# An average person asks you out on a date. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 10, 2015, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034 "2015-12-10T02:55:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Your\_Great\_Darsh\_Face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ac8455/32.png) [@Your\_Great\_Darsh\_Face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Your_Great_Darsh_Face)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/21 "2015-12-10T06:31:59Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I’m married. Even if a time-displaced Ann-Margaret from whatever year CARNAL KNOWLEDGE asked me out on a date, making it clear that dinner and a movie was code for a blowjob and coitus, I’d say no. Do you like it when people fight _your_ hypotheticals? :dubious: Assuming singleness by the terms of the OP - sure, why not? I’m not that far off the median myself for looks, and as for IQ, if I’m feeling intellectual there’s always the library. We’ll either enjoy ourselves or we won’t, but I don’t know either way until we try. ---
**Author:** ![the\_diego](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/7bcc69/32.png) [@the\_diego](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/the_diego)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 6:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/22 "2015-12-10T06:35:56Z")
Voted #1. We have a saying “laman-tiyan,” which literally means “food for the stomach.” ---
**Author:** ![PastTense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pasttense/32/14550_2.png) [@PastTense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastTense)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/23 "2015-12-10T07:12:56Z")
Actually on a scale from 1 to 10 the average is 5.5. So a 5 is slightly under average. ---
**Author:** ![scabpicker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scabpicker/32/8268_2.png) [@scabpicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scabpicker)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 7:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/24 "2015-12-10T07:17:29Z")
Sure, I’ll accept the date. I’m pretty sure I’m getting by on personality, myself. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 7:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/25 "2015-12-10T07:31:02Z")
> [@PastTense](#): > > Actually on a scale from 1 to 10 the average is 5.5. So a 5 is slightly under average. So that’s a “yes, I’d accept”, in other words. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 7:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/26 "2015-12-10T07:33:22Z")
In the past I would say yes to whatever date. But I eventually couldn’t stomach it; too often I would need to reject the person at some point down the line, or they just message me too often (I don’t mean to sound heartless…I’ve been the person on the other end of this plenty of times too…). So nowadays I would usually make my excuses…if I’m not immediately attracted it’s not worth going down that road. That said, to guys who haven’t had that experience I think it’s necessary to go through it. ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/27 "2015-12-10T08:06:38Z")
Well, I’m married, so that’s a no. My husband hates it when I go out on dates. But realistically, if I was single? Also no. They have to have something that’s above average, and if not they can go find a completely average woman to ask out. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 10:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/28 "2015-12-10T10:30:45Z")
I said yes but in truth I wouldn’t count it as a date. I have told people who attempted to arrange dates for me that I only date women that I am having sex with but I’m willing to go out with just about anyone if it looks like it could be fun. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 10:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/29 "2015-12-10T10:36:37Z")
The Bestest Boyfriend was pretty average… ok, shoulder width wasn’t, but anyway, we got pretty close to getting married. There were a lot of frogs in the pond, yet the closest I ever got to a prince wasn’t exactly Mr Exceptional. So long as the plan proposed sounds ok and the guy is actually average (rather than in the “hell no” ranges), I’m game. ---
**Author:** ![TheSpeculationElucidation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@TheSpeculationElucidation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheSpeculationElucidation)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 10:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/30 "2015-12-10T10:59:06Z")
In real life I’m happily taken. But in this hypothetical situation, if I was single, and I thought they might be interesting, I’d probably say yes. I don’t think anyone really is ‘average’ - you just have to dig a little deeper and experience their personality to find the gems. Everyone has quirks. (woman) ---
**Author:** ![iljitsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/77aa72/32.png) [@iljitsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iljitsch)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 12:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/31 "2015-12-10T12:17:49Z")
Someone who thinks it’s a good idea to present IQ test results of 100 when asking people out…? Probably better say no. I think the IQ thing is the hardest to look past. I’d probably say yes to someone with average genetics but a sense of style I like (i.e., puts _some_ effort into it but keeps it natural), IQ (and age) reasonably similar to my own as far as I can tell and everything else average. ---
**Author:** ![Memnon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f1d935/32.png) [@Memnon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Memnon)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/32 "2015-12-10T12:22:49Z")
I’d say yes, but I’d have made my mind up for definite after the first date. ---
**Author:** ![SanVito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sanvito/32/2805_2.png) [@SanVito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SanVito)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 12:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/33 "2015-12-10T12:25:12Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > The hypothetical, of course, assumes singleness. And straightness, apparently. ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/34 "2015-12-10T12:36:04Z")
> [@Velocity](#): > > A complete average person asks you out on a date. > > On a 1 to 10, they’re a 5. Average looks, education, personality. IQ is 100. Nothing particularly remarkable, unusual or different. > > Men, how would you respond? > > Women, how would you respond? I’m a 2, so I’d be surprised if this happened. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 12:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/35 "2015-12-10T12:44:34Z")
> [@ITR\_champion](#): > > “I am already married, and thus will obviously not go on a date. The wedding ring on my finger should have tipped you off to this fact.” This. Otherwise . . . yes, I’d go out with him, being below average myself. And why is there no same-sex option in the poll? ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/36 "2015-12-10T13:57:16Z")
I said yes assuming she was paying for everything. If not, then probably still yes. ---
**Author:** ![eclectic\_wench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ac91a4/32.png) [@eclectic\_wench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eclectic_wench)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/37 "2015-12-10T14:02:43Z")
You’re not giving me any of the info I need to make that call. Is this guy sound, interesting, warm, funny? What is he interested in? What makes him light up? Basically, what kind of personality does he have? There’s no such thing as an ‘average’ personality - it’s not a scale or anything where you can find averages. And is there chemistry between us? I’ve had a spark with guys who were a 3 or 4 on the looks scale, and no spark with guys who were a 9 or a 10, so just telling me his looks are average tells me nothing about whether there’s chemistry there. ---
**Author:** ![MoonMoon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moonmoon/32/2959_2.png) [@MoonMoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoonMoon)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/38 "2015-12-10T14:32:07Z")
If his personality and intelligence is average there’s nothing there to attract me, so no, I would not go on a date. ---
**Author:** ![drewder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/57b2e6/32.png) [@drewder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewder)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/39 "2015-12-10T14:37:55Z")
So this woman is a 16? As in blackjack, not sure if you should hit it… 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 10, 2015, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034/40 "2015-12-10T14:54:24Z")
I assume they are also 5’4" and 160 pounds? With some college from a state university and probably making around $37k a year? Do they have slightly less than 2 arms and 2 legs? My answer is “no”. They do not meet my standards for physical attractiveness, intelligence, education and socioeconomic standing. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/an-average-person-asks-you-out-on-a-date/740034.md?page=3)