# Am I not welcome here? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 29, 2015, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149 "2015-05-29T21:50:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/121 "2015-05-30T16:19:27Z")
Look at the bright side-- you’re probably not as bad as **ralph124c**. Yet. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/122 "2015-05-30T16:22:24Z")
> [@Emiliana](#): > > Nah, you toss one in the basket when it goes around. If you can. No one cares if you don’t, which makes AA meetings even more welcoming than strip clubs! They’d get more bills if there were boobs attached to that basket. ---
**Author:** ![rock\_party](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e19b73/32.png) [@rock\_party](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rock_party)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/123 "2015-05-30T16:23:33Z")
I’d like to know where this magical, mystical place of the OP thinks exists. Where the public transportation gets you anywhere, the rent is cheap, the weather is a balmy 72 degrees, and where you can moan and complain and be totally self centered and the townsfolk find that CHARMING. ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/124 "2015-05-30T16:35:13Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > They’d get more bills if there were boobs attached to that basket. Now you’ve done it. Second Stone will arrive shortly to challenge–repeatedly!–your dehumanizing reference to women as Baskets of Boobs. ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/125 "2015-05-30T16:37:00Z")
> [@cmyk](#): > > Thanks a lot, **protoboard.** Rain on my parade, why don’t you? > > I was _just_ going to post a similar thread, full of self-pity, excuses, generalizing and passive-aggressive moaning. I was going to call it, “Why Doesn’t Anybody Like Me?!” > > Now I’ll just have to have my pity-party all alone. As usual. Post it in the pit, where _In vino veritas_ becomes _In **pit** us atrocitas_. But fear not, I’ll only say good things about you. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/126 "2015-05-30T16:40:36Z")
> [@Emiliana](#): > > Now you’ve done it. Second Stone will arrive shortly to challenge–repeatedly!–your dehumanizing reference to women as Baskets of Boobs. _Where are all the Second Stones Been banned, everyone!_ ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/127 "2015-05-30T16:40:43Z")
> [@Grotonian](#): > > Ignore the people calling you names and telling you to get therapy; the Silent Majority supports you. I always love this. All it needs is, “as can be proved by the outpouring of support offered to me in emails and PMs. And on the nightly news. And in the President’s State of the Union address.” ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/128 "2015-05-30T16:47:43Z")
> [@Grotonian](#): > > Ignore the people calling you names and telling you to get therapy; the Silent Majority supports you. I am not sure this guy is qualified to speak on behalf of the Majority, Silent or otherwise. ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/129 "2015-05-30T16:56:31Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > _Where are all the Second Stones > Been banned, everyone!_ Banned?:eek: Why, that’s like genocide! ---
**Author:** ![Aquadementia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aquadementia/32/555_2.png) [@Aquadementia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aquadementia)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/130 "2015-05-30T16:58:01Z")
About complaining, yep, it’s not something people love listening to and some don’t have any tolerance for it at all. However, most people will want to be helpful. The problem is sometimes complaining is blaming. Here’s the difference: If someone says “I’ve got a huge headache” they might get an offer of a Tylenol. But if someone says “I’ve got a huge headache because you all are such meanies” the response may be more like “Why don’t you go take a Tylenol you whiner.” ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/131 "2015-05-30T16:58:45Z")
> [@Emiliana](#): > > Banned?:eek: Why, that’s like genocide! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Not\_a\_Platypus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d26b3c/32.png) [@Not\_a\_Platypus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Not_a_Platypus)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/132 "2015-05-30T17:02:43Z")
> [@rock\_party](#): > > I’d like to know where this magical, mystical place of the OP thinks exists. Where the public transportation gets you anywhere, the rent is cheap, the weather is a balmy 72 degrees, and where you can moan and complain and be totally self centered and the townsfolk find that CHARMING. I think it might be Albuquerque, Where the sun is always shining and the air smells like warm root beer And the towels are oh so fluffy Where the Shriner’s and the lepers play their ukuleles all day long And anyone on the street will gladly shave your back for a nickel … Weird Al says so, anyway. ---
**Author:** ![harmonicamoon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/65b543/32.png) [@harmonicamoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmonicamoon)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/133 "2015-05-30T17:07:02Z")
Not known to many, but there is a secret group within this MB. They communicate and decide whose turn it is in the barrel. If you are chosen, it means they love you! Enjoy it Protoboard. Love is all around you. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/134 "2015-05-30T17:08:28Z")
Look dude, my yocto-violin factory is already working overtime to meet the demand from whiny self-entitled people all over the world. Get in line. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/135 "2015-05-30T17:13:28Z")
> [@Emiliana](#): > > Now you’ve done it. Second Stone will arrive shortly to challenge–repeatedly!–your dehumanizing reference to women as Baskets of Boobs. Well, I was picturing more of a Basket _with_ Boobs. Then something, something, genocide. > [@Morgenstern](#): > > Post it in the pit, where _In vino veritas_ becomes _In **pit** us atrocitas_. > But fear not, I’ll only say good things about you. TEMPT ME NO FURTHER! ---
**Author:** ![mascaroni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/dc4da7/32.png) [@mascaroni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mascaroni)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/136 "2015-05-30T17:16:28Z")
> [@Morgenstern](#): > > Post it in the pit, where _In vino veritas_ becomes _In **pit** us atrocitas_. > But fear not, I’ll only say good things about you. Ooh, Hark at _Biggus Dickus_ and his Latin insults… ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/137 "2015-05-30T17:28:14Z")
> [@John\_Mace](#): > > Look at the bright side-- you’re probably not as bad as **ralph124c**. Yet. **ralph124c** , however, has never shown the slightest indication he cares what people think of him. Of is aware of it. Or is aware of anything much at all. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/138 "2015-05-30T17:37:13Z")
> [@mascaroni](#): > > Ooh, Hark at _Biggus Dickus_ and his Latin insults… The highest order of insults are always said in Latin. That way no one understands what was said to who or why, or what it even means. It’s _that_ insulting. ---
**Author:** ![El\_Kabong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_kabong/32/496_2.png) [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/139 "2015-05-30T17:37:45Z")
> [@rock\_party](#): > > I’d like to know where this magical, mystical place of the OP thinks exists. Where the public transportation gets you anywhere, the rent is cheap, the weather is a balmy 72 degrees, and where you can moan and complain and be totally self centered and the townsfolk find that CHARMING. I think it’s called Mayberry. I saw some TV documentaries about it back in the '60s. Meanwhile, since 2002 I’ve been living on the flanks of the Big Rock Candy Mountain. That’s pretty nice, if a bit sticky on wet days. ---
**Author:** ![cmyk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmyk/32/3353_2.png) [@cmyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmyk)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2015, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149/140 "2015-05-30T17:50:47Z")
> [@El\_Kabong](#): > > I think it’s called Mayberry. I saw some TV documentaries about it back in the '60s. > > Meanwhile, since 2002 I’ve been living on the flanks of the Big Rock Candy Mountain. That’s pretty nice, if a bit sticky on wet days. Big Rock Candy Mountain? Isn’t that just as you pass out of Molasses Swamp, after going through the Peppermint forest, and just before Gumdrop Mountain? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-not-welcome-here/721149.md?page=8)