# Another brother in ICU..

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-brother-in-icu/162969>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [March 21, 2003, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-brother-in-icu/162969 "2003-03-21T02:27:03Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\
**Post date:** [March 23, 2003, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-brother-in-icu/162969/21 "2003-03-23T13:21:04Z")

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Oh, Shirley. Once again, I am at a loss for what to say. I will pray for your family.

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**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\
**Post date:** [March 23, 2003, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-brother-in-icu/162969/22 "2003-03-23T13:35:31Z")

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Shirley, may God be with you and your mother. Keep us posted.

{{{Shirley & Co}}}

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**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\
**Post date:** [March 23, 2003, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-brother-in-icu/162969/23 "2003-03-23T14:58:31Z")

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Oh, Shirley. I am so, so sorry. Not just for the latest news, but for the whole damn thing. You and your family have been through more than any family should be asked to endure.

Please talk to the attending MD about the DNR order. As far as I am aware, your brother (or your mother if he is unable) to specify what you want and don’t want–no vent, no PEG tubes and tube feeding, or whatever combination suits him. I have known people who have said yes to hydration, but no to feeding and antibiotics, yes to all those, but no to a vent, etc. He should have the right to have control over what little _can_ be controlled.

Peace and strength to you all.

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