# Am I the only Sado? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 20, 2012, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256 "2012-09-20T13:32:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Hogfather65](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7bcc69/32.png) [@Hogfather65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hogfather65)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/1 "2012-09-20T13:32:22Z")
My daughter called me a sado because I wanted to go to see Dredd 3D on my own. Only Sado’s go to the pictures alone she said. she an all her friends go in a group and mock people who are by themself. She want to come with me - not to see the movie just to make sure her old man is not seen as a sado. I don’t get it when did it become sad to go to the cinema on your own and am I the only Sado out there? Glasgow youth be dambed - I am a Sado… ---
**Author:** ![hogarth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hogarth/32/1773_2.png) [@hogarth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hogarth)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/2 "2012-09-20T13:34:28Z")
Note: In this context, “sado” means a pitiful loser, not a sadist. I sometimes go to movies and restaurants by myself. Probably that makes me a sad-o, but who cares? ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/3 "2012-09-20T13:39:28Z")
I see plenty of people at the cinema by themselves. I don’t think of them as saddos. If I saw a bunch of teenagers mocking them, I would think the teenagers were the saddos. ---
**Author:** ![Hogfather65](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7bcc69/32.png) [@Hogfather65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hogfather65)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/4 "2012-09-20T13:45:26Z")
Glad to hear it - never understood why she thinks the way she does - and why all her friends seem to think the same but hey if I need to be a sado (saddo or sad-o - can never decide what looks correct when typing this) then I am happy to do it. Just glad its not something that has changed that much in the years since i last went to the pictures… (only 47 but sometimes she makes me feel older) Thanks ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/5 "2012-09-20T13:52:18Z")
Stop giving your daughter money and she won’t be going to the movies at all. ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/6 "2012-09-20T13:56:13Z")
I always go to concerts all alone and almost always go to movies all alone, for different reasons. No one I know likes the kind of music I like which I guess makes me sort of a sado. But I enjoy going to the movies alone because no one else likes to sit in the bottom section front and center like me, to make the most of the cinema experience, and movies that are worth watching on the big screen are worth not being distracted by. If you want social interaction you might as well wait for DVD. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/7 "2012-09-20T14:01:54Z")
I like being by myself and all, but I would never, ever, ever go to a movie alone. Ever. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/8 "2012-09-20T14:09:13Z")
If I didn’t go to the movies by myself, I’d never go to movies. But I guess that isn’t really a rebuttal of the charge… ---
**Author:** ![Taomist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/53a042/32.png) [@Taomist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taomist)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/9 "2012-09-20T14:26:31Z")
I killed a lot of time, summers when in school, spending a buck at the theater and then sneaking in and out of the different films all hot afternoon. It was the only place with AC!! So going alone to the movies adds a bit of magic/intensity that just isn’t there otherwise. ---
**Author:** ![Turek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/turek/32/18782_2.png) [@Turek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turek)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/10 "2012-09-20T14:31:18Z")
> [@Hogfather65](#): > > never understood why she thinks the way she does She’s a teenage girl. There’s no evidence to prove she actually DOES think. Ever. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/11 "2012-09-20T14:39:52Z")
So your daughter is a jerk? :dubious: If this was my niece (since I have no kids), I’d lean in and whisper “Why are you so afraid to be alone? Why are you so afraid of what others think?” ---
**Author:** ![Hogfather65](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7bcc69/32.png) [@Hogfather65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hogfather65)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/12 "2012-09-20T14:40:53Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > Stop giving your daughter money and she won’t be going to the movies at all. she works - so its her money - mostly… ---
**Author:** ![Hogfather65](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7bcc69/32.png) [@Hogfather65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hogfather65)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/13 "2012-09-20T14:44:02Z")
> [@Turek](#): > > She’s a teenage girl. There’s no evidence to prove she actually DOES think. Ever. 😃 she’s to much like her old man in that respect 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Kiros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/439d5e/32.png) [@Kiros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiros)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/14 "2012-09-20T14:54:29Z")
To be fair, I’d have been mortified to go to the movies alone at that age. I mean, I had no problem being a _bit_ anti-social, but if someone saw me at the movies alone?! I’d probably never kiss a girl again! (or something similarly traumatic) Of course, now that I live across the street from a movie theater and my fiancee works a lot of weekends, I’ll catch a matinee alone once every month or two. Also, since I have fiancee, I’m free to care even less what other people think, since I don’t have to worry about the kissing thing. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/15 "2012-09-20T14:56:21Z")
> [@Hogfather65](#): > > she works - so its her money - mostly… How much are you charging for room and board? She either has a really good job, or it’s not enough. I don’t generally approve of charging your kids to live with you, but if they start calling you any name but ‘Sir’ it’s perfectly fine. BTW: I only have sons. I’m sure if I had a daughter I’d be sitting around taking the abuse also. BTW2: I’ll go to the movies alone or a restaurant alone or do anything I damn please alone. BTW3: Nothing is sadder than someone afraid to do something alone because of what other people think of them. BTW4: Man, am I cranky this morning or what? ---
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/16 "2012-09-20T14:56:24Z")
I prefer going to movies alone,. I actually prefer doing most things alone. ---
**Author:** ![Hampshire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hampshire/32/4887_2.png) [@Hampshire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hampshire)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/17 "2012-09-20T14:56:46Z")
I don’t understand why people think going to a movie should be a social thing. For the 2 hours during the movie you have (or should have) no interaction with the people around you. I don’t even understand why you would WANT to go see a movie with a large group of friends. So you can NOT interact with eachother? ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/18 "2012-09-20T14:58:34Z")
> [@AK84](#): > > I prefer going to movies alone,. I actually prefer doing most things alone. Sado, meet Onan… ---
**Author:** ![Hogfather65](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7bcc69/32.png) [@Hogfather65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hogfather65)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/19 "2012-09-20T15:10:36Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > How much are you charging for room and board? She either has a really good job, or it’s not enough. I don’t generally approve of charging your kids to live with you, but if they start calling you any name but ‘Sir’ it’s perfectly fine. > > BTW: I only have sons. I’m sure if I had a daughter I’d be sitting around taking the abuse also. > > BTW2: I’ll go to the movies alone or a restaurant alone or do anything I damn please alone. > > BTW3: Nothing is sadder than someone afraid to do something alone because of what other people think of them. > > BTW4: Man, am I cranky this morning or what? Not chargig her a penny… I know most of my friends and family think I should but hey she is in college and working part time to give herself some cash for nights out with friends, comics, junk food & college stuff - and I think its in that order but maybe comics come first - she’s like me on that she has been reading / collecting Comics since she was 4. now she works in Forbidden Planet and gets a discount - most of her cash goes to that (we I do get all the Judge Dredd & Dr Who stuff at a discount) I have 3 daughters and she is the youngest and only one staying with me oh and as for her age - 20 :smack: but acts like a teenager… I do a load of stuff alone but she just seemed to have this thing about the cinema. Wont stop me as i’m off to see Dredd 3D on my lonesome. And as for other people’s opinion - i’m too to stubborn bother. Thats not crankie - thats fatherhood… ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2012, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256/20 "2012-09-20T15:19:59Z")
I normally go to the movies alone too. Only on rare occasions do I go with a friend. Never really thought about it all that much… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/am-i-the-only-sado/635256.md?page=2)