# Am I "creepy" for fancying Cheryl Cole? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 8, 2009, 11:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268 "2009-09-08T11:13:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2009, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/21 "2009-09-08T17:30:29Z")
> [@Chronos](#): > > Posh and Beckham are getting along pretty well, aren’t they? Ten years[sup]\*[/sup] and counting. Is there any other precedent for the situation in question? Kind of a weird parallel between the Spice Girls and Girls Aloud, there. It’s like some weird, British time loop that repeats every decade or so. No, I did not know this without looking it up. ---
**Author:** ![WotNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e19b73/32.png) [@WotNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WotNot)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2009, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/22 "2009-09-08T17:49:18Z")
> [@Daithi\_Lacha](#): > > Anyone else reach for their Nadsat dictionary? I didn’t realize that was modern slang for a gloopy molodoy soomka. Aye, soz marra – ah’ve come owa aal pitmatic. ---
**Author:** ![Neidhart](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Neidhart](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neidhart)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2009, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/23 "2009-09-08T20:28:27Z")
It’d only be creepy if you were talking about Demi Lovato. Edit:I’m almost 42 and I’d like to think I can openly admire anyone over the age of consent. This whole “half the age plus ten” thing is pretty recent, isn’t it? I don’t recall such a big deal being made of it when I was young. ---
**Author:** ![DaphneBlack](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/daphneblack/32/5389_2.png) [@DaphneBlack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaphneBlack)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2009, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/24 "2009-09-08T20:56:49Z")
As a 26-year-old female, I don’t think that’s really creepy. Good-looking people in their twenties are good-looking people! ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2009, 10:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/25 "2009-09-08T22:36:05Z")
Thanks everyone. I was seriously starting to doubt my sensibilities for a while. I shall confess now to some possible subtext to my friend’s remark: last year when I was 40 I dated a 25-year-old, and it didn’t end well at all. Earlier this year when I was 41, I kinda-dated another 25-year-old, and that didn’t end particularly well either. (FTR I don’t actively seek out 25-year-olds: they just kinda happen, and I have dated a woman much closer to my age too.) Because of the above experiences, I suspect my friend has my best interests at heart, but is expressing it indirectly and badly. That said, the comment remains a little insulting, as it implies she must have deemed my genuine relationships “creepy” too. I am now dating a 30-year-old, which is apparently deemed just about acceptable. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2009, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/26 "2009-09-08T23:11:20Z")
If I’m dating a 25 year old at 40+ I can’t imagine whose opinion I’d care about. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Awesome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@Captain\_Awesome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Awesome)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2009, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/27 "2009-09-08T23:41:32Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > Ms Cole said on the TV something like “that song made me bounce” and I said something like “Heh, I’d like to make _her_ bounce”… High Five from The Todd! ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/28 "2009-09-09T04:26:57Z")
Well I fancy her. But I am creepy so maybe you are creepy too? ---
**Author:** ![Kevbo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e47774/32.png) [@Kevbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kevbo)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/29 "2009-09-09T04:32:12Z")
I’m still attracted to the 20 something lasses that I fancied as a 20 something lad. As I grow older though, I also fancy their mothers, and am looking forward to adding a third generation in a few years. ---
**Author:** ![chowder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/977dab/32.png) [@chowder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chowder)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/30 "2009-09-09T07:16:39Z")
Well **jjimm** if you’re creepy then I guess that most of the male population, and a fair number of the female, of the UK are also creepy. This include yours truly 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Dublin11](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Dublin11](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dublin11)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/31 "2009-09-09T12:43:13Z")
She is a very gorgeous and glam young woman now, so I don’t think the fact that you fancy her is creepy at all. What weirds me out about Cheryl Cole is that not too long ago she was a poster child for the chavviest chavs in all of chavland. Battering attendants in toilets, marrying a football player of known dubious moral standing and selling the photos to the celeb magazines. But now fast forward a few years, she’s got new American teeth and a high profile job with Mr Cowell so she’s turned into some sort of national treasure. Why? Kudos to her and her people for all their successful spin, of course, but it is all a bit odd. ---
**Author:** ![WotNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e19b73/32.png) [@WotNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WotNot)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/32 "2009-09-09T14:56:20Z")
It is quite a turn-around, isn’t it? Just this year, she’s been voted [Celebrity Most Women Would Like As Their Best Friend,](http://www.thaindian.com/newsportal/entertainment/cheryl-cole-voted-celebrity-women-would-most-like-as-their-best-friend_100141234.html)[Best Dressed Woman and Style Icon of the Decade,](http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/celebritynews/5116123/Cheryl-Cole-voted-best-dressed-woman-and-style-icon-of-the-decade.html) and – just today – [Britain’s _Third Poshest Celebrity?!_](http://www.ukprwire.com/Detailed/Entertainment/JOANNA_LUMLEY_CHERYL_COLE_SCORE_HIGHLY_AS_BRITAIN_S_POSHEST_CELEBRITY_50961.shtml) :eek: ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/33 "2009-09-09T15:07:08Z")
> [@WotNot](#): > > [Britain’s _Third Poshest Celebrity?!_](http://www.ukprwire.com/Detailed/Entertainment/JOANNA_LUMLEY_CHERYL_COLE_SCORE_HIGHLY_AS_BRITAIN_S_POSHEST_CELEBRITY_50961.shtml) :eek: :eek: 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/34 "2009-09-09T15:35:37Z")
Hell, I’m way too old to date Daniel Radcliffe and yet I think he’s pretty hot. Is merely looking at attractive young men pervy? Then call me pervy, I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/35 "2009-09-09T16:36:04Z")
> [@Neidhart](#): > > It’d only be creepy if you were talking about Demi Lovato. Meh. Demi Lovato’s ok, but the real prize is Selena Gomez. I’d like to skin her, and wear here like a suit while I smear cool whip on my aged and decrepit self. Wait, creepy? for the record, while she’s cute, I am not a murderer, and I find her more cute than sexy at this point. Also, cool whip sucks. ---
**Author:** ![Dublin11](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Dublin11](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dublin11)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/36 "2009-09-09T17:42:57Z")
> [@WotNot](#): > > [Britain’s _Third Poshest Celebrity?!_](http://www.ukprwire.com/Detailed/Entertainment/JOANNA_LUMLEY_CHERYL_COLE_SCORE_HIGHLY_AS_BRITAIN_S_POSHEST_CELEBRITY_50961.shtml) :eek: I like that article very much. The survey was done by some bingo website called [Poshbingo.co.uk](http://Poshbingo.co.uk). The Queen came top, which is fair enough, I suppose. Royalty is posh by its very nature. But even _she_ only got 18% of the vote. And better yet, 20% of Poshbingoists claimed to be the poshest person in the country. 😃 Posher than the Queen and Cheryl Cole and even…gasp…Katie Price. Gadzooks. Surely not. ---
**Author:** ![Springtime\_for\_Spacers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Springtime\_for\_Spacers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Springtime_for_Spacers)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/37 "2009-09-09T18:36:48Z")
> [@WotNot](#): > > She’s a pop singer married to a footballer. How long do you think that’s going to last? She’s a pop singer married to a footballer who cheated on her, amazed it lasted at all. Oh and for the record not creepy though she’s not my cuppa tea. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/38 "2009-09-09T18:48:20Z")
When I was 26 I was disturbed by leers from men older than my mom (so men in their late 40s or older) but 41? I probably wouldn’t have dated him, but it’s not creepy. And this is far removed from even that given she’s a celebrity. Nope, not creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/39 "2009-09-09T19:16:55Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > The other night I was watching X-Factor, where Ms Cole is one of the judges, and I passed remark to the effect that I thought she was very pretty and wouldn’t pass up some form of sexual congress with her. > … > What say you ladies and gents? Am I creepy for liking Cheryl? Or am I, as I argued, “a normal straight man”? I find you creepy for using the words **sexual** and **congress** in the same sentence. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2009, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268/40 "2009-09-09T19:23:34Z")
> [@WotNot](#): > > she seems to be not quite the glakey charva I’d assumed she was. I’ll be honest, I have no idea if this is creepy or not. 😉 And no, OP, that wasn’t creepy. I feel like the same young adult I was 20 years ago and admiring a 20-something is par for the course. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-creepy-for-fancying-cheryl-cole/509268.md?page=3)