# Another TMI thread for ladies only: oral **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 4, 2004, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636 "2004-06-04T15:29:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/1 "2004-06-04T15:29:42Z")
> **[Another TMI thread for men only: BJ's](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=259689)** > > Is there such a thing as a bad blow job? Discuss amongst yourselves. Is there such a thing as bad cunnilingus? Discuss amonst yourselves. ---
**Author:** ![belladonna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9fc29f/32.png) [@belladonna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/belladonna)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/2 "2004-06-04T15:33:50Z")
God yes. Fortunately, a \*really \* good session can make up for ten lousy ones. So keep at it boys! ---
**Author:** ![Tiggrkitty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tiggrkitty/32/17966_2.png) [@Tiggrkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tiggrkitty)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/3 "2004-06-04T15:37:28Z")
> [@belladonna](#): > > God yes. > > Fortunately, a \*really \* good session can make up for ten lousy ones. So keep at it boys! What she said! ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/4 "2004-06-04T15:42:57Z")
Gentlemen: if she’s about to have a screaming orgasm, that is a _really, really_ bad time to stop. By all that’s holy, **keep going**. I thank you – and every other woman on the planet thanks you. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/5 "2004-06-04T15:45:13Z")
Oh hell yes. A bad session of cunnilingus is like having a swarm of gnats around. ---
**Author:** ![JavaMaven1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/cab0a1/32.png) [@JavaMaven1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JavaMaven1)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/6 "2004-06-04T15:50:08Z")
> [@Lord Ashtar](#): > > Is there such a thing as bad cunnilingus? Yes, yes, yes, a thousand times, yes. For example: my ex-husband had a tendency to clamp his mouth on my clitoris and would suck HARD. It was painful, and horrible–and he turned me off from cunnilingus for a long, long time, even with other partners. ---
**Author:** ![ShadiRoxan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/59ef9b/32.png) [@ShadiRoxan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShadiRoxan)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/7 "2004-06-04T15:53:40Z")
Once had a boyfriend that was so bad that I refused to let anyone go down on me for a year after we broke up. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/8 "2004-06-04T16:06:43Z")
> [@ShadiRoxan](#): > > Once had a boyfriend that was so bad that I refused to let anyone go down on me for a year after we broke up. What, like letting a field lie fallow for a year? [smack] Ow! ---
**Author:** ![badmana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@badmana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/badmana)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/9 "2004-06-04T16:08:38Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > Gentlemen: if she’s about to have a screaming orgasm, that is a _really, really_ bad time to stop. By all that’s holy, **keep going**. > > I thank you – and every other woman on the planet thanks you. In my experience, it helps to reach the “screaming orgasm” point by purposely stopping every once in a while when I hear my GF starting to come. Sure, she might moan _what are you doing?!_ but I think the pay off is worth it. If you keep getting _close_ to the point over and over again then the end is just that much more enjoyable. YMMV of course. ---
**Author:** ![belladonna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9fc29f/32.png) [@belladonna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/belladonna)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/10 "2004-06-04T16:25:23Z")
That can definitely be true, **badmana** , but it requires a bit of skill on the part of the givee. I’ve had guys try to pull that, and instead of building up to a biggie, they pull away too late or too frequently and instead of a whammy I end up with a tiny little fizzling orgasm that barely registers and spoils me for the next 10 minutes at least. So if you’re unsure of your technique, letting the lady lead is still the most reliable way to proceed. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/11 "2004-06-04T16:36:35Z")
I always find it amusing when men are sure they know the best way to give a woman an orgasm and ‘what feels best’. ---
**Author:** ![GorillaMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/50afbb/32.png) [@GorillaMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GorillaMan)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/12 "2004-06-04T16:56:46Z")
> [@jarbabyj](#): > > I always find it amusing when men are sure they know the best way to give a woman an orgasm and ‘what feels best’. Maybe that’s because they’re talking about a specific partner, and have done exactly what Cosmo _et al_ advise which is find out what feels best by asking. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/13 "2004-06-04T17:02:17Z")
Yes, cosmo, who gave us the stupid Alphabet Trick. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/14 "2004-06-04T17:19:48Z")
> [@jarbabyj](#): > > Yes, cosmo, who gave us the stupid Alphabet Trick. I’ll bite (heh). What’s the Alphabet Trick? **badmana** – if you know how to the teasing make-'er-beg thing properly, god bless you – but guys, make sure you can read her reactions very, very well before you try that. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/15 "2004-06-04T18:10:25Z")
To ‘properly’ go down on a woman a man should settle in and write out the alphabet with his tongue. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/16 "2004-06-04T18:10:52Z")
> [@twickster](#): > > I’ll bite (heh). What’s the Alphabet Trick? You lick the letters of the alphabet. I tried it once and … well, there are better things, like not taking sex tips of that sort from a mag designed to be provocative and otherwise content-free. ---
**Author:** ![kung\_fu\_lola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f4b2a3/32.png) [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/17 "2004-06-04T18:15:53Z")
> [@jarbabyj](#): > > To ‘properly’ go down on a woman a man should settle in and write out the alphabet with his tongue. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Hey, that works on my wifey! Take back at least one of those rolleyes! Bad cunnilingus just makes me want to smack whoever is down there. Seriously, it fills me with irrational rage. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/18 "2004-06-04T18:16:34Z")
Does “Oh, God, please don’t stop” count as begging? And why do women call me “God” when that isn’t my name? ---
**Author:** ![Carnac\_the\_Magnificent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ccd318/32.png) [@Carnac\_the\_Magnificent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carnac_the_Magnificent)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/19 "2004-06-04T19:40:13Z")
> [@jarbabyj](#): > > To ‘properly’ go down on a woman a man should settle in and write out the alphabet with his tongue. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Maybe your guy was using the wrong font and point size. ---
**Author:** ![Jurph](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/50afbb/32.png) [@Jurph](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jurph)\ **Post date:** [June 4, 2004, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636/20 "2004-06-04T19:51:37Z")
> [@Carnac the Magnificent!](#): > > Maybe your guy was using the wrong font and point size. Venus Bold Extended? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/another-tmi-thread-for-ladies-only-oral/248636.md?page=2)