# Am I having an affair? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 10, 2010, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426 "2010-01-10T20:50:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Mangetout](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mangetout/32/19_2.png) [@Mangetout](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mangetout)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 9:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/61 "2010-01-11T09:40:42Z")
> [@rwhbyu](#): > > I think this is one of those “If you have to ask, then \_\_\_\_” questions. If you have to ask if it is an affair, it most likely is. I think it’s more like one of those “Dear Internet, I am having SEX!!!1!!eleven” posts ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/62 "2010-01-11T16:40:33Z")
I was hoping it would be something juicy that we could really sink our teeth into (no double entendres intended - funny how when you start writing about sexy things, the innuendo just seems to start flowing). Something like, “I like the woman at work, but we never do anything, but we have started having lunch regularly, etc.” ---
**Author:** ![CookingWithGas](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cookingwithgas/32/485_2.png) [@CookingWithGas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CookingWithGas)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 5:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/63 "2010-01-11T17:42:16Z")
Does she look like [Raquel Welch](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=11971521&postcount=131)? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/64 "2010-01-11T19:24:14Z")
What Raquel Welch? I’m wondering if she looks like [Mary Kay Place.](http://images.amazon.com/images/P/B00000G3I2.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/65 "2010-01-11T19:26:00Z")
No. Something that occurs only in your fertile imagination (ha! pun!) is not an affair. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/66 "2010-01-11T19:32:36Z")
> [@Rafe\_Hollister](#): > > SO: Am I having an affair? You’re screwing someone and you’re married to someone else? Yep, you’re having an affair. ---
**Author:** ![Woeg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/df705f/32.png) [@Woeg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Woeg)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/67 "2010-01-11T19:58:52Z")
> [@drachillix](#): > > She prefers Direct Deposit. Coffee, meet monitor. No romantic intentions needed. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/68 "2010-01-11T20:14:22Z")
> [@drachillix](#): > > She prefers Direct Deposit. > [@Woeg](#): > > Coffee, meet monitor. No romantic intentions needed. Money shot! ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2010, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426/69 "2010-01-11T20:26:02Z")
Since the OP has not been back to respond to anything in this thread, I’m going to lock it. If he can persuade me that he posted in good faith and is actually in the situation he describes, I will consider reopening it. twickster, MPSIMS moderator [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-having-an-affair/524426.md?page=3)