# Anal Sex **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 30, 2009, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690 "2009-10-30T02:48:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![I\_Am\_The\_Lorax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e19adc/32.png) [@I\_Am\_The\_Lorax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Am_The_Lorax)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2009, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/21 "2009-10-30T17:38:13Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Gay male. I haven’t tried topping in about 40 years. Though I tried, I could never have an orgasm that way. And bottoming? I’ve done that exactly once, just out of curiosity. I found it to be very uncomfortable, and I couldn’t wait for the guy to finish. Don’t answer if this is too personal, but if you don’t top and you don’t bottom, what _do_ you do? Bi female here, and I’ve done it a few times. Didn’t hate it, but it didn’t leave me clamoring for more. The only time I ever ever want to is when I’m on the rag, drunk, and really horny. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2009, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/22 "2009-10-30T18:17:59Z")
> [@Zsofia](#): > > Is _that_ what it was about? “I’m _FINISHED_!” ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2009, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/23 "2009-10-30T19:46:48Z")
Straight male. Did it once (giving, not receiving) to a girl of 16 when I was 17. Awesome for me; she tolerated it. None of my other sexual partners have even considered allowing it, and Mrs. Homie used the words “cold day in Hell,” so it won’t be happening again. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![statsman1982](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e79b87/32.png) [@statsman1982](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/statsman1982)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2009, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/24 "2009-10-30T19:55:43Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > You have a better phrase, Mr Smartypants? No, it’s perfect! I should have put a smilie on that last post. I really thought it was funny:) ---
**Author:** ![Hypnagogic\_Jerk](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hypnagogic_jerk/32/4252_2.png) [@Hypnagogic\_Jerk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hypnagogic_Jerk)\ **Post date:** [October 30, 2009, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/25 "2009-10-30T22:21:47Z")
I could have done it with my first girlfriend (she enjoyed anal play), but even though I wanted to, I couldn’t keep up, so to speak. I guess I had some subconscious problem with it. I’d like to have an opportunity to try again in the future. I’m also curious to know what it feels like to receive it. It’s something I’d consider trying. ---
**Author:** ![Shig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Shig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shig)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/26 "2009-10-31T01:12:27Z")
I guess since I started this, I could chime in. I never had an interest in it really, and don’t like watching a nice vid that ends up in the butt (as a previous poster commented on too). I had a girlfriend who brought it up once and said she liked it sometimes. Honestly, the most enjoyable part was when she lubed me up real good in preparation! Didn’t feel bad, not by any means, but I like the holes that are naturally moist. Think we did it three or four times, I preferred vaginal while I satisfied her anal urge with a small toy. Her response was awesome. I really seriously thought for a long time that there was no way a owman could really truly enjoy anal and they just did it to please their partner. Boy was I surprised. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/27 "2009-10-31T01:37:26Z")
I know at least one girl who can _only_ have an orgasm while getting it anally. ---
**Author:** ![dukette71](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8edcca/32.png) [@dukette71](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dukette71)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/28 "2009-10-31T01:40:27Z")
female here. overall…not so good I was drunk. He seems to like the novelty of it, but it doesn’t feel good. The trick is to keep it from feeling bad. Also, there are problems the next day. It was not meant to be. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/29 "2009-10-31T01:41:43Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > I know at least one girl who can _only_ have an orgasm while getting it anally. Wow. Er, obviously not dukette71. ---
**Author:** ![11811](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/9d8465/32.png) [@11811](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/11811)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/30 "2009-10-31T02:07:39Z")
> [@statsman1982](#): > > I don’t think I’ve ever heard the phrase “assward side.” And I don’t know why I’m laughing so hard at it. Cap’n, she’s listing to assward. The shields won’t take any more! ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/31 "2009-10-31T02:09:45Z")
> [@carnivorousplant](#): > > Wow. > > Er, obviously not dukette71. I would guess not. ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/32 "2009-10-31T03:51:28Z")
> [@I\_Am\_The\_Lorax](#): > > Don’t answer if this is too personal, but if you don’t top and you don’t bottom, what _do_ you do? I don’t want to speak for **panache** , but I have a gay friend who told me he didn’t like anal sex, either topping or bottoming. I had the exact same question to which he replied “Blow jobs”. He really really likes BJs. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/33 "2009-10-31T08:22:18Z")
> [@I\_Am\_The\_Lorax](#): > > Don’t answer if this is too personal, but if you don’t top and you don’t bottom, what _do_ you do? We have built a well-equipped dungeon in the attic, so even after 22 years we never run out of things to do. Not that everything happens in the dungeon. And lots and lots of oral. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Xotan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/278dde/32.png) [@Xotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Xotan)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/34 "2009-10-31T23:28:25Z")
Gay male monogamous for 36 years. I am surprised that nobody ever mentioned the basic need to ensure there are no messes, i.e. colonic evacuation/cleansing (an enema), the use of a condom on the penis, and the wearing of latex gloves for finger penetration. Accidents can happen, and that would be unpleasant. The subject of anal penetration has been raised with me by several straight friends who admit they enjoy prostate massage, and their wives seem obliging. (I assume being gay I am supposed to be an expert.) My feeling: if you enjoy, and both partners are comfortable with it, then fine. Panache45: I am having slight difficulty with the concept of a dungeon in the attic. How delightfully perverse! 🙂 I would have thought a cellar. LOL ---
**Author:** ![Shig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Shig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shig)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2009, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/35 "2009-10-31T23:44:14Z")
> [@Xotan](#): > > Gay male monogamous for 36 years. I am surprised that nobody ever mentioned the basic need to ensure there are no messes, i.e. colonic evacuation/cleansing (an enema), the use of a condom on the penis, and the wearing of latex gloves for finger penetration. Nothing gets me hotter than lots of prep work and sanitary products! ---
**Author:** ![Nancarrow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c37758/32.png) [@Nancarrow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nancarrow)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2009, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/36 "2009-11-01T00:03:11Z")
> [@Shig](#): > > I really seriously thought for a long time that there was no way a owman could really truly enjoy anal and they just did it to please their partner. Boy was I surprised. Best typo evar. ETA: Xotan, I’m pretty sure panache’s partner is a man, or perhaps an owman, but not a bottle of wine. ---
**Author:** ![kidneyfailure](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9f8e36/32.png) [@kidneyfailure](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kidneyfailure)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2009, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/37 "2009-11-01T01:10:14Z")
Straight male. Married. Never had any anal experience and after my physical (including prostate exam) yesterday I’m pretty sure I don’t want any. ---
**Author:** ![Sateryn76](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a88e4f/32.png) [@Sateryn76](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sateryn76)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2009, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/38 "2009-11-01T03:21:06Z")
Straight female. Love anal play, but have only done it with my husband. He stimulates with his finger relatively often, and we go full on about 3-4 times a year. It feels really good to me, partly because it’s just so dirty, but also because there are wonderfully sensitive nerve ending hidden down there 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2009, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/39 "2009-11-01T04:01:26Z")
Straight male. Love anal as much as vaginal, which is to say a lot! ---
**Author:** ![Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/96bed5/32.png) [@Patty\_O\_Furniture](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patty_O_Furniture)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2009, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690/40 "2009-11-01T04:13:32Z")
Well I seem to be the first pile driver to answer. It’s pure ecstasy as long as everything is clean. Most of my partners are [power bottoms](http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?defid=1131015&term=power+bottom) who climax without the need for additional genital stimulation. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anal-sex/515690.md?page=3)