# Am I over-reacting? (Relationship stuff...) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 11, 2023, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430 "2023-12-11T17:17:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![JaneDoe42](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janedoe42/32/14104_2.png) [@JaneDoe42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JaneDoe42)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/101 "2023-12-12T19:06:35Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > > [@Larry\_Borgia](#): > > > > populated mostly by late middle aged male dorks > > Excuse me I am a late middle aged **female** dork. Ahem. _Old_ **female** dork checking in. ---
**Author:** ![InternetLegend](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/internetlegend/32/13154_2.png) [@InternetLegend](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InternetLegend)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/102 "2023-12-12T19:08:09Z")
It’s always been an inside joke that Mr. Legend is attracted to women with prominent noses, so early on, if I noticed him looking at an attractive woman, I’d say, “Nice nose, huh?” Jealousy isn’t worth it. Feeling secure is much nicer, and if I hadn’t had that, I’d have dumped him and moved on long before we were married. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/103 "2023-12-12T19:27:05Z")
I did say mostly. ---
**Author:** ![Jasmine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jasmine/32/2964_2.png) [@Jasmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasmine)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/104 "2023-12-12T19:33:24Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > My gf “caught” me looking once and mentioned it. I pointed out that the woman I’d been looking at was wearing the same brand of jeans she liked, but they didn’t look as good on the other woman. Nice save! 😆 > [@kayaker](#): > > Usually if I’m looking at another woman while I’m out with my gf, it’s for a very legit reason. We’ll be the judge of that. 😈 ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/105 "2023-12-12T19:48:38Z")
> [@Jasmine](#): > > Nice save! 😆 My thought exactly. 🙂 But …I tried that save once w current wife when we were fairly new together. Didn’t work. “Why are you evaluating anyone, and specifically, why are you evaluating me?” Sigh. I call it “the Kobayashi Maru conversation.” ---
**Author:** ![Jasmine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jasmine/32/2964_2.png) [@Jasmine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jasmine)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/106 "2023-12-12T19:51:55Z")
Well, it worked well enough 'cause she ended up marrying you. LOL ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/107 "2023-12-12T20:29:34Z")
> [@IDKittyKat967](#): > > My question is are my feelings valid? No. I mean, they’re your feelings and you’re entitled to them and all that. But I find you bewildering and would not want to sit with you. ---
**Author:** ![Euphonious\_Polemic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/euphonious_polemic/32/3002_2.png) [@Euphonious\_Polemic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphonious_Polemic)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/108 "2023-12-12T21:44:08Z")
> [@Jasmine](#): > > Well, it worked well enough 'cause she ended up marrying you. LOL He cheated; He reprogrammed the simulation to make it possible for her to fall in love with him. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2023, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/109 "2023-12-12T21:59:29Z")
I would encourage @IDKittyKat967 to refer back to this when she opens the inevitable “Why is my boyfriend ghosting me?” thread. ---
**Author:** ![scudsucker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scudsucker/32/14101_2.png) [@scudsucker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scudsucker)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2023, 9:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/110 "2023-12-13T09:38:29Z")
> [@susan](#): > > She looked uncannily and unpleasantly like a Muppet We need to know which muppet. Which? Beaker is my favourite, probably followed by Zoot. I love Janice and the two grumpy old guys, Stadler and Waldorf are great (the latter’s wife Astoria only makes a cameo). Kermit & Miss Piggy are OK I guess. Sam the Eagle has more stage presence. Monster is pretty rad on the drums but not much else going for him. Ralf is a bit shit; Fonzy is definitely so. Which muppet did she resemble? Probably no other enquiring minds but mine needs to know! ---
**Author:** ![Whack-a-Mole](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/whack-a-mole/32/141_2.png) [@Whack-a-Mole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whack-a-Mole)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2023, 9:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/111 "2023-12-13T09:52:59Z")
> [@DCnDC](#): > > Does that mean anything? No it does not. Men look. Get over it. Women look too but there are limits when you are on a date with your SO. It is one thing to glance at an attractive person and then get back to your dinner. It is something else to ogle someone, especially in front of your SO, to the point the whole dinner and evening gets weird. ---
**Author:** ![vbob](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/vbob/32/4439_2.png) [@vbob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vbob)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2023, 11:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/112 "2023-12-13T11:31:03Z")
> [@JaneDoe42](#): > > > [@Anaamika](#): > > > > Excuse me I am a late middle aged **female** dork. > > Ahem. _Old_ **female** dork checking in. Nice to have you here! Interested in getting together a soccer team? ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2023, 11:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-over-reacting-relationship-stuff/994430/113 "2023-12-13T11:31:21Z")
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