# Another facebook unfriending **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 13, 2010, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058 "2010-10-13T23:15:23Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 10:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/61 "2010-10-15T10:59:03Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > > [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > > > He may be asking since the minimum age for FB is 13. My 12 year old daughter is eagerly awaiting her 13th birthday. > > I must commend you for actually making her wait. Not even the uber-Christian parents at my church have been able to pull that off. > > And, of course, Facebook themselves don’t really care–it’s just a legal thing. As long as you say you are over 13, they are unlikely to get into any trouble. I think it’s good for kids to have something to look forward to that they get as a benefit of getting older and more responsible. She has enough other ways to be social with her friends that waiting and demonstrating her responsibility was a good thing for her. I’m not particularly concerned about the actions of theoretical other people who may or may not access her page- it’s just a good lesson in deferred gratification in a culture where material rewards can come pretty easy. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 12:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/62 "2010-10-15T12:11:45Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > > [@Enderw24](#): > > > > Here’s another point not in favor of your DH. > > > > In order for him to have seen John’s “like” of the post, he had to have been friends with the person who originally made the post. If there were multiple people who liked the post, your husband would have to have clicked a link (or maybe two) in order to determine that John liked the post. > > > > So your husband specifically chose not to chastise the actual person who wrote the “ghetto” comment and instead went actively searching for some way in which to blame John for it all. > > > > That seems fair. > > Not necessarily. It doesn’t have to be a comment someone made, sometimes you’ll see fan groups, or just oh, I don’t know, “statements” or quotes that people click “like” on. Not that it wasn’t a dick move on Jack’s part (BIG TIME). > I’m just pointing that out that it could just be some quote that a friend linked too and clicked like and then John did the same – it would show up on John’s feed – Jack wouldn’t have had to search for it. Even if the friend wasn’t the original one to have created the saying that everyone seems to like, he still would have had to have it on his profile and Jack still would have had to be friends with that person. So my original point still stands: Jack didn’t bother to chastise the actual person with the status update, just John. ---
**Author:** ![rayman5321](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85f322/32.png) [@rayman5321](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rayman5321)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 12:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/63 "2010-10-15T12:56:54Z")
People, please stop using abbreviations. I’m sure we all have access to [acronymfinder.com](http://acronymfinder.com) . It’s just a pain to keep referring to it. ---
**Author:** ![Enderw24](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ba9def/32.png) [@Enderw24](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enderw24)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/64 "2010-10-15T13:21:26Z")
> [@rayman5321](#): > > People, please stop using abbreviations. I’m sure we all have access to [acronymfinder.com](http://acronymfinder.com) . It’s just a pain to keep referring to it. OK ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/65 "2010-10-15T13:26:43Z")
LOL ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/66 "2010-10-15T13:51:17Z")
RIP: This thread ---
**Author:** ![Philster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/13edae/32.png) [@Philster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Philster)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/67 "2010-10-15T14:52:43Z")
> [@tanaqui](#): > > so let me get this straight… “john” is not your child, and yet your husband thinks it is appropriate to attempt to parent him in a public space? Facebook is not your house; your husband has no control over what john does in a public space when he is not your responsibility (e.g. You are taking care of him or something.) your husband was rude, and, if he actually told john that the post was “ghetto,” extremely inappropriate as well. I don’t blame john in the least for getting out of there. Also, you said john “liked” the post – you know that’s not the same as making a post, right? Did he actually post this message or not? > > Seems to me your husband has the right to do two things in this situation: De-friend john, so he doesn’t have to see his “ghetto” posts, and, if he decides that john is a terrible influence, force your children de-friend john as well. He doesn’t have any right to police what john does. > > Also, your husband really needs to grow up. This kind of facebook drama is for high schoolers, not adults. [Like]^ ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/68 "2010-10-15T15:47:18Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > LOL QFT ---
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 5:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/69 "2010-10-15T17:45:22Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](#): > > > > Ah, well, as far as Facebook is concerned, she’s 13. _shrug_ > > Funny how things work out- as far as Facebook’s concerned I’m 13, too. Your daughter and I have something in common. As far as Facebook’s concerned? Dude, we think you’re 13 here, too. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![tr0psn4j](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@tr0psn4j](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tr0psn4j)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/70 "2010-10-15T18:16:13Z")
> [@Snickers](#): > > > [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > > Funny how things work out- as far as Facebook’s concerned I’m 13, too. Your daughter and I have something in common. > > As far as Facebook’s concerned? Dude, we think you’re 13 here, too. > > 😃 Yep, it’s true. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/71 "2010-10-15T18:41:07Z")
I thought it was a law of the internet that everyone is a forty-year old sex offender? ---
**Author:** ![tr0psn4j](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@tr0psn4j](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tr0psn4j)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2010, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/72 "2010-10-15T19:15:35Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > I thought it was a law of the internet that everyone is a forty-year old sex offender? “There are no girls on the internet,” is the official wording I think. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2010, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/73 "2010-10-16T03:01:00Z")
> [@tr0psn4j](#): > > > [@Snickers](#): > > > > As far as Facebook’s concerned? Dude, we think you’re 13 here, too. > > > > 😃 > > Yep, it’s true. Given the PMs in my inbox I’d say that makes you both pedophiles! :mad: ---
**Author:** ![tr0psn4j](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/958977/32.png) [@tr0psn4j](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tr0psn4j)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2010, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/74 "2010-10-16T08:12:36Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > > [@tr0psn4j](#): > > > > Yep, it’s true. > > Given the PMs in my inbox I’d say that makes you both pedophiles! :mad: Look, I might have the glasses, the beard, the trenchcoat AND the van but I’m not a pedophile. I did buy a bag of candy though. You want some? 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Ca3799](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9f8e36/32.png) [@Ca3799](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ca3799)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2010, 11:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/75 "2010-10-16T11:34:43Z")
Well, the good news is that upon reflection, my husband recognized that this was a stupid mess and apologized to John and our kids for overreacting and being meddlesome. John accepted and everyone is on an even keel again. I appreciate everyone’s opinions. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2010, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/76 "2010-10-16T11:39:24Z")
> [@Ca3799](#): > > Well, the good news is that upon reflection, my husband recognized that this was a stupid mess and apologized to John and our kids for overreacting and being meddlesome. John accepted and everyone is on an even keel again. I appreciate everyone’s opinions. Your husband should show his goodwill by friending John again. ---
**Author:** ![Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brown_eyed_girl/32/3574_2.png) [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brown_Eyed_Girl)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2010, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/77 "2010-10-16T16:01:51Z")
> [@Ca3799](#): > > Well, the good news is that upon reflection, my husband recognized that this was a stupid mess and apologized to John and our kids for overreacting and being meddlesome. John accepted and everyone is on an even keel again. I appreciate everyone’s opinions. _claps_ ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2010, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/78 "2010-10-16T16:22:34Z")
That’s nice to hear. Good for your husband. That’s a show of character on his part. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2010, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/79 "2010-10-16T21:54:54Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > I suspect that “Jack” just didn’t like this kid to begin with and was looking for an excuse to jump his shit. > > To **Ca7399** , has your husband ever made any other comments or given you any indication to think he might harbor some racist feelings or prejudices? Is it possible he might not like the idea of his daughter hanging out with a black guy? I also suspect this is the core issue this whole mess revolves around. ---
**Author:** ![IaMoDiNaRy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/cc9497/32.png) [@IaMoDiNaRy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IaMoDiNaRy)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2010, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058/80 "2010-10-18T03:57:38Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > He may be asking since the minimum age for FB is 13. My 12 year old daughter is eagerly awaiting her 13th birthday. My friend’s daughter is 12. She’s had a facebook account for about a year now and so has ALL of her little 12 year old friends, male and female. They simply lie and enter a bogus birth year when they create the account, putting their age at 17 and 18. Since the new school year started, a couple of the girls have turned into bullies. They’ve been using facebook to carry the bullying and fighting even further. My friend doesn’t really know that much about the internet (she uses email, period) so she asked me to see what was going on. These boys and girls are 12 and the way they were posting on facebook, I would never have guessed it. He’s MY boyfriend, I’ve got to get a new girlfriend, You are so sexy in that pic!, I dumped him yesterday so now I’m dating Todd, Suzie’s a bitch, I’m gonna kick his ass , fuck u, he’s all mine … it went on and on. They’re only 12! I couldn’t believe it! When we were 12, that is NOT what we were talking about nor did we use that kind of language. My friend’s daughter seemed to be into the boys but it was a few of the other girls and boys that were posting the inappropriate language. Two specific girls were especially nasty. I was glad to report to my friend that her daughter was not involved in the bullying, kept her language clean but she had some very questionable friends. I advised my friend to delete her daughter’s account and make her wait until she was a little older. She agreed. Account deleted. FYI - When you use the delete account option in facebook, there is a two week “just in case you change your mind” waiting period before the account is actually deleted. If you log on to that account at any time during the two weeks, your delete option becomes null and void and then you have to go through the delete account option again, starting the two week waiting period over again. Found this out the hard way. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-facebook-unfriending/557058.md?page=5)