# Another make-out Q: Do guys really push down on girls' heads to coax a blow job? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 15, 2004, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277 "2004-07-15T16:40:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![stuyguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@stuyguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stuyguy)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/1 "2004-07-15T16:40:47Z")
I was so happy to see that my peck-kiss thread was such a hit that I decided to go for a sequel. I am new to Sex & the City. On the episode last night they showed Charlette and her boyfriend making out. Soon he began to nudge – mildly at first, then more assertively – her head toward his crotchzone. Obviously he wanted her to give him what every horny male craves, and some females loathe: a blowjob. She resisted by bobbing her head up whenever he tried to push her down. And thus was born a humorous plot point for that episode. Now, I understand the need to create funny, girl-friendly moments in chicky shows like this, but does this sort of thing happen in real life? Do guys – by which I mean 18+yo, sober males who can read and who have no felony convictions – really do that, push on your head in the middle of a make-out moment? I mean, I have (hopefully) subtle ways to telegraph my desires, but plunging the girl’s face to my zipper like I’m hopping a Johnny pump\* isn’t one of them. - obligatory native NYCer reference there. It means fire hydrant. ---
**Author:** ![UncleBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/d26b3c/32.png) [@UncleBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UncleBill)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/2 "2004-07-15T17:37:02Z")
I don’t, and haven’t, and would not suggest it for those guys wanting second dates. ---
**Author:** ![liirogue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dbc845/32.png) [@liirogue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/liirogue)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/3 "2004-07-15T18:21:19Z")
Yep they do. Though I haven’t every watched **Sex and the City** so I don’t know if it happens like the episode portrayed it. ---
**Author:** ![FordPrefect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e99b99/32.png) [@FordPrefect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FordPrefect)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/4 "2004-07-15T18:25:15Z")
Well, I didn’t do it when I dated, but now that Mrs. Prefect and I have been married, I will do push down on her head just for laughs. But in fairness, she does the same to me, so it is all good 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/5 "2004-07-15T18:38:57Z")
Not only do some of them push down, I’ve had my head _held_ down while I was struggling to get free. I think this usually happens during orgasm and the guy doesn’t realise he’s doing it. But it’s still scary as hell. I trained my husband early, and for awhile he wouldn’t even touch my head during a bj. ---
**Author:** ![My\_Darn\_Snake\_Legs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f14d63/32.png) [@My\_Darn\_Snake\_Legs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/My_Darn_Snake_Legs)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/6 "2004-07-15T18:55:40Z")
Hell no! Why in the world would I want to irritate someone whom I am trying to coax into putting tender body parts into other body parts with teeth? I will generally run my hands through her hair or encourage a certain rythem with gentle pressure, but no pushing… ---
**Author:** ![Flutterby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/6f9a4e/32.png) [@Flutterby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flutterby)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/7 "2004-07-15T18:59:26Z")
Uhm yep… Or they sit back in the midst of a make-out session, whip it out and kinda look at you. (No, they didn’t last very long as boyfriend after that) ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/8 "2004-07-15T19:11:03Z")
Yeah, some guys will do that, all right. And as **hillbilly queen** pointed out, some guys will _hold_ your head down. (Sometimes when they don’t even have the orgasm excuse.) It’s horribly off-putting, to say the least. And no, the old head-pushing trick generally does not work, unless the person in question was willing to go down on you in the first place. It will NOT put someone in the mood to give you a blowjob. ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/9 "2004-07-15T19:30:37Z")
> [@Flutterby](#): > > Uhm yep… > > Or they sit back in the midst of a make-out session, whip it out and kinda look at you. > > (No, they didn’t last very long as boyfriend after that) Or they whip it out and say “_nickname for penis_ needs a kiss”. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![liirogue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dbc845/32.png) [@liirogue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/liirogue)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/10 "2004-07-15T19:38:02Z")
Yep, nothing more romantic than being put in a headlock and begged to give “Mini-Me” some attention. ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/11 "2004-07-15T20:16:03Z")
> [@liirogue](#): > > Yep, nothing more romantic than being put in a headlock and begged to give “Mini-Me” some attention. Almost as romantic as “but I’m _horny_” What a turn on. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![luluBahrain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e5b9ba/32.png) [@luluBahrain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/luluBahrain)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/12 "2004-07-15T20:35:37Z")
Yes, they definitely do. Then if you acquiese (sp?) some of them like to use your ears or hair as some sort of steering wheel. Muy sexy… :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![groo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ecd19e/32.png) [@groo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/groo)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/13 "2004-07-15T20:47:12Z")
I, liberated male and unabashed Lifetime viewer, have done so on several occasions, usually with very happy results. However, in my case I start and stop with one slight nudge on the back of the head that gives the hint that, please, if you would be so kind, I would like a blowjob now. That having been said, it’s one of my least frequent MO’s. The more reliable way is to implicitly proffer an exchange of services, usually by demonstrating my willingness to hold up my end of the deal. The most enjoyable ones have been when I’m just going along, having fun, and, “Huh? where’d you …? okayfine” ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/14 "2004-07-15T21:04:17Z")
Yessiree Bob, they sure do. They also nudge your hand toward their nether regions when you’re laying on their chest. ---
**Author:** ![zephyrine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/35a633/32.png) [@zephyrine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zephyrine)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/15 "2004-07-15T21:15:25Z")
It happens. It’s not sexy. I’d rather he says: “Suck my dick” than push my head down, but the option most likely to have a satisfactory outcome (heh) is waiting for **me** to decide that’s what I want to do… ---
**Author:** ![Mercury](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e95f7d/32.png) [@Mercury](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mercury)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/16 "2004-07-15T21:59:54Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by **groo** > _I, liberated male and unabashed Lifetime viewer, have done so on several occasions, usually with very happy results. However, in my case I start and stop with one slight nudge on the back of the head that gives the hint that, please, if you would be so kind, I would like a blowjob now._ I cannot wrap my mind around this scenario…I’m making out with a guy, he nudges me on the back of the head, and I’m supposed to somehow know that this means he wants a blowjob? I would _never_ have put the two together. ---
**Author:** ![Musicat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/musicat/32/20189_2.png) [@Musicat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Musicat)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/17 "2004-07-15T22:11:13Z")
> [@Mercury](#): > > I cannot wrap my mind around this scenario…I’m making out with a guy, he nudges me on the back of the head, and I’m supposed to somehow know that this means he wants a blowjob? > > I would _never_ have put the two together. Listen carefully. Nudges the back of your head, caresses your neck, squeezes your boobs, whispers sweet nothings, takes out the garbage – no matter WHAT he does, he wants a blowjob! :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Elysian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c77e96/32.png) [@Elysian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elysian)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/18 "2004-07-15T22:12:44Z")
IMHO, that is pretty much the absolute WORST thing a guy can do during foreplay. I can handle pretty much anything but that. Nothing else is likely to make me quite as angry and turn me off quite as much. You want to talk dirty? Not my style, but okay. You want a spanking? Uh. Okay. You want me to dress up in high heels and let you do scary things to my feet? Hmmm. But pushing my head down is so not cool, it makes me seriously doubt even kissing the guy again. I’m not going to give any really personal details here (everything above was merely illustrative and has never happened to me), but pushing my head down with the added connotations of subservience/dominance and forcefulness makes me seriously wrathful. You may not necessarily _mean_ to suggest subservience when you push, but that’s what it can be taken as. At least have the decency to ask. Better yet, as another poster has pointed out, let the woman decide. Then you know she _really_ wants to. ---
**Author:** ![Elysian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c77e96/32.png) [@Elysian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elysian)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/19 "2004-07-15T22:15:22Z")
I am waiting for any female to claim that she likes it. So far, no one has. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/20 "2004-07-15T22:26:29Z")
I had a girlfriend who did this to me once. She had what one might delicately call a “hygiene-related odor challenge”. 'Nuff said. As far as I was concerned, my face wasn’t going anywhere _near_ what she wanted me to go near. However, she was having none of this. Suddenly, I find an elbow shoving down very hard on the back of my head when I was in a vulnerable position, and she was a hefty lass. I resisted, she persisted; I resisted, she persisted, and eventually I was broken down, and was suddenly face-to-face with her drooling, minging bliff. Holding my nose, I lapped away in a desultory manner, and after a polite amount of time, disengaged myself forthwith. Our relationship did not endure. Not a recommended course of action for any gender. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277.md?page=2)