# An appeal for Doper assistances \[update: Kaylasmom has passed\] **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 4, 2020, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468 "2020-02-04T04:58:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/21 "2020-02-06T16:27:08Z")
We went to the hospital yesterday, and were joined by one of her longtime girlfriends. At about 2:30 PM, we had a respiratory therapist come into the room and remove her breathing tube. I stood at her bedside for a while, holding her hand. At about 3:05 PM, a nurse came in and told us that her heart had stopped beating. After a few minutes of tears, we made arrangements to have her body looked after and picked up, Then went off to get some dinner. Kayla gathered some of her close college friends around her, while I went home and followed up with a few phone calls about how we’re going to manage to find a new home for Oliver. I’m happy to report that I was able to make arrangements for a highly respected rescue organization to come and pick him up on Monday morning (one of Kayla’s desires was that Oliver not leave the household before she returns to New York). I want to thank, from the bottom of my heart, all of the Dopers who have shown us such compassion and concern (to say nothing of the contributions that you have made to the gofundme campaign, which, in addition to covering the costs of Kayla’s emergency travel, have permitted us to successfully arrange for a small memorial service for Lorita). I know that this ordeal is not really over yet (if it can ever truly be over), but I also know that I will be continually returning to the Dope to help me get through it. So, on balance, I guess I can say that the 20 years I have invested in being a Doper have paid off handsomely. I love and treasure you all. ---
**Author:** ![tricoteuse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tricoteuse/32/4334_2.png) [@tricoteuse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tricoteuse)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 4:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/22 "2020-02-06T16:49:51Z")
May she rest in peace, and may you and Kayla find peace too. And I want to say that’s a great picture on the Gofundme page. 🙂 And it’s great that you’re donating her body to science. I hope her troubles help someone else find a cure or a traeatment down the road. ---
**Author:** ![Indyellen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/indyellen/32/4176_2.png) [@Indyellen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indyellen)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/23 "2020-02-06T16:55:36Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. What is remembered, lives. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/24 "2020-02-06T17:01:50Z")
> [@tricoteuse](#): > > May she rest in peace, and may you and Kayla find peace too. And I want to say that’s a great picture on the Gofundme page. 🙂 > > And it’s great that you’re donating her body to science. I hope her troubles help someone else find a cure or a traeatment down the road. So do I. But UCI Medical Center is a teaching hospital. Perhaps her remains will be used to model the techniques used in hip replacement or reconstructive joint surgery. Anyway, yeah, we do feel pretty good about that decision. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/25 "2020-02-06T17:48:17Z")
Oh my goodness… I’m so sorry. Oh dear. I wasn’t expecting that today. ☹ Hugs to you and family. \*(Copied from your other thread.) \* ---
**Author:** ![tricoteuse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tricoteuse/32/4334_2.png) [@tricoteuse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tricoteuse)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/26 "2020-02-06T18:46:07Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > So do I. But UCI Medical Center is a teaching hospital. Perhaps her remains will be used to model the techniques used in hip replacement or reconstructive joint surgery. > > Anyway, yeah, we do feel pretty good about that decision. Teaching is just as important. The best way to learn about the human body is to study one in person. ---
**Author:** ![nelliebly](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nelliebly/32/5422_2.png) [@nelliebly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nelliebly)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/27 "2020-02-06T19:02:35Z")
I’m so sorry. Your love for her was apparent through your posts. Hugs to you and your daughter. My mother left her body to science. Mom was a teacher, and she liked the idea that others could learn from her body once she no longer had use for it. My sister attended the service the teaching institution held the following summer for the families of those whose bodies were donated. She said it was really nice, and the med students spoke with gratitude. It led me to decide to leave my body to science as well. I’ll be thinking of you in the days ahead. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/28 "2020-02-06T19:37:59Z")
Sorry for your and Kayla’s loss. You’ve always seemed like a family that deeply cared for and looked after each other. I hope that continues for you. ---
**Author:** ![Ravenman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ravenman/32/2929_2.png) [@Ravenman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ravenman)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/29 "2020-02-06T20:23:05Z")
I’m so, so very sorry for your loss. I’m tearing up a little thinking about your family. I wish you strength and peace at this difficult time. ---
**Author:** ![beowulff](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beowulff/32/542_2.png) [@beowulff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/beowulff)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/30 "2020-02-06T20:23:14Z")
My condolences on your loss. ---
**Author:** ![gkster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gkster/32/14107_2.png) [@gkster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gkster)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/31 "2020-02-06T20:55:08Z")
I’m so sorry. May her memory be a gift to heal you. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/32 "2020-02-06T20:58:49Z")
Very sorry to hear of your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/33 "2020-02-06T21:11:32Z")
So sorry for you and Kayla. I wish you guys peace. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/34 "2020-02-06T21:30:41Z")
I’m so sorry to see this news, kaylasdad. Keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts, and I’m glad that I could help out. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/35 "2020-02-06T21:38:47Z")
My deepest condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/36 "2020-02-06T21:45:28Z")
My condolences to you and yours, **kaylasdad**. ---
**Author:** ![PastTense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pasttense/32/14550_2.png) [@PastTense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastTense)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/37 "2020-02-06T23:07:55Z")
Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/22080_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/38 "2020-02-06T23:13:25Z")
Hugs to you and Kayla! ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2020, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/39 "2020-02-06T23:52:42Z")
My deepest sympathy… Check your PM ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2020, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-appeal-for-doper-assistances-update-kaylasmom-has-passed/847468/40 "2020-02-07T00:06:02Z")
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