# Another miscarriage. (self pity thread) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 2, 2003, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285 "2003-02-02T10:39:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Anahita](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9a28c/32.png) [@Anahita](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anahita)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/21 "2003-02-02T18:21:53Z")
Such sad news, **Smashy**. I wish you all the strength in the world. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/22 "2003-02-02T18:29:19Z")
i’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![nashiitashii](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/7c8e57/32.png) [@nashiitashii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nashiitashii)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/23 "2003-02-02T18:35:27Z")
{{{{{{{{{{{ **Smashed Ice Cream** }}}}}}}}}}} I hope things turn out better for you, and in the meantime, I hope you find strength in yourself and in others to help you deal with the sadness of this news. ---
**Author:** ![xenothrope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/7ab992/32.png) [@xenothrope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xenothrope)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/24 "2003-02-02T18:37:04Z")
BIG HUGS! SIC, I know miscarages suck, but please dont give up or EVER think of yourself as a failure. Engage in some positive activities untill your hubby gets home, then as the saying goes ‘try try again’. Best wishes and good luck. -x out ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 6:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/25 "2003-02-02T18:41:07Z")
Oh my. I am so sorry to hear it. I’m thinking of you and your husband. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Alatariel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Alatariel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alatariel)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/26 "2003-02-02T18:50:19Z")
I’m so sorry, **SIC**. I hope that whatever might be causing this is resolved for you. Has the dr mentioned testing yet? From what I understand, 3 is the minimum before they check for other problems. If he’she hasn’t, you might want to suggest it. Best wishes. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/27 "2003-02-02T20:02:16Z")
Self-pity? **SIG** , don’t put yourself down. I am so sorry for your loss. Please see the doctor to find out why this keeps happening. If it helps, this is how I explained to my son (he was about five) why his aunt miscarried twins. “The babies looked around and decided it wasn’t the right time for them to be born. They went away and will come back later.” She now has two gorgeous little girls, about a year apart in age, but funny enough, almost the same height and weight. Seems she got her twins after all… ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/28 "2003-02-02T20:56:05Z")
_cry_ I’m so sorry. I had a miscarriage in the first 3 weeks once, and that was hard enough. At 9 weeks… you’re stronger than I am. I’d still be curled up behind the couch. ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/29 "2003-02-02T20:58:53Z")
i’m so sorry this happened to you & your husband… I’m not able to empathize, but I can certainly sympathize, & I’m sending you good vibes. Don’t give up trying! ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/30 "2003-02-02T21:06:15Z")
I just want to add my name to the list of Dopers who are here if you need us. ---
**Author:** ![Primaflora](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Primaflora](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Primaflora)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 10:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/31 "2003-02-02T22:50:13Z")
Bummer, SIC :(. I’ve had several m/c and they suck. Genetic counselling is probably not indicated or even feasible at this stage (if you want details why, my addy is in my profile). Have you been checked for infection? Have a thorough pap smear once all this is over. Take care and {{{{{{{hugs}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/32 "2003-02-02T23:27:23Z")
I’m really sorry to hear that, **Smashed**. I hope things pick up for you. Lauren ---
**Author:** ![Smashed\_Ice\_Cream](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Smashed\_Ice\_Cream](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smashed_Ice_Cream)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/33 "2003-02-02T23:29:11Z")
Wow, everyone, thanks again so much. I’m home from the D/c and going to sleep for a while now. I just wanted to come by and thank everyone again for your kind words and thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Anita\_Vacation](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Anita\_Vacation](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anita_Vacation)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2003, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/34 "2003-02-02T23:35:46Z")
Sleep well. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Revtim](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/revtim/32/1042_2.png) [@Revtim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revtim)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/35 "2003-02-03T00:04:20Z")
My thoughts are with you **SIC**. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Asbestos\_Mango](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/edb3f5/32.png) [@The\_Asbestos\_Mango](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Asbestos_Mango)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/36 "2003-02-03T00:13:52Z")
I just can’t imagine… **{{{{{Smashed Ice Cream}}}}}** ---
**Author:** ![amarinth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@amarinth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amarinth)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/37 "2003-02-03T00:27:17Z")
I’m so sorry. You’re in our thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Mame](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/858c86/32.png) [@Mame](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mame)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/38 "2003-02-03T01:20:28Z")
I am very sorry for your, and your husband’s, loss. It is a big-time, serious grief, not just self-pity. [This link](http://www.miscarriage.org.nz/index.html) may give you some ideas on how to deal constructively with your pain. ---
**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/39 "2003-02-03T01:39:20Z")
I’m so sorry, hon. My thoughts and prayers are with you. My Love, Cheri ---
**Author:** ![leechbabe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7cd45c/32.png) [@leechbabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/leechbabe)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2003, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285/40 "2003-02-03T01:51:37Z")
I’m so very sorry **SIC**. Hugs for you and your hubby. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-miscarriage-self-pity-thread/152285.md?page=3)