# Am I being too sensitive? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 22, 2022, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539 "2022-03-22T22:36:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/21 "2022-03-23T00:20:29Z")
It seems both of you are failing to communicate clearly. If you want to have sex, if you want more attention then that should be clear. If he wants to play video games instead then he should be clear. Nobody should be waiting around waiting for someone else to do something. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/22 "2022-03-23T00:25:22Z")
This is a recent thing ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/23 "2022-03-23T00:37:07Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > If you want to have sex, if you want more attention then that should be clear. > [@SuntanLotion](#): > > This is a recent thing If you’re having sex almost every day, how much _more_ attention do you want? Ay, carumba. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/24 "2022-03-23T00:39:13Z")
Please it’s unfair to judge the OP’s needs and expectations. I’d love to have a girlfriend who is interested in sex every day. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not an imposition. It’s just a matter of two people being clear about their needs, their capacities, and their expectations. And their willingness to be up front and honest with each other. ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/25 "2022-03-23T00:45:53Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > Please it’s unfair to judge the OP’s needs and expectations. I’d love to have a girlfriend who is interested in sex every day. There’s nothing wrong with that. You’re right, of course. My apologies. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/26 "2022-03-23T02:19:34Z")
You’re young and in love, you probably think sex every day and constantly running over to his house is the perfect relationship. But if I were your boyfriend, I’d do anything to get some time alone. I need time by myself to recharge. I love my wife, but we’ve developed separate lives\* so we don’t stifle each other. Or maybe suffocate is the word. . \*F’rinstance, she went for a long walk with a friend this morning. This afternoon, I hung out at a coffee place (with my books and moleskines) for a few hours, then worked out. We ate dinner together, then I watched some sports at the local tavern. Now she _thinks_ I’m watching TV with her, but I’m also posting here. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/27 "2022-03-23T02:48:23Z")
Not young. 61. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/28 "2022-03-23T02:58:36Z")
You’re 61, he’s in his 30’s, you’ve been having sex “pretty much every day” since January? I just want to make sure I have all the facts straight. You’re old enough to understand that you’re in a sex-only relationship, and since that’s what you’re getting, you should be satisfied with it. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/29 "2022-03-23T03:19:20Z")
No I am not in a sex only relationship. ---
**Author:** ![GreenWyvern](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greenwyvern/32/2834_2.png) [@GreenWyvern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreenWyvern)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/30 "2022-03-23T04:28:55Z")
Um… I have a feeling this is not going to end well. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 10:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/31 "2022-03-23T10:40:34Z")
> [@SuntanLotion](#): > > Yes, we were thinking of having sex but knew the maintenance guy might come in. Well then you say something like “Looks like you brought your massive tool…now why don’t you put it to work?” and que up some porn music. Seriously though, I hate to say it by if you are dating someone half your age, they only call you at odd hours. and they would rather play Madden Football than have sex then they might just not be that into you. As a member of Gen X, I’m not an expert on…well…either of your generations, but it seems to me younger people tend to be very passive when it comes to dating and often hope the other person just “goes away” when they express ambivalence or disinterest (ergo “ghosting”). ---
**Author:** ![GreenWyvern](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greenwyvern/32/2834_2.png) [@GreenWyvern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreenWyvern)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 11:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/32 "2022-03-23T11:09:51Z")
> [@SuntanLotion](#): > > Neither of us work, he has MS I assume that means multiple sclerosis, and that it’s bad enough that he is not able to work. Even if he was healthy and athletic, demanding that he have sex with you every single day for months on end, otherwise your feelings will be hurt, would be excessive. If he has a serious illness, then you are really being _far_ too demanding. Apparently MS symptoms can often get better or worse over over a few days or weeks, and maybe he just isn’t feeling that good at the moment. Phoning him at 7am in the morning, upset because he hasn’t contacted you since 3pm yesterday? 🙄 Cut the guy some slack. ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 11:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/33 "2022-03-23T11:10:04Z")
What do you guys do together besides fuck? ---
**Author:** ![steronz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/steronz/32/11765_2.png) [@steronz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/steronz)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 11:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/34 "2022-03-23T11:52:34Z")
I just read through a bit of OP’s post history and I’m somewhat at a loss for words. This is not a normal relationship. I’m struggling to balance the fact that people basically housebound with a debilitating medical condition probably won’t have what most people consider “normal” relationships, with my personal opinion that this guy deserves to have a relationship that’s more normal than this one. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 12:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/35 "2022-03-23T12:02:37Z")
You make a lot of sense. I am not the one initiating sex. Hold on, I was going to reread what you said and reply more. ---
**Author:** ![SuntanLotion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/suntanlotion/32/16165_2.png) [@SuntanLotion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SuntanLotion)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/36 "2022-03-23T12:06:10Z")
Watch shows, such as Game of Thrones, KillTony, Bobs Burgers. Listen to Eminem or Rebelution. I also make him supper once a day. we have seen each other every day since June, so I am glad I came to solicit opinions here. I now realize I was overreacting. Thank you all. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 12:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/37 "2022-03-23T12:07:10Z")
> [@SuntanLotion](#): > > Hold on, I was going to reread what you said and reply more. Couldn’t you have just waited to reply? Everything here, both the story and the actual posts stinks of attention seeking behavior. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/38 "2022-03-23T16:08:07Z")
> [@Darren\_Garrison](#): > > Don’t be so hasty—have you _tried_ doing both at the same time? Meh. Too many fumbles, not enough touchdowns. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/39 "2022-03-23T16:45:58Z")
This reminds me of the _Seinfeld_ episode where George tries to eat, watch tv, and have sex at the same time. It works, until it doesn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [March 23, 2022, 5:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-too-sensitive/961539/40 "2022-03-23T17:58:35Z")
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