# Am I selfish? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 20, 2000, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938 "2000-03-20T06:44:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 16\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Pooch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/dbc845/32.png) [@Pooch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pooch)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/1 "2000-03-20T06:44:00Z")
When my wife has some fruit, cake, ice cream, whateaver, she lovingly shares it with me, spooning delicious bites into my mouth. But, when I get a hold of Haagen Daz Choc Choc Chip Ice cream–one of those tiny cups–I act like a pit bull guarding my bowl. I can’t help it. It’s like a little religious ritual and I don’t want to be disturbed. Afterwards I feel guilty–like right now–but, mmmmmm it was good. If the above inanity gets you depressed, what about sharing food? Here in Japan a lot of the eating is communal–lots of different dishes for sharing. At a Western restaurant it is clearly this is mine, and that is yours. When my wife starts eyeballing my plate I automatically start projecting a defensive posture. Do you share your food at restaurants? Is everybody’s plate fair game? ---
**Author:** ![Whammo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/8dc957/32.png) [@Whammo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whammo)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 6:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/2 "2000-03-20T06:48:00Z")
I just WISH I had someone who acted like they loved me so much as to feed and share with me that which they loved… ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Pooch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/dbc845/32.png) [@Pooch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pooch)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/3 "2000-03-20T06:52:00Z")
If I could get the Choc Choc Chip in the quart size, I am sure I would change my ways. ---
**Author:** ![Anti\_Pro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Anti\_Pro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anti_Pro)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/4 "2000-03-20T06:59:00Z")
Hey Pooch, instead of answering your question, I have another one instead. I’m sure you like that ice cream, but if you knew for an absolute certainty that every time you put your arms around it and growl at your wife defending your ‘territory’ that you put a barrier between the two of you that one day may be too high to even reach over, would you still hoard your ice cream/rice/potato chips or whatever?? Why would you use anything to let her know that you prefer IT to showing generosity to the one who prefers YOU to all others and clearly shows that to you too. This COULD be about ice cream, or it could be you’re harboring some anger and you’re just USING the food issue to make her back off. No answer required, of course, just some more ‘food’ for thought. 🙂 * * * “Erlich, the woman is a TURNIP!!” “I know, but my mom always told me to eat my vegetables!” ---
**Author:** ![Pooch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/dbc845/32.png) [@Pooch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pooch)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 7:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/5 "2000-03-20T07:32:00Z")
Anti Pro, I’ll have you know that I’d magnanimously dole out a few spoonfulls of Rum Raison or Cappucino to my wife and daughter any day of the week rather than lose them. What do you take me for? ---
**Author:** ![Girlbysea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Girlbysea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girlbysea)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 9:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/6 "2000-03-20T09:28:00Z")
When my chief eats his chocolate, chocolate, chip, I just sit back and watch. He enjoys this ice cream so much. I would search this town to find it for him. Would he share? Of course, but he loves me enough not to ask… * * * * * * Girlbysea (AKA: ChiefScott’s GBS) ---
**Author:** ![Pooch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/dbc845/32.png) [@Pooch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pooch)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 9:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/7 "2000-03-20T09:44:00Z")
Girlbysea, I just think that is so romantic. I can see a princess scouring a dark city during a blizzard searching 24-hour convenient stores in the bad part of town for Choc Choc Chip ice cream in the name of love. I see her waiting for her man at the dock with a half-gallon of ice cream and a tear in her eye. I have changed, I will share. ---
**Author:** ![ChiefScott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58f4c7/32.png) [@ChiefScott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChiefScott)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 9:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/8 "2000-03-20T09:53:00Z")
You better have and awefully God-damned, big-ass spoon to reach me over here!! * * * Voted **Best Sport** And narrowly averted the despised moniker **Smiley Master** Forward deployed until 18AUG00 ---
**Author:** ![ChiefScott](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/58f4c7/32.png) [@ChiefScott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ChiefScott)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 9:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/9 "2000-03-20T09:55:00Z")
You better have an awfully God-damned, big-ass spoon to reach me over here!! and a spell checker. * * * Voted **Best Sport** And narrowly averted the despised moniker **Smiley Master** Forward deployed until 18AUG00 ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 10:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/10 "2000-03-20T10:24:00Z")
You are scum of the lowest form to deny sharing with your wife just one spoonful. How could you do that? That sounds like grounds for divorce for me. I’m sure your wife could lovingly feed someone else and they would be glad to share their ice cream with her. You should be tied to a whipping post and given 30 lashes. * * * _I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it._ ---
**Author:** ![Girlbysea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Girlbysea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girlbysea)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 10:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/11 "2000-03-20T10:25:00Z")
Wait!!! I’m still looking for that spoon * * * * * * Girlbysea (AKA: ChiefScott’s GBS) ---
**Author:** ![Pooch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/dbc845/32.png) [@Pooch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pooch)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 10:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/12 "2000-03-20T10:43:00Z")
ultress, If you’d wear high heels, a fishnet g-string, a leather catmask and a peek-a-boo bra, I’d let you give me those 30 lashes…AND, I’d share my ice cream with you. ---
**Author:** ![A\_girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@A\_girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/A_girl)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/13 "2000-03-20T12:10:00Z")
Pooch… You _could_ go directly to the Haagen-daaz store and buy a big pint-sized Choc chip… 🙂 A gaijin girl ---
**Author:** ![Pooch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/dbc845/32.png) [@Pooch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pooch)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/14 "2000-03-20T12:58:00Z")
A girl, Yes, a real mecca, but somewhat of a journey from here. The next time I’m in Shibuya, I’ll eat a pint there, and get a couple to go. On the other hand, nearby I bought a pint of Godiva chocolate ice-cream. It was guuuuuud–saw God. ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/15 "2000-03-20T13:03:00Z")
That would work. * * * _I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it._ ---
**Author:** ![A\_girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@A\_girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/A_girl)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2000, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-selfish/14938/16 "2000-03-20T15:32:00Z")
At least in Japan they’ll give you dry ice. Fun to play with when the ice cream is gone… I don’t know where Shibuya is, but I used to live in in the middle of Kyushu. I’m all too familiar with things being a journey away. 🙂 A girl