# Am I killing my husbands dreams?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-killing-my-husbands-dreams/510693>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [September 19, 2009, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-killing-my-husbands-dreams/510693 "2009-09-19T04:06:43Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 2\
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**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\
**Post date:** [September 23, 2009, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-killing-my-husbands-dreams/510693/101 "2009-09-23T21:15:58Z")

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> [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#):
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> …if I’ve got no creative outlet in my life, I manufacture one by coming up with ideas.

How different we all are. When I have no creative outlet in my life, I start a project or seek out some problem to solve. Now, if only I could apply that energy to my work…

I

> [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#):
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> just never realized that this “thing” that I do was an actual honest-to-goodness personality type.

In fact, I even think the famous [Meyer-Briggs typology](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/INTP) has several categories of dreamers. Like the [INTP.](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/INTP)

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**Author:** ![Brainiac](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8797f3/32.png) [@Brainiac](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brainiac)\
**Post date:** [September 23, 2009, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-killing-my-husbands-dreams/510693/102 "2009-09-23T21:25:18Z")

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> [@Maastricht](#):
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> So, am I killing my husbands dreams? Or offering an useful reality check?

Yes you are killing his dreams. And no, he doesn’t need a reality check from you, that’s what everybody else is for. He needs you to care.

I did the computer game thing back in the '80s, working with my teenage son, and my wife ignored our efforts, and it really hurt. I could really have used some adult help on many things day to day. Packaging decisions, where to place ads, who to trust at the ad agency.

I also have enough words for my mystery novel, all on random chunks of paper in a big box. Still plan to finish it someday. Her only contribution was to mock my working title in front of several of our friends. I could have killed her. If I weren’t divorced I would still be pissed, but now it just comes like a wartime flashback when someone like you asks questions like this.

Short answer: True love is “You and me against the world”

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