# Another thing I do that the internet told me is a New York thing: You're welcome! **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 11, 2018, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967 "2018-12-11T22:33:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 1:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/21 "2018-12-12T13:00:35Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > I don’t hold doors open for the gratitude. I do it because it’s polite. I very rarely find myself holding a door open. I’m usually in a hurry, so I’m walking fast. I’m also likely reading texts or listening to a podcast. I’m through the door and onto bigger and better things without noticing if anyone is approaching behind me. Do you door-holders scan your wake as you go through a door? ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/22 "2018-12-12T13:08:31Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > I remember early one morning I found a wallet at Kroger. So I took it up to the customer service. They weren’t actually open yet but there was a woman working behind the counter. She sees me standing there but she’s just ignoring me. When I call out to her, she responds with: “Were not open yet”. I tell her: “I realize that, I just want to turn this wallet in”. She responds with a big obnoxious sigh, and then walks over and snatches the wallet from my hand with out saying a word. > > Me: “YOU’RE WELCOME!” > > That was the only time I’ve used that phrase outside of friends or family. And I don’t regret it either. Well, it wasn’t _her_ wallet so why should she thank you? I mean, _really_, you’re just adding to her duties for the day. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/23 "2018-12-12T13:54:18Z")
> [@DesertDog](#): > > Well, it wasn’t _her_ wallet so why should she thank you? I mean, _really_, you’re just adding to her duties for the day. LOL. I’m sure that’s the way she sees it. ---
**Author:** ![doreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@doreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doreen)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/24 "2018-12-12T14:03:10Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > I very rarely find myself holding a door open. I’m usually in a hurry, so I’m walking fast. I’m also likely reading texts or listening to a podcast. I’m through the door and onto bigger and better things without noticing if anyone is approaching behind me. > > Do you door-holders scan your wake as you go through a door? I don’t want to speak for anyone else, but I usually don’t hear either a sincere “Thank you” or a sarcastic " You’re welcome" when someone merely keeps the door from slamming in the face of someone who is directly behind them. The issue usually comes up in slightly different situations where the door holder ends up passing through the door \*after \*the other person or people 1. Person A is on one side of the door - let’s say outside the store. Person A pulls the door open and person B exits the store before Person A enters. There’s a variation of this where multiple people exit the store while A is holding the door unless A pushes his or her way through them. 2. Person A pulls the door open but person B ( who was behind A ) pushes past A to go through first. Same thing with multiple people sometimes happens. ---
**Author:** ![muldoonthief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muldoonthief/32/3188_2.png) [@muldoonthief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/muldoonthief)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/25 "2018-12-12T14:43:25Z")
I’m waiting for **Ambivalid** to show up in this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/26 "2018-12-12T14:45:27Z")
I live in the NYC area, and I do it. And I always say “Thank You” to anyone who does anything for me. Often extending to to “Thank you for the help.” Not saying Thank You is rude. People should be acknowledged. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/27 "2018-12-12T15:00:29Z")
> [@Annie-Xmas](#): > > I live in the NYC area, and I do it. And I always say “Thank You” to anyone who does anything for me. Often extending to to “Thank you for the help.” > > Not saying Thank You is rude. People should be acknowledged. Demanding acknowledgement in that way is also rude. ---
**Author:** ![Projammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/projammer/32/559_2.png) [@Projammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Projammer)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 4:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/28 "2018-12-12T16:13:19Z")
Living in the south I can’t remember the last time I would have had the opportunity to. Everyone is so bloody polite. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/29 "2018-12-12T17:34:08Z")
So far there are more people not from NY who do it than from NY who do. So not a NY thing at all but a snarky and a bit rude thing. That’s what I thought. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/30 "2018-12-12T17:40:44Z")
Too late for edit: Or, it could be there aren’t that many people from NY who took the poll. ---
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/31 "2018-12-12T20:25:16Z")
The first time I encountered this, it was said to me by a customer service woman in a train station in Amsterdam. So it certainly transitioned from Amsterdam to New Amsterdam intact. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 9:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/32 "2018-12-12T21:47:50Z")
I voted, “I Do it and I’m from NY” but I grew up in New Jersey and really don’t do it often, but have done it. Born in NYC. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/33 "2018-12-12T21:53:55Z")
> [@muldoonthief](#): > > I’m waiting for **Ambivalid** to show up in this thread. Ha! ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/34 "2018-12-12T21:56:59Z")
Don’t do it, and not from NY. Way to passive aggrieve for my tastes. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/35 "2018-12-12T22:02:01Z")
Don’t do it, not from NY. I agree that it’s surprisingly passive-aggressive for a New Yorker. Are you from upstate? 😉 Seriously, I think of NYC dwellers as being very direct. This kind of hinting around is the opposite of what I would expect. The question construction, OTOH, does ring true. What? You don’t say thank you?!? ---
**Author:** ![cmkeller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmkeller/32/118_2.png) [@cmkeller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmkeller)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/36 "2018-12-12T22:18:42Z")
Darren Garrison: > [@](#): > > Polynesian demigods do it. No they don’t, unless you have an example not from Moana. In the movie, she says the words “thank you” (though not actually thanking him) before he says “You’re welcome.” ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2018, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/37 "2018-12-12T23:26:45Z")
Nm ---
**Author:** ![Melbourne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5e925/32.png) [@Melbourne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melbourne)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/38 "2018-12-13T00:44:49Z")
Only to my kids. But understand that Melbourne is not a polite as NYC. We don’t normally say “Thank You” for anything. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/39 "2018-12-13T00:53:36Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > Demanding acknowledgement in that way is also rude. I concur. I would never do the “you’re welcome” thing described. The last time I recall someone doing this was when, I imagine, they thought they were holding the door for me. Only problem was that they were also standing right in the doorway. People are weird. On a related note, a friend of mine, originally from California, told me the other day how much she hates people in Omaha holding doors open for her. She can’t understand it. Everybody’s different. ---
**Author:** ![StusBlues](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@StusBlues](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StusBlues)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2018, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967/40 "2018-12-13T01:01:10Z")
> [@Melbourne](#): > > Only to my kids. > > But understand that Melbourne is not a polite as NYC. We don’t normally say “Thank You” for anything. At least you don’t call your kids bastards. I guess that would be a little self-defeating. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-thing-i-do-that-the-internet-told-me-is-a-new-york-thing-youre-welcome/825967.md?page=3)