# An "A List" celebrity sent me a friend request on Facebook this weekend. **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [April 30, 2018, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355 "2018-04-30T15:57:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![DooWahDiddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e9bcb4/32.png) [@DooWahDiddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DooWahDiddy)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2018, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/61 "2018-05-02T13:06:13Z")
Again, I will ask, how many _friends_ does she have? Not fans. Not followers. If you are actual Facebook friends, you will be able to see how many she has, and it must be below 5,000. If it is, and you are one of them, then you may be on to something. But until we have that information we cannot answer your question with any certainty. ---
**Author:** ![Lamar\_Mundane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lamar\_Mundane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamar_Mundane)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2018, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/62 "2018-05-02T13:25:20Z")
I don’t know how to see that. There is no option for me to see her friends. It does have a blue check, indicating it is valid. I can see all of her personal posts, and there is nothing sexual there at all. It’s mostly chit-chat with her girlfriends ---
**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\ **Post date:** [May 2, 2018, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/63 "2018-05-02T16:42:07Z")
I say go for it. That has never happened to me either, but there are thousands of celebrities and I’m sure they’ve done weirder things than ask someone whose opinions they respect to be their friend on facebook. ---
**Author:** ![Lamar\_Mundane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lamar\_Mundane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamar_Mundane)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2018, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/64 "2018-05-03T14:36:21Z")
Holy smokes, she is private. I understand that, but it seems to occupy about 75% of her mental energy. She pissed me off this morning with this shit. Get over it. Trust me. ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2018, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/65 "2018-05-03T15:30:29Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > Holy smokes, she is private. I understand that, but it seems to occupy about 75% of her mental energy. > > She pissed me off this morning with this shit. Get over it. Trust me. I don’t use FB and have no context for this post. You are waiting for this person to do something to complete a process to be Friends? ---
**Author:** ![Lamar\_Mundane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lamar\_Mundane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamar_Mundane)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2018, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/66 "2018-05-03T15:46:24Z")
No. we are “Friends” Now offline from Facebook. She doesn’t trust Facebook. (Neither do I) ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2018, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/67 "2018-05-03T20:02:28Z")
This is taking a disturbing turn. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2018, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/68 "2018-05-03T20:16:45Z")
I’ve completely lost the plot here with the last several posts. What exactly is going on? ---
**Author:** ![DooWahDiddy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e9bcb4/32.png) [@DooWahDiddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DooWahDiddy)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2018, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/69 "2018-05-03T20:34:20Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > She pissed me off this morning with this shit. Get over it. I too am confused, and can’t understand why she would be hesitant to trust you. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2018, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/70 "2018-05-03T20:44:31Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > Holy smokes, she is private. I understand that, but it seems to occupy about 75% of her mental energy. > > She pissed me off this morning with this shit. Get over it. Trust me. This isn’t a woman you hit it off with on a date who is now giving you mixed signals, some actress’ publicist has decided her client needs a bigger web presence, and the so publicist has tasked her unpaid intern to drum up followers on her Facebook page. There is no relationship to get angry about, since the woman doesn’t know you exist. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [May 3, 2018, 9:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/71 "2018-05-03T21:57:26Z")
> [@DooWahDiddy](#): > > I too am confused, and can’t understand why she would be hesitant to trust you. Me either. I too am “Friends” with several A-List celebrities. Adam Sandler, William Shatner, Jeff Bridges and DJ Qualls. Not only do I have their phone numbers but a set of keys to their houses in case they ever lock themselves out. Although I do not have a set for Sandlers residence in Florida. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2018, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/72 "2018-05-04T01:08:57Z")
If she’s suddenly left Facebook after all this, it’s probably because she was Friending a whole bunch of people en masse and it went sour. ---
**Author:** ![keturah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e95f7d/32.png) [@keturah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/keturah)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2018, 5:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/73 "2018-05-04T05:14:38Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > Holy smokes, she is private. I understand that, but it seems to occupy about 75% of her mental energy. > > She pissed me off this morning with this shit. Get over it. Trust me. Did you really think she was into you? You had her publicists number and her public FB friends list. 100% of her publicists time is dealing with men who think she is personally interested in them. As was told to you earlier in the thread-which you ignored. It’s all about followers. ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2018, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/74 "2018-05-04T09:37:01Z")
> [@GuanoLad](#): > > If she’s suddenly left Facebook after all this, it’s probably because she was Friending a whole bunch of people en masse and it went sour. Ah. Is that a Thing? ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2018, 11:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/75 "2018-05-04T11:47:55Z")
> [@WordMan](#): > > Ah. Is that a Thing? It may have seemed a good idea at the time, but all it takes is one or two idiots to mess it up. It could easily get overwhelming or scary, even threatening, and in a panic they’d shut them out and run away. ---
**Author:** ![Lamar\_Mundane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lamar\_Mundane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamar_Mundane)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2018, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/76 "2018-05-04T12:17:55Z")
She’s got a quarter of a million followers. They aren’t going to track down me and have her contact me every day for a week. We just happen to have a ton in common. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [May 4, 2018, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/77 "2018-05-04T22:17:50Z")
Yeesh. So who is it already? ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2018, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/78 "2018-05-05T00:42:39Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > Holy smokes, she is private. I understand that, but it seems to occupy about 75% of her mental energy. > > She pissed me off this morning with this shit. Get over it. Trust me. OK, I guess I must have had a stroke or something, as everybody else seems to be understanding what this string of sentences means except for me. What happened? She made her profile private? Why does that merit a “holy smokes?” What occupies 75% of her mental energy? What did she piss you off with? Who has to get over what? What is “trust me” referring to? Seriously, to me this is like five completely non-sequitur sentences, yet they’ve been quoted, responded to, and seemingly understood by others in this thread, and I can’t make a lick of sense out of it. Like I said, am I having a stroke or something? Somebody please explain to me what that post means, or even the follow-up post about being “friends”? I assume that refers to Facebook friend. But now neither is on Facebook. Or something? Whut? ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2018, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/79 "2018-05-05T01:07:35Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > OK, I guess I must have had a stroke or something, as everybody else seems to be understanding what this string of sentences means except for me. > > What happened? She made her profile private? Why does that merit a “holy smokes?” What occupies 75% of her mental energy? What did she piss you off with? Who has to get over what? What is “trust me” referring to? > > Seriously, to me this is like five completely non-sequitur sentences, yet they’ve been quoted, responded to, and seemingly understood by others in this thread, and I can’t make a lick of sense out of it. Like I said, am I having a stroke or something? Somebody please explain to me what that post means, or even the follow-up post about being “friends”? I assume that refers to Facebook friend. But now neither is on Facebook. Or something? Whut? I have no fucking clue either. I’ve just been lurking in this thread hoping to figure it out. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2018, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/80 "2018-05-05T08:18:03Z")
I’m just hoping the actress isn’t Jodie Foster. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355.md?page=5)