# Am I being wierd or what? (Probably a question for the guys!) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 18, 2002, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400 "2002-11-18T22:26:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![welby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/d78d45/32.png) [@welby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/welby)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 12:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/21 "2002-11-19T12:51:46Z")
I think it depends on what you want to happen. If you’re looking to stop the flirting altogether, I suggest one of the following courses: **Just want to be left alone** When casually mentioning your boyfriend (Nay, fiance!), tell him how great it was to find another person to fall in love with who shared your vast collection of venereal diseases. **Want him running scared** Start the psycho routine. Tell him that his flirting gets you all hot and you just can’t wait to get married and, by the way, _where’s my ring??? WHERE IS IT YOU BASTARD? GET ME MY RING NOW OR YOU DIE DIE DIE!!!_ **Want to ensure it remains a cordial professional relationship** Stop flirting. ---
**Author:** ![garius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e19b73/32.png) [@garius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garius)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 1:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/22 "2002-11-19T13:07:30Z")
i second that - **welby** speaks wisely. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/23 "2002-11-19T13:18:48Z")
Old Irish saying: “A standing cock has no conscience”. ---
**Author:** ![Lsura](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7993a0/32.png) [@Lsura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lsura)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/24 "2002-11-19T13:21:20Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by iampunha \* > \*\*You know, I can’t think of an amusing alternative. You might drop not-so-subtle hints about missing your fiancé… \*\* I’d say not to do that - depending on the guy, comments about “missing” your fiance can be perceived as, well, wanting to get some somewhere else. I’ve been through a similar situation (without the fiance/SO though), and I finally had to start treating the guy _only_ as a work colleague - no personal conversations, nothing. It sort of worked. Not completely though, but I don’t work there anymore so I never see him. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/25 "2002-11-19T13:30:48Z")
[chortle] Maybe **Angua** should read it in the stars … 😉 Nah. On second thaught, I think you’re being a big silly head. The only reason this would bother you is if _you don’t trust yourself_. Obviously you’re happy with your fiance, so either forget about him for a moment and go for it or keep it as friendly flirting so the guy can go home alone and pleasure himself thinking about you. If you think about it the right way, it’s actually flattering! [sub]Tee hee[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/26 "2002-11-19T14:19:23Z")
Re the fiance: There are two old sayings that apply in this case. A) Absence makes the heart grow fonder. B) Out of sight, out of mind. Pick one. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/27 "2002-11-19T14:36:52Z")
I’m not sure if he is sweet on you but I’m sure that he has thought about boinking you till he passes out. I personally feel that a certain about of flirting **without intent** is acceptable for married or engaged persons. Just make sure he knows there is no intent. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/28 "2002-11-19T16:09:24Z")
**LouisB** its definitely A. He’s coming over on Friday, and I’m bouncing around like a Ribena Berry 🙂 **Gorgon Heap** My X Ray and Radio images are difficult enough to try and interpret the science from, let alone anything more 🙂 Yeah, I suppose it is flattering, and it probably explains why I’m so full of happy energy, apart from the fact that the SO’s coming over. **Zebra** , there’s no intent, on my part at least. But now, after reading your comment about him thinking about boinking me until he passes out, I’m having to try _very_ hard not to laugh like a maniac, I mean guys, c’mon, there is a solid partition between us (with Darth Vader standing in the way as well), but I’m not going to be able to keep a straight face whilst talking to him abotu this bleeding data reduction! Aaah… its what happens when you start reading the SDMB when you should be figuring out:- a) Where the centre of my galaxy cluster actually is, b) Why my computer keeps on falling over trying to create a nice image of my cluster, and c) Writing a proposal for the VLA in New Mexico! ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/29 "2002-11-19T16:20:53Z")
I think you should let him see you change into a werewolf. That’ll chase him off. ---
**Author:** ![Polycarp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/82dd89/32.png) [@Polycarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polycarp)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/30 "2002-11-19T16:43:17Z")
It just occurred to me as I was reading through this thread that this is probably the first OP in the history of the SDMB that could be taken directly from the plot of a Terry Pratchett novel. Including the signature. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/31 "2002-11-19T16:53:08Z")
😃 Very true… I’m sitting here trying not to giggle like a maniac. 🙂 Aah, but would the real Angua worry about having to _ask_ for time on a telescope? Besides, he’s not broad enough to be Carrot 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Tansu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/67e7ee/32.png) [@Tansu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tansu)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/32 "2002-11-19T16:59:34Z")
You’re an astronomer? Damn, now _I_ fancy you as well. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/33 "2002-11-19T17:04:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tansu \* > \*\*You’re an astronomer? > Damn, now _I_ fancy you as well. \*\* Yup! I’m an astronomer 🙂 Yay! My first admirer on the boards 😛 ---
**Author:** ![gus28](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/6de8d8/32.png) [@gus28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gus28)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/34 "2002-11-19T17:17:00Z")
Do you have any male friends that you don’t think “like you in that way”? If so, invite one of them to the Christmas party if your fiancee can’t attend. I have quite a few female friends and have been used in this manner on a number of occasions. It didn’t bother me in the least. Just my 2 cents. ---
**Author:** ![Uncommon\_Sense](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Uncommon\_Sense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uncommon_Sense)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/35 "2002-11-19T17:34:53Z")
Being a man I can say: Look out, he`s not the only guy in the place that`s interested in you. Men are pigs (and we love it). ---
**Author:** ![\_Deep\_F\_ied](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/7cd45c/32.png) [@\_Deep\_F\_ied](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Deep_F_ied)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/36 "2002-11-19T17:42:33Z")
what **whuckfistle** said… Men don’t flirt for “fun”… its just to get laid. IMHO ---
**Author:** ![YEP](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/43a26b/32.png) [@YEP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YEP)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/37 "2002-11-19T17:50:13Z")
hmm… Angua if a guy talks to any woman, he wants her in that way. …or he wants money. ---
**Author:** ![YEP](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/43a26b/32.png) [@YEP](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/YEP)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/38 "2002-11-19T17:51:24Z")
hey, someone read my mind first. ---
**Author:** ![SCSimmons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e495f1/32.png) [@SCSimmons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SCSimmons)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/39 "2002-11-19T18:57:46Z")
Hey, I flirt for fun!! Maybe I’m just not a Real Man ™. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2002, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400/40 "2002-11-19T19:17:17Z")
> [@](#): > > LouisB its definitely A. He’s coming over on Friday, and I’m bouncing around like a Ribena Berry What in the name of God is a Ribena Berry? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-being-wierd-or-what-probably-a-question-for-the-guys/137400.md?page=3)