# An "A List" celebrity sent me a friend request on Facebook this weekend. **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [April 30, 2018, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355 "2018-04-30T15:57:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eyebrows_0f_doom/32/3119_2.png) [@Eyebrows\_0f\_Doom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eyebrows_0f_Doom)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2018, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/81 "2018-05-05T15:45:24Z")
> [@Penfeather](#): > > I’m just hoping the actress isn’t Jodie Foster. Yeah, “crazed male fan feels ‘pissed off’ and ‘rejected’ by female actress he does not actually know” never ends well. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_Ace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/6bbea6/32.png) [@Johnny\_Ace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_Ace)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2018, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/82 "2018-05-05T16:41:37Z")
> [@Penfeather](#): > > I’m just hoping the actress isn’t Jodie Foster. Naah, Jodie’s in her 50’s. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2018, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/83 "2018-05-05T18:28:31Z")
Not that there’s anything wrong with that. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [May 5, 2018, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/84 "2018-05-05T19:18:32Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > OK, I guess I must have had a stroke or something, as everybody else seems to be understanding what this string of sentences means except for me. > > What happened? She made her profile private? Why does that merit a “holy smokes?” What occupies 75% of her mental energy? What did she piss you off with? Who has to get over what? What is “trust me” referring to? > > Seriously, to me this is like five completely non-sequitur sentences, yet they’ve been quoted, responded to, and seemingly understood by others in this thread, and I can’t make a lick of sense out of it. Like I said, am I having a stroke or something? Somebody please explain to me what that post means, or even the follow-up post about being “friends”? I assume that refers to Facebook friend. But now neither is on Facebook. Or something? Whut? I _think_ I may have figured it out. Lamar decides to follow Alice Actress on FB, which is something people do. (I follow James Gunn and Neko Case, among others.) Alice’s social media person screws up and adds Lamar as a friend rather than a follower, which means Lamar can see all her private personal posts, not just the public ones. This understandably freaks Alice out when she realizes it, and her assistant apologizes and resets Lamar to an ordinary follower status, which Lamar gets weird about. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_Ace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/6bbea6/32.png) [@Johnny\_Ace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_Ace)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2018, 1:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/85 "2018-05-06T01:07:19Z")
> [@Sunny\_Daze](#): > > Not that there’s anything wrong with that. Not at’all…she’s right in my range. It’s just that he said the actress in question is in her 40’s. No, Jodie, that wasn’t an offer. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![tim314](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tim314/32/3468_2.png) [@tim314](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tim314)\ **Post date:** [May 6, 2018, 8:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/86 "2018-05-06T08:48:11Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Seriously, to me this is like five completely non-sequitur sentences, yet they’ve been quoted, responded to, and seemingly understood by others in this thread, and I can’t make a lick of sense out of it. It’s not just you; that was borderline incoherent. But people were able to understand that the OP is pissed because some celebrity he isn’t actually friends with in real life isn’t giving him the level of access he thinks he deserves (for some reason), and that’s creepy. ---
**Author:** ![Ashtura](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ashtura/32/2963_2.png) [@Ashtura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashtura)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/87 "2018-05-07T14:08:29Z")
Can somebody PM me when this guy finally says who this person is/isn’t? I really can’t see why you can’t say. It doesn’t matter if they’re real or fake. Nobody’s gonna laugh at you or anything. ---
**Author:** ![Sauron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Sauron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sauron)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/88 "2018-05-07T15:39:13Z")
As has been said a few times, I seriously doubt this actress has any clue whatsoever who **Lamar Mundane** is. A-list performers who are active on social media almost always have people who actually manage their account(s). They’re a brand, just as a multimillion-dollar company is a brand, and their online personas are usually handled as such. I do almost nothing social media-wise, but I’m familiar with the process, and have seen it in action. I think the actress in question (or, rather, the folks managing her social media presence) wanted to increase her friends / followers / audience, and sent out friend requests – likely hundreds or thousands – as a result. \*\*Lamar Mundane \*\*happened to get one of these. There really is no reason whatsoever to keep the identity of the actress secret. Doing so just seems to be a ploy to get attention. I’m happy to be proven wrong on that. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/89 "2018-05-07T15:41:46Z")
> [@tim314](#): > > It’s not just you; that was borderline incoherent. But people were able to understand that the OP is pissed because some celebrity he isn’t actually friends with in real life isn’t giving him the level of access he thinks he deserves (for some reason), and that’s creepy. Well, I still give y’all credit for parsing at least that much out. ---
**Author:** ![Lamar\_Mundane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lamar\_Mundane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamar_Mundane)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/90 "2018-05-07T16:09:55Z")
This was never about who the actor is. That’s y’alls obsesion. I just wanted to know if this was common thing. For the record. she’s a sweetheart and a philanthropist. And I’m not going to tell you her name. ---
**Author:** ![muldoonthief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muldoonthief/32/3188_2.png) [@muldoonthief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/muldoonthief)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/91 "2018-05-07T16:13:26Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > This was never about who the actor is. That’s y’alls obsesion. I just wanted to know if this was common thing. For the record. she’s a sweetheart and a philanthropist. And I’m not going to tell you her name. Well, that’s your call if you want to stay all mysterious, but can you clarify what this is about? > [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > Holy smokes, she is private. I understand that, but it seems to occupy about 75% of her mental energy. > > She pissed me off this morning with this shit. Get over it. Trust me. ---
**Author:** ![Sauron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Sauron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sauron)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/92 "2018-05-07T16:29:33Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > This was never about who the actor is. That’s y’alls obsesion. I just wanted to know if this was common thing. Okay … can you point me to where you asked if this was a common thing? ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_Ace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/6bbea6/32.png) [@Johnny\_Ace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_Ace)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/93 "2018-05-07T17:12:24Z")
Moving on… ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/94 "2018-05-07T17:16:19Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > And I’m not going to tell you her name. Do you have a rational reason for this? Or just an emotional one? Like “I have a secret relationship that I’m not going to share with anyone else and you can’t make me.” ---
**Author:** ![Lamar\_Mundane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lamar\_Mundane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamar_Mundane)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/95 "2018-05-07T19:03:25Z")
She’s extremely private ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/96 "2018-05-07T19:40:44Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > She’s extremely private I give up… ETA: If she really is “extremely private”, and asked you not to reveal her name, then I admire your restraint… ETAx2: Unless you’re just assuming that, and she chose a career that lets her be in the public eye (like maybe being… a celebrity?) ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2018, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/97 "2018-05-07T21:47:52Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > I just wanted to know if this was common thing. You wanted to know if _what_ was a common thing? Forget the name, no one can make head or tails of what you are talking about. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2018, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355/98 "2018-05-08T00:43:20Z")
> [@Lamar\_Mundane](#): > > She’s extremely private After reading this thread, I cannot blame her. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-a-list-celebrity-sent-me-a-friend-request-on-facebook-this-weekend/813355.md?page=4)