-squeamish/62925/21 "2001-04-23T23:49:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sofa King \* > \*\*I’m not invited to the funereal part of it, anyway. I am, however, interested in dancing lessons, so I can someday pay effective homage to the bastard above his grave. > \*\* If I were you, I could assure everybody that what **I’d** leave on his grave could never be mistaken for flowers. BTW—How was the fishing trip? Lake or river? Fresh, brackish, or salt water? Live bait or lures? Heavier or lighter than 20 lb. test line? Not trying to be flip, but a bad day of fishing sounds a lot better than any day spent with the person you have described. ---
**Author:** ![urban1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d07c76/32.png) [@urban1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/urban1)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2001, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-an-asshole-not-for-the-squeamish/62925/22 "2001-04-24T01:31:30Z")
Please don’t insult wankers. We are an honest breed. 🙂 And, NO, I do not think you are an asshole. Bob ---
**Author:** ![OxyMoron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/e9a140/32.png) [@OxyMoron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OxyMoron)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2001, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-an-asshole-not-for-the-squeamish/62925/23 "2001-04-24T01:47:08Z")
Well, if you’re an asshole, you’ve got some fun company, meaning…me! I don’t get the heebie-jeebies about dead folks, speaking-ill-of-the-dead, etc. They’re dead - they can’t hear you (and even if they could, presumably they’ve got better things to occupy themselves with). Death generally does very little to improve the deceased’s personality, but in the case of this particular man I’ll make an exception. He’s dead and out of your life - enjoy it, but keep hiding your nastier feelings for your step-sisters’ sake (it sounds like you already are succeeding at that). ---
**Author:** ![Sofa\_King](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/58956e/32.png) [@Sofa\_King](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sofa_King)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2001, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-an-asshole-not-for-the-squeamish/62925/24 "2001-04-24T02:30:50Z")
**Wartime** asked: > [@](#): > > BTW—How was the fishing trip? Lake or river? Fresh, brackish, or salt water? Live bait or lures? Heavier or lighter than 20 lb. test line? Heh. I [spawned a new thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=68599) about this. Might as well keep the fish in the water and the chum in the bucket for now. ---
**Author:** ![dlb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@dlb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dlb)\ **Post date:** [April 24, 2001, 10:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-an-asshole-not-for-the-squeamish/62925/25 "2001-04-24T10:25:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Sofa King \* > Whadda y’all think, am I an asshole for feeling this way? Trust me, I won’t change my mind, but I’m interested to see how truly cynical and bitter you think I’ve become. Don’t hold back, folks. I’m interested in your opinions. Well, you asked for opinions. I don’t call someone an asshole for how they feel; I might call someone an asshole for how they act. Go ahead and feel any way you like. If you let how you feel prevent you from supporting your stepsisters in any way that they need when their father has just died, then you’re an asshole. From what you say, you regard your stepsisters as your kin, but not the wanker as your father. Fine. You don’t have any kind of trauma as an excuse. But they do. A wanker he may have been, but he was their father. Emotions are at best mixed at times like these. You don’t give enough information for anyone to tell what the best thing to do for them is, so it is hard to tell if you are being an asshole or not, but that is how to decide. Support them as best you can. The wanker doesn’t count. You don’t count, not for the moment. They do. Later on it may be different, but that is how it stacks up now. ---
**Author:** ![Amedeus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de0a6/32.png) [@Amedeus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amedeus)\ **Post date:** [April 25, 2001, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-an-asshole-not-for-the-squeamish/62925/26 "2001-04-25T01:07:18Z")
I don’t think your an asshole for it either. He obviously was an asshole. Guy had half a million dollars and spent it all in 20 years? does he not know how to invest? sheesh. What kind of loving father spends his kids educational money. Oh, yeah, I guess the type that wants his kids to end up loser asshole’s like him. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-an-asshole-not-for-the-squeamish/62925.md?page=1)