# Anal--Guys who Don't and Women who Won't **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 18, 2009, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399 "2009-07-18T01:39:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2009, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/81 "2009-07-21T22:47:13Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > You omitted the sentence about pleading and whining and begging every night for those years, didn’t you? 😃 I’m imagining his wedding ceremony went something like [this](http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp09112006.shtml). 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2009, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/82 "2009-07-21T22:54:36Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > I’m imagining his wedding ceremony went something like [this](http://www.somethingpositive.net/sp09112006.shtml). 😃 😃 Great use of webcomic. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Nars\_Glinley](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nars_glinley/32/8177_2.png) [@Nars\_Glinley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nars_Glinley)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2009, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/83 "2009-07-21T23:00:40Z")
> [@Mijin](#): > > So I assume that you don’t masturbate, give/receive oral or touch a woman’s breasts at all? > Since all of these may be using an organ for a sexual purpose that was not “intended” by nature. If shit came out of any them, yes I’d avoid them. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/84 "2009-07-22T00:01:38Z")
I don’t know if I like it. I’ve had good experiences and bad ones. ---
**Author:** ![Mijin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mijin/32/9369_2.png) [@Mijin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mijin)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/85 "2009-07-22T00:22:48Z")
> [@KRM](#): > > If shit came out of any them, yes I’d avoid them. Fine. I was simply taking exception to _The anus is an exit, not an entrance_ as this is an “argument” often used not just against anal sex but also against homosexuals\* And if it is an argument, it’s saying “anuses should be used for their natural function”. When in fact pretty much everything we do in the course of an ordinary day involves using our bodies for things beyond their natural function. - To be absolutely clear: **KRM** has not said anything anti-homo, I’m saying it’s a line that is often used in that context. ---
**Author:** ![Balthisar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/balthisar/32/2825_2.png) [@Balthisar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Balthisar)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/86 "2009-07-22T01:27:16Z")
> [@Mijin](#): > > I was simply taking exception to _The anus is an exit, not an entrance_ as this is an “argument” often used not just against anal sex but also against homosexuals\* > > - To be absolutely clear: **KRM** has not said anything anti-homo, I’m saying it’s a line that is often used in that context. Really? Even as evidenced in this thread, it seems that not even all homosexuals partake in it (which is really a surprise; I’d think you’d want to stick it somewhere). In the main spirit of the thread, there’s no appeal at all to this straight, married male. If I were in prison, though, and ended up having to stick it somewhere, I’d imagine it’d be a male’s bum, being the closest approximation that I could think of. Please note that I don’t have prison sex fantasies, but in being realistic I’d probably have to accept it, unless the protocol means that I’d have to receive, which probably would be a deal breaker. ---
**Author:** ![SSG\_Schwartz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@SSG\_Schwartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SSG_Schwartz)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/87 "2009-07-22T01:29:52Z")
There still is oral sex and manual stimulation. Just because you are in prison doesn’t mean you have to suddenly enjoy anal. Or you may get a cell mate that does not enjoy it either. SSG Schwartz ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 6:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/88 "2009-07-22T06:11:21Z")
Exit schmexit, I for one don’t feel that there is the same pleasure in anal sex that i get from vaginal sex. I’m willing to try agian, but it is never going to be one of my favorite things. ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 8:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/89 "2009-07-22T08:44:55Z")
> [@anya\_marie](#): > > but it is never going to be one of my favorite things. Cue “raindrops on roses…” ---
**Author:** ![Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e56c9b/32.png) [@Mirror\_Image\_egamI\_rorriM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mirror_Image_egamI_rorriM)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/90 "2009-07-22T15:53:04Z")
23, female, won’t. I will, however, stick a (lubed, covered) finger up my boyfriend’s ass. ---
**Author:** ![Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tastes_of_chocolate/32/3232_2.png) [@Tastes\_of\_Chocolate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tastes_of_Chocolate)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/91 "2009-07-22T20:06:59Z")
> [@mr.jp](#): > > Guy, mid-twenties. > > Have done it with several partners. It think it would be somewhat of a deal-breaker if the girl doesn’t want it, if she is not even willing to try. > > In my experience many girls have had one bad experience with it, but that doesn’t mean it can’t work for her, just that the guy was clueless. > > Never in a million years would I allow her to do it on me. I don’t get this. It’s a deal breaker is she isn’t interested, but you flat out won’t try? What are you afrad of? Is it the idea of pain, is it “real men don’t catch” or is it something else? I think this is a big part of why some women say “I’ll try it if he does”. No, being female doesn’t mean that any and all orifaces should automatically be open business, and no, being a straight male doesn’t mean that all forms of penetration are forbidden. ---
**Author:** ![Carl\_Corey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Carl\_Corey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carl_Corey)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/92 "2009-07-22T20:36:02Z")
Well, **there’s** an appropriate username/thread combo. ---
**Author:** ![Aghris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecccb3/32.png) [@Aghris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aghris)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/93 "2009-07-22T21:12:45Z")
Gay male, early 30s. Enjoy giving and occassionally receiving, if the guy isn’t too big. I really don’t enjoy the necessary preperations though. Nothing kills the mood and spontanuity as spending 30 minutes on the toilet. And since I’m without a boyfriend currently and only enjoy the occassional brief encouter, it rarely happens anymore. It will never be a deal breaker if I loved the guy enough though, but he should definitely be willing to try. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/94 "2009-07-22T21:20:41Z")
> [@Aghris](#): > > Gay male, early 30s. > > Enjoy giving and occassionally receiving, if the guy isn’t too big. I really don’t enjoy the necessary preperations though. **Nothing kills the mood and spontanuity as spending 30 minutes on the toilet**. And since I’m without a boyfriend currently and only enjoy the occassional brief encouter, it rarely happens anymore. > > It will never be a deal breaker if I loved the guy enough though, but he should definitely be willing to try. (bolding mine) Um, what does this involve, if I may be so bold? I assume it includes evacuation, but 30 minutes? ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/95 "2009-07-22T21:51:13Z")
> [@corkboard](#): > > (bolding mine) Um, what does this involve, if I may be so bold? I assume it includes evacuation, but 30 minutes? I’m assuming an enema. I’ve seen a “behind the scenes” of a porn film in Tristan Taromino’s “Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex” - the actress Chloe explained that she took two enemas before a scene - and refrained from eating for 12 hours beforehand. It’s the only way to deal safely with the demand for “ATM”. Make no mistake, these people are professionals. ---
**Author:** ![Mississippienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d2c977/32.png) [@Mississippienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mississippienne)\ **Post date:** [July 22, 2009, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/96 "2009-07-22T22:41:09Z")
Nope. Not interested. An ex-boyfriend suggested it (several times, in fact) and I informed him flatly that it was not gonna happen. Female, 24. ---
**Author:** ![joebuck20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/74df32/32.png) [@joebuck20](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joebuck20)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/97 "2009-07-23T00:56:30Z")
One thing I’ve always wondered about anal sex - what if the receiver has to, um…well, let’s face it, there’s no polite of way of saying this, so let me just put it out there. What if they really have to take a shit beforehand and are fully loaded, so to speak? Would the giver get shit all over his dick? ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/98 "2009-07-23T01:01:06Z")
> [@Altair33](#): > > It’s like they think the vagina is obsolete or something. The anus is the new vagina. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Tao_s_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/99 "2009-07-23T01:20:01Z")
I mentioned it to an ex once. Her reaction of utter shock put me off ever mentioning it again to her. ---
**Author:** ![Risha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/5fc32e/32.png) [@Risha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Risha)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2009, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399/100 "2009-07-23T01:23:07Z")
> [@joebuck20](#): > > One thing I’ve always wondered about anal sex - what if the receiver has to, um…well, let’s face it, there’s no polite of way of saying this, so let me just put it out there. What if they really have to take a shit beforehand and are fully loaded, so to speak? Would the giver get shit all over his dick? I’ve never actually tried it that way, but my understanding is yes, it would. That’s why enemas were mentioned above, though it’s certainly not something that everyone (or most people?) bothers with. That idea icks me out more than the possible alternative, actually. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-guys-who-dont-and-women-who-wont/503399.md?page=6)