# Another Probing Male vs Female Poll **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 22, 2011, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747 "2011-05-22T03:46:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/1 "2011-05-22T03:46:01Z")
Take a look at all your spouse or SO particularly where you and your partner were in serious painful dispute or one of you hurt the other emotionally with the wrong choice of words. Ignore infidelities for the purpose of this poll. Who in your relationship is quickest to put the pain behind them, forgive and forget ? The man or the woman ? ---
**Author:** ![Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aji_de_gallina/32/260_2.png) [@Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aji_de_Gallina)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/2 "2011-05-22T03:54:50Z")
Me, the man, by far. I love my wife, but she simply can’t forget. ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/3 "2011-05-22T05:19:01Z")
Me for sure - the woman in the relationship. I get over stuff really fast, while my husband can dwell on things for what seems like ever. It sometimes causes a side argument because I get upset that he’s taking so long to get over something and sometimes say so. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/4 "2011-05-22T07:18:24Z")
The man, 100% of the time. (Only because we are both men.) ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 7:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/5 "2011-05-22T07:39:18Z")
And in your case, **panache** , the man of the house is always correct. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_Stimulus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/aeb1de/32.png) [@Digital\_Stimulus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_Stimulus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/6 "2011-05-22T11:36:08Z")
My wife is quicker to forgive than I am. Then again, it takes a lot more to perturb me, so it’s rare that I’m the one losing my cool. Averaged over long time spans, I’d guess it’s all about even. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/7 "2011-05-22T13:38:03Z")
In over ten years, I don’t think we’ve ever both been angry more than 4 hours after the incident, and there haven’t been many incidents, so it’s hard to answer the poll. I think he probably gets over stuff a little quicker than I do, but it’s a matter of minutes, not days. This is what a liberal arts education is good for: we rock at having a Long Boring Conversation and getting everything resolved. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/8 "2011-05-22T14:01:20Z")
We don’t really argue - we may have differences of opinion but the get discussed rationally, not angrily. You don’t have a choice for never argue. [We are both similar in temperment - long slow fuses. It takes a lot to actually get either of us pissed off, but once we are pissed it can get very nasty and violent. Understanding ourselves is probably why we have always just discussed things instead of arguing.] ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/9 "2011-05-22T14:04:19Z")
She may or may not forgive, but FSM be damned she can’t forget. ---
**Author:** ![surrounded\_by\_literalists](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8baadc/32.png) [@surrounded\_by\_literalists](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/surrounded_by_literalists)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2011, 11:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/10 "2011-05-22T23:52:34Z")
Hubby is the first to lash out, but also the first to forgive. I will forgive, but I will never forget. I won’t use it against him, but damned if he ever tries it again. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2011, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/11 "2011-05-23T00:01:42Z")
My _ex_-wife never forgave or forgot anything. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2011, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/12 "2011-05-23T00:12:21Z")
Wow, we’ve been together 12 years and I can’t remember a serious, painful dispute that required forgiveness. We rock! ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2011, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/13 "2011-05-23T00:16:01Z")
Based on the thread title, this could have been a thread on a _much_ more interesting topic. I’m a little disappointed. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2011, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-probing-male-vs-female-poll/582747/14 "2011-05-23T00:24:15Z")
Well, you can always start your own thread. 🙂 What I’m finding interesting so far and admitted the sample is small, but there does appear to be some perception bias assuming the results should be the same for female and male posters. Clearly though it appears I’m right in thinking women hold out a longer than men to their negative feelings.