# Am I the only one who has no idea of the sex of other dopers? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 21, 2003, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732 "2003-10-21T16:50:54Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![KidCharlemagne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@KidCharlemagne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KidCharlemagne)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/1 "2003-10-21T16:50:54Z")
I’m always astounded when I see someone who I always assumed was male referred to as “she” or vice versa. I’ve always made assumptions based on the impression made on me by the username and sometimes the writing style. It’s amazing to me that so many dopers know the sex of so many other dopers and it’s most often revealed in either GD or The Pit where other poster’s are often referred to. Is there a Doper sex listing I’m not aware of? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Zeldar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/b77776/32.png) [@Zeldar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeldar)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/2 "2003-10-21T17:01:39Z")
If there is such a list, I’d be curious about some of the names that have no gender clues at all. I have made enough errors of assuming one and learning it’s the other, that I guess I try to be as non-gender-specific as possible until I see definite proof of which gender is involved. I’m male, FWIW. ---
**Author:** ![scotcho](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/858c86/32.png) [@scotcho](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scotcho)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 6:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/3 "2003-10-21T18:08:26Z")
I just take the high road and use a gender neutral term. It takes a little bit longer, but then i don’t want to humiliate myself. Scotcho ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mad\_Hermit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5ac83/32.png) [@The\_Mad\_Hermit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mad_Hermit)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/4 "2003-10-21T18:27:47Z")
> [@](#): > > Is there a Doper sex listing I’m not aware of? Why, yes, and it only costs $49.95 a month\* for the matching service. Join today and have sex with the Doper of your choice! - Disclaimer: 18 and older only. Sex not guaranteed- hell, you’ll be lucky if they even talk to you. YMMV. Other conditions apply. Offer not valid on Earth. ---
**Author:** ![Ice\_Wolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/dfb087/32.png) [@Ice\_Wolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ice_Wolf)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/5 "2003-10-21T19:05:43Z")
Gender confusion is fairly common on the SDMB. You certainly aren’t the only one who gets confused, **KidCharlemagne**. There _was_ a thread started up where posters deeclared their gender recently, I think in this forum. BTW – I’m a she-wolf. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/6 "2003-10-21T19:07:06Z")
What’s even worse is when you DO find out the sex you don’t know their orientation. I offered to have fun in the sack with OTTO and he crawled in the corner in a fetal postion and rocked himself to comfort. How was I suppose to know he was gay? He was sexy on the outside! He wanted me he just didn’t know it.😃 ---
**Author:** ![Tusculan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecd19e/32.png) [@Tusculan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tusculan)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/7 "2003-10-21T19:10:20Z")
Well, **Kiddo** , I don’t know of a sex listing. There has recently been an attempt for a listing of genders of Dopers, though. See **Idle Thoughts** [Your Gender is important to me](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=209406). But of course such a list is considered cheating. _Real_ Dopers just _know_. Or so I’ve heard. ---
**Author:** ![KidCharlemagne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@KidCharlemagne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KidCharlemagne)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/8 "2003-10-21T19:59:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Isabelle \* > \*\*What’s even worse is when you DO find out the sex you don’t know their orientation. I offered to have fun in the sack with OTTO and he crawled in the corner in a fetal postion and rocked himself to comfort. How was I suppose to know he was gay? He was sexy on the outside! He wanted me he just didn’t know it.😃 \*\* Sexy on the outside? You met him? ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/9 "2003-10-21T20:09:58Z")
> [@](#): > > Sexy on the outside? You met him? LOL no I didn’t meet him in real life. Just from the way he wrote… I just got an image. hasn’t that ever happened to you? You talk to someone on the internet or just on the phone, never have met and you get an image of what they look like, hair color, shape of body, etc… Otto is cute in my book. ---
**Author:** ![typhoon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ed8c4c/32.png) [@typhoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/typhoon)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/10 "2003-10-21T20:33:38Z")
Some forums tell the sex of each member under his name. Of course, everyone would just try to be clever about it, and we’d end up with mostly “Sex: Sex: Sex”… ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/11 "2003-10-21T20:51:09Z")
What that guy **Isabelle** said. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/12 "2003-10-21T21:08:23Z")
I purposely chose a name that’s gender-neutral, although I don’t keep my gender a secret. Except in this thread. ---
**Author:** ![NurseCarmen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5daacb/32.png) [@NurseCarmen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NurseCarmen)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/13 "2003-10-21T21:23:50Z")
Hell, I’ve been hit on, and I’m a straight male. I assure you though, I’m quite stunning in an evening gown. At least, I imagine I would be. If I shaved and all. ---
**Author:** ![minlokwat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/minlokwat/32/2844_2.png) [@minlokwat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/minlokwat)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/14 "2003-10-21T22:41:24Z")
Well, you can’t tell from looking at my user name. But if you must know, I’ll give you three guesses. ---
**Author:** ![moi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@moi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moi)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/15 "2003-10-21T22:43:21Z")
No such listing, **Kid** , but comfort yourself knowing that you’re not the only one feeling surprised when someone’s gender is revealed…e.g. I thought **danceswithcats** was a kind of young-ish female and was shocked as all heck when he finally made it to one of our Philly Dope Dinners. [sub]Now we’ll find out if he does vanity searchers, won’t we?[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Walloon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/fbc32d/32.png) [@Walloon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Walloon)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2003, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/16 "2003-10-21T22:49:08Z")
Male here, there, and down there. ---
**Author:** ![KidCharlemagne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ed8c4c/32.png) [@KidCharlemagne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KidCharlemagne)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2003, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/17 "2003-10-22T06:31:02Z")
Normally I’d bold names but it will take too long because I’m a lame typist so here are my impressions: Zeldar - I’m virtually sure is male. scotcho - My assumption is male (probably because of scotch) Isabelle - would have been real easy until NurseCarmen threw me for a loop. Steelerpham - Male Ice Wolf - Any other wolf and I would have thought male. Until now I was relatively neutral. Tusculan - Male typhoon - hmmm I’m gonna go with female because I think females are less likely to capitalize their names (Don’t read too much into that). lieu - tough one. I would have thought male but something makes me think I was once surprised about you so now I’m thinking female. Dung Beetle - See, I don’t read that as gender neutral. That sort of says “male” to me. NurseCarmen - you would have fooled the best minlokwat- female - the small caps and euphonic sounding name. moi- definately female. So, how wrong was I? Walloon - figured you were a dude. ---
**Author:** ![Tusculan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecd19e/32.png) [@Tusculan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tusculan)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2003, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/18 "2003-10-22T06:39:31Z")
**Kid** , your correct. I chose a masculine on purpose. And **Walloon** : I always assumed you were male, but someone had started spreading a rumor to the contrary (see the first post in the thread I linked to in my pevious post in this thread). Glad that’s cleared up. You wouldn’t lie to me, now would you? ---
**Author:** ![cajela](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9de0a6/32.png) [@cajela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cajela)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2003, 7:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/19 "2003-10-22T07:44:19Z")
Hey, stop telling! I looked in here because I wondered if other people wanted to know or not, but now everyone’s telling! I have to go now. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [October 22, 2003, 11:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732/20 "2003-10-22T11:31:14Z")
> [@](#): > > So, how wrong was I? Well, since you ask…I’m female, sorry. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-one-who-has-no-idea-of-the-sex-of-other-dopers/208732.md?page=2)