# Another facebook unfriending **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 13, 2010, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058 "2010-10-13T23:15:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/21 "2010-10-14T07:14:16Z")
Facebook is the devil! Rabble rabble rabble! ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/22 "2010-10-14T07:46:07Z")
And it took our jobs! ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 7:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/23 "2010-10-14T07:53:37Z")
If the kid had made the post your hubby might have a kinda-sorta point as the exchange was pretty low class, but he started in on the kid because the kid merely “liked” the post which is more or less equivalent to “I find that exchange amusing” and not necessarily “I fully endorse cursing bitches”. A few points in this scenario - Your husband is behaving like an entitled child. First he lectures him on how inappropriate he thinks the “like” is, which really none of his business, then he petulantly demands he re-friend him when the kid does the sensible thing and de-friends someone publicly lecturing him and disapproving of his “like” selections. I would not do this (in a public space) to my _own_ kids if they posted a “like” I disapproved of, I would talk to them later, and yet your hubby thinks it appropriate to do it to a person who is not even related to him - in public - and is personally offended when he is defriended. What exactly did your dear husband expect? Cowed obeisance from someone he’s inappropriately lecturing just because they are a teenager? ---
**Author:** ![kbear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4491bb/32.png) [@kbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kbear)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/24 "2010-10-14T16:40:49Z")
My dad emailed my sister complaining about my 14 year old niece’s language on Facebook. My niece promptly booted all adults off her friends list. I don’t want kids on my Facebook and I don’t want to be on theirs. I monitor my own kids’ account but that’s it. There are parts of each others world we just don’t need to be a part of. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/25 "2010-10-14T19:43:51Z")
Here’s another point not in favor of your DH. In order for him to have seen John’s “like” of the post, he had to have been friends with the person who originally made the post. If there were multiple people who liked the post, your husband would have to have clicked a link (or maybe two) in order to determine that John liked the post. So your husband specifically chose not to chastise the actual person who wrote the “ghetto” comment and instead went actively searching for some way in which to blame John for it all. That seems fair. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/26 "2010-10-14T19:55:13Z")
> [@Autolycus](#): > > Facebook is the devil! Rabble rabble rabble! > [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > And it took our jobs! Are you two the same person, by chance? (Not an accusation of trolling! Just I get you two confused already and you post similiarly.) ---
**Author:** ![palacheck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a88e57/32.png) [@palacheck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/palacheck)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/27 "2010-10-14T20:22:44Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Are you two the same person, by chance? > > (Not an accusation of trolling! Just I get you two confused already and you post similiarly.) I never get them confused. They’re both kind-of-creepy younger guys, but that’s about all they have in common. I think. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/28 "2010-10-14T21:11:50Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > > [@Autolycus](#): > > > > Facebook is the devil! Rabble rabble rabble! > > > [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > > And it took our jobs! > > Are you two the same person, by chance? Goose over there’s my wingman. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/29 "2010-10-14T21:37:46Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > See, this is yet another reason why it’s insane for parents and kids to be all Facebooky together. When we used to have inappropriate discussions, we’d just have them when parents weren’t around. Now parents and kids are all socializing online together, and this kind of idiocy is bound to happen. Sigh. This is why you gotta put your family members and co-workers and especially your boss into friend groups, so they are your “friend” but cant’ see your updates, wall, or pictures. Basically, they can’t see anything. This is a good thing. I hide my 60 year old, recently divorced uncle’s updates, and he can’t see my political beliefs. Your husband is bizarre for parenting someone else’s kid in a public space. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/30 "2010-10-14T21:41:21Z")
> [@keturah](#): > > > [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > > Why is she on Facebook? > > Because she is 11 and alive? He may be asking since the minimum age for FB is 13. My 12 year old daughter is eagerly awaiting her 13th birthday. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2010, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/31 "2010-10-14T23:45:45Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > [@Anaamika](#): > > > > Are you two the same person, by chance? > > Goose over there’s my wingman. Oh no way… I was Goose last time and you saw how THAT ended up for me. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/32 "2010-10-15T01:23:20Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > \ > Goose over there’s my wingman. Whatever you say, Mav. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/33 "2010-10-15T01:24:21Z")
> [@lindsaybluth](#): > > > [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > > > See, this is yet another reason why it’s insane for parents and kids to be all Facebooky together. When we used to have inappropriate discussions, we’d just have them when parents weren’t around. Now parents and kids are all socializing online together, and this kind of idiocy is bound to happen. > > Sigh. This is why you gotta put your family members and co-workers and especially your boss into friend groups, so they are your “friend” but cant’ see your updates, wall, or pictures. Basically, they can’t see anything. This is a good thing. I hide my 60 year old, recently divorced uncle’s updates, and he can’t see my political beliefs.\ Well, I don’t gotta, cause I deleted my Facebook account. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/34 "2010-10-15T01:24:38Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > > [@keturah](#): > > > > Because she is 11 and alive? > > He may be asking since the minimum age for FB is 13. My 12 year old daughter is eagerly awaiting her 13th birthday. I must commend you for actually making her wait. Not even the uber-Christian parents at my church have been able to pull that off. And, of course, Facebook themselves don’t really care–it’s just a legal thing. As long as you say you are over 13, they are unlikely to get into any trouble. ---
**Author:** ![Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brown_eyed_girl/32/3574_2.png) [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brown_Eyed_Girl)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/35 "2010-10-15T01:36:38Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > > [@keturah](#): > > > > Because she is 11 and alive? > > He may be asking since the minimum age for FB is 13. My 12 year old daughter is eagerly awaiting her 13th birthday. Ah, well, as far as Facebook is concerned, she’s 13. _shrug_ ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/36 "2010-10-15T01:38:31Z")
> [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](#): > > > [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > > > He may be asking since the minimum age for FB is 13. My 12 year old daughter is eagerly awaiting her 13th birthday. > > Ah, well, as far as Facebook is concerned, she’s 13. _shrug_ Funny how things work out- as far as Facebook’s concerned I’m 13, too. Your daughter and I have something in common. ---
**Author:** ![Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brown_eyed_girl/32/3574_2.png) [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brown_Eyed_Girl)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/37 "2010-10-15T01:46:24Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](#): > > > > Ah, well, as far as Facebook is concerned, she’s 13. _shrug_ > > Funny how things work out- as far as Facebook’s concerned I’m 13, too. Your daughter and I have something in common. Hmmm…didn’t see you in her friend’s list. You’re obviously not in her class. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/38 "2010-10-15T01:53:37Z")
> [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](#): > > > [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > > Funny how things work out- as far as Facebook’s concerned I’m 13, too. Your daughter and I have something in common. > > Hmmm…didn’t see you in her friend’s list. You’re obviously not in her class. Why would I be? I’m a 40-year old with a fake Facebook account and I’m using it to talk to your [del]11[/del] 13-year old daughter. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/8c91f0/32.png) [@Bam\_Boo\_Gut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bam_Boo_Gut)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/39 "2010-10-15T02:18:06Z")
> [@Fried\_Dough\_Ho](#): > > Bravo, Tanaqui. Well said. Ditto. I just don’t understand why adults make things so difficult for teenagers. We all know how tough it is already having been through it - so why behave like a teenager yourself Mr. “Adult”? Also **AClockworkMelon** great point. As long as you teach your kids to break rules they’ll break yours too. ---
**Author:** ![Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brown_eyed_girl/32/3574_2.png) [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brown_Eyed_Girl)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/40 "2010-10-15T04:12:47Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](#): > > > > Hmmm…didn’t see you in her friend’s list. You’re obviously not in her class. > > Why would I be? I’m a 40-year old with a fake Facebook account and I’m using it to talk to your [del]11[/del] 13-year old daughter. :rolleyes: Kinda hard to do considering you’re not one of her friends and her profile is private. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058.md?page=3)