# Another make-out Q: Do guys really push down on girls' heads to coax a blow job? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 15, 2004, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277 "2004-07-15T16:40:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Idlewild](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8491ac/32.png) [@Idlewild](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idlewild)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 10:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/21 "2004-07-15T22:37:41Z")
> [@Elysian](#): > > I am waiting for any female to claim that she likes it. So far, no one has. Well, I’m going to stick to a “that’s me” because I don’t really care to discuss my sex life in detail on here 😉 but yes, I like it, it’s a dominance/subservience thing. And not with random dating fellows; with the person who knows how our relationship works already on that front. ---
**Author:** ![MaddyStrut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/dbc845/32.png) [@MaddyStrut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaddyStrut)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/22 "2004-07-15T23:04:44Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > Yeah, some guys will do that, all right. And as **hillbilly queen** pointed out, some guys will _hold_ your head down. (Sometimes when they don’t even have the orgasm excuse.) It’s horribly off-putting, to say the least. > > And no, the old head-pushing trick generally does not work, unless the person in question was willing to go down on you in the first place. It will NOT put someone in the mood to give you a blowjob. Even if I **am** in the mood, nothing kills it quicker than trying to push me into it! Carressing my ears, playing with my hair, and affectionately holding my head are okay. Heck, I don’t really mind so much if a guy _gently_ puts his hands on the sides of my head to direct the pace a bit once I’m already doing the deed (especially with a new guy when I don’t yet know how he likes it). But anything that borders on force turns me off quicker than a big old fart while I’m down there! ---
**Author:** ![MaddyStrut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/dbc845/32.png) [@MaddyStrut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaddyStrut)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/23 "2004-07-15T23:07:08Z")
Errrr, I meant to say “While I’m down there, carressing my ears, playing with my hair, and affectionately holding my head are okay.” ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [July 15, 2004, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/24 "2004-07-15T23:54:49Z")
A gentle nudge would be okay, but nothing resembling a real push. I’d much, much rather a request. It’s not hard. I mean, if my boyfriend requests oral, sure I’ll be happy to oblige, at least for a few minutes. Damn TMJ. But if I’m pushed, physically or verbally, to do anything sexually I don’t want to do, forget it. ---
**Author:** ![Burrido](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3be4f8/32.png) [@Burrido](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Burrido)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/25 "2004-07-16T00:07:30Z")
Never done this. What I have done is back them up until they hit the edge of the bed and sit down while I am still standing. Yeah, I’m a sneaky bastard. ---
**Author:** ![Live\_Better\_Electrically](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/46a35a/32.png) [@Live\_Better\_Electrically](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Live_Better_Electrically)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/26 "2004-07-16T02:02:30Z")
Sometimes, when pushing down on the head doesn’t work, you also have to pry open the jaws with your fingers. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Carcosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b3f665/32.png) [@Carcosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carcosa)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/27 "2004-07-16T02:11:24Z")
> [@Live Better Electrically!](#): > > Sometimes, when pushing down on the head doesn’t work, you also have to pry open the jaws with your fingers. > > 😃 Helps if you handcuff them first. Technically, this qualifies as foreplay so she can’t accuse you of being insensitive later. ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/28 "2004-07-16T03:57:38Z")
> [@Live Better Electrically!](#): > > Sometimes, when pushing down on the head doesn’t work, you also have to pry open the jaws with your fingers. > > 😃 Erm, you _do_ realize that the muscles that close the jaws are a _lot_ more powerful than those that open them? “Oh God mother, blood! Blood!” DD ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/29 "2004-07-16T04:30:11Z")
One guy tried to do this to me. I’m not so good at getting hints, however. I blurted “Why do you keep pushing on my head?” Of course, as soon as the words were out of my mouth, I figured it out, and started laughing my ass off. No, that was not a very long-lasting romance. ---
**Author:** ![Albert\_Rose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@Albert\_Rose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Albert_Rose)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/30 "2004-07-16T05:00:41Z")
Never, never, never will I simply “push her head down.” That’s just rude. I’ll ask her to give me some oral lovin’, while I return the favor. I _love_ returning the favor. I’ll do it pre-emptively if possible. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/31 "2004-07-16T06:00:13Z")
Some gals do like it, some like being handcuffed while you hold their head down, but it’s ALWAYS a good idea to make sure she likes it before you do it … ---
**Author:** ![dnooman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@dnooman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dnooman)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 6:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/32 "2004-07-16T06:21:57Z")
> [@UncleBill](#): > > I don’t, and haven’t, and would not suggest it for those guys wanting second dates. and > [@musicat](#): > > Listen carefully. Nudges the back of your head, caresses your neck, squeezes your boobs, whispers sweet nothings, takes out the garbage – no matter WHAT he does, he wants a blowjob! They’re both right! I’d be betraying my gender if I mentioned the amount of control that fellatio afforded women, so I won’t. We could care less\*. \*I also hate this backward phrase. ---
**Author:** ![Enright3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/enright3/32/2897_2.png) [@Enright3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enright3)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 8:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/33 "2004-07-16T08:13:58Z")
[“Suck Me Beautiful”](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0163651/quotes) E3 ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 11:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/34 "2004-07-16T11:48:51Z")
I…I can’t begin to even imagine trying something like that. ---
**Author:** ![Bongmaster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Bongmaster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bongmaster)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/35 "2004-07-16T15:41:00Z")
A little armchair psychology here…I think guys do that kind of thing because they want the woman to get down there without any prompting. Men want the woman to want to do it without having to ask. But as the women folk have made so clear, the nudge is not appreciated. ---
**Author:** ![badmana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@badmana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badmana)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/36 "2004-07-16T16:08:12Z")
> [@Burrido](#): > > Never done this. What I have done is back them up until they hit the edge of the bed and sit down while I am still standing. Yeah, I’m a sneaky bastard. This is also my MO. I also reverse it. If we’re ripping off the clothing, I get on the bed first and lay down before she does. She then has to get over me and on the way, I usually get some oral lovin’ before the show begins. ---
**Author:** ![jellyblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/e480ec/32.png) [@jellyblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jellyblue)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/37 "2004-07-16T16:20:14Z")
When my best friend was in highschool, she and her date were very, very drunk, and parked. He whipped it out and started _very_ persistently trying to cram her head in his lap (like, date-rape persistent). She promptly threw up all over his d\*ck :eek: . BWAHAHAHHAHAAHAHA!!! ---
**Author:** ![aka\_10003](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@aka\_10003](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aka_10003)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/38 "2004-07-16T17:14:36Z")
OK – a slightly different take: I am a guy who likes guys, and in my days I often fooled around with men who were mostly into women. I clearly remember aggressive guys pushing my head down as a way of communicating their wishes, sometimes after going down on me first to establish the friendly nature of the event. So the push-head-down is an act performed by both assholes AND good guys. In short – guys who like to “make things happen”, will make things happen. ---
**Author:** ![Batsinma\_Belfry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ea5d25/32.png) [@Batsinma\_Belfry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Batsinma_Belfry)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/39 "2004-07-16T17:38:25Z")
Speaking of holding someones head down, remember that guy who accidently killed the girl who was giving him a bj in the pool? ---
**Author:** ![Phedre\_no\_Delaunay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/839c29/32.png) [@Phedre\_no\_Delaunay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Phedre_no_Delaunay)\ **Post date:** [July 16, 2004, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277/40 "2004-07-16T17:57:39Z")
> [@Elysian](#): > > I am waiting for any female to claim that she likes it. So far, no one has. Ok, I’ll admit it. I find it a turn on. However, if I’m already down there and I need to stop for a second to catch my breath, I NEED to stop for a second. Don’t go shoving it back in there! I have _almost_ no gag reflex at all, but sometimes I must take a very short break to relax my jaws or catch my breath, so deal with it. If you shove it in deep when I’m trying to breathe and not expecting it, you might get a lap full of vomit! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-make-out-q-do-guys-really-push-down-on-girls-heads-to-coax-a-blow-job/255277.md?page=3)