# Am I being an intolerant A-hole?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-an-intolerant-a-hole/654407>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [March 31, 2013, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-an-intolerant-a-hole/654407 "2013-03-31T10:11:54Z")\
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**Author:** ![Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimmy_Gibbler)\
**Post date:** [April 2, 2013, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-an-intolerant-a-hole/654407/42 "2013-04-02T03:36:24Z")

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> [@BigT](#):
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> And once again I see someone making up a story so they can hate on someone. Nothing you said is in the OP. You made it up so you could disagree with everyone else.
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> Yes, being sarcastic is the opposite of being nice. Having a friend hit on a former friend may not be your fault, but a nice person does express regret that it happened, as a nice person doesn’t want his new friends to hurt his old friends. Being nice means caring about the feelings of others.
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> You do in fact owe your friends a lot if you want to remain friends. All relationships are about give and take, and friendship is a fairly strong relationship. If you want to view it dispassionately, friendship is an exchange of obligations for certain amenities. You owe your friends what they owe to you: friendship. Otherwise you aren’t their friend.
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> Your post is far more assholish than anything the OP has done. It’s better than the other friend, sure, but only because he specifically asked for advice. It was needlessly harsh and involved assuming the worst of the person you were talking to. It’s all about putting someone down so that you can feel better about yourself.

Oh, shut the fuck up, BigTard. Your constant put-upon act is growing extremely wearisome.

If anybody is being studiously disagreeable here, it’s you, and I have little doubt you failed to realized you were engaged in a bout of projection as you typed out this splenic doggerel to begin with. BigTard: He always has some grievance or another. A charming personality trait, no?

I happen to think that Hello Again raised some good points that need to be borne in mind. The enthusiasm that some self-described fag hags have for gay men—but only if they remain sexless little fairies—as was the dynamic between the OP and her friend, is one that needs to be subjected to some truth bombs. And it’s a lot more insightful than any of your trademark tantrums. So do please, heed the meme, and shut the fuck up.

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