# Any doper women been in relationships with "feeders" who wanted to fatten them up? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 1, 2012, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018 "2012-01-01T04:59:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2012, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/1 "2012-01-01T04:59:09Z")
Re this article about a woman who was a feeder fetish model, but has now turned away from that lifestyle I was wondering if any of doper ladies had men who tried this with them in their personal relationships. Have any of you ever dated a “feeder”? [600-Pound Internet Star Shuts Down Website](http://www.foxnews.com/health/2011/12/30/600-pound-internet-star-shuts-down-website/?test=latestnews#ixzz1i81nY4aC) ---
**Author:** ![rogerbox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/76d3ee/32.png) [@rogerbox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rogerbox)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2012, 6:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/2 "2012-01-01T06:03:16Z")
My GF lost a bunch of weight since we first met. She is thin now, and I like them thick (though I think she is beautiful any weight). I am going to try to feed her rich foods so she can gain at least ten lbs, but I don’t consider myself a feeder. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2012, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/3 "2012-01-01T06:39:14Z")
As a fat chick (size 18/20), I’ve had a good number of guys hit on me who I am sure would have panned out to be feeders (just by the things they said when they hit on me). Personally, I’m not down to be somebody’s fetish . . . especially in such a downright unhealthy way. Funny enough, I just saw this chick as the #1 on TLC’s Strange Sex countdown. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2012, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/4 "2012-01-01T06:45:46Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > As a fat chick (size 18/20), I’ve had a good number of guys hit on me who I am sure would have panned out to be feeders (just by the things they said when they hit on me). Like what? “Hey, baby, you wanna supersize that for me?” ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2012, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/5 "2012-01-01T06:51:51Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Like what? “Hey, baby, you wanna supersize that for me?” Normal guys may comment on my …curvaciousness, but it’s in a very different way than the folks I think are feeders. Example: Normal guy: “You are a beautiful, thick girl. I mean, damn I would tear. that. UP!” Possible Feeder: “I love your round belly. . . the things I would do if I could just get my hands on it. . .” Cue heavy breathing, staring creepily at my stomach. Etc. Etc. ---
**Author:** ![FloatyGimpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/floatygimpy/32/7750_2.png) [@FloatyGimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FloatyGimpy)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2012, 7:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/6 "2012-01-01T07:13:38Z")
> [@rogerbox](#): > > My GF lost a bunch of weight since we first met. She is thin now, and I like them thick (though I think she is beautiful any weight). \*\* I am going to try to feed her rich foods so she can gain at least ten lbs\*\*, but I don’t consider myself a feeder. That is a sickening thing to do. She’s gone through all the work to lose weight and you’re going to “feed her rich foods”. Who are you to decide how much she should weigh? My **Ex** husband confessed to doing that to me. He was an asshole. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2012, 7:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/7 "2012-01-01T07:23:43Z")
Ha, yeah right. I can be a size 3 and gain 5 pounds and hear about it, and not in a positive way. And I’m talking about a southern black dude here, just for one fun example. I carry extra weight horribly though, so maybe men who like bigger women recognize that and keep away. ---
**Author:** ![Kaio](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/c68b51/32.png) [@Kaio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kaio)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2012, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/8 "2012-01-02T04:30:52Z")
> [@rogerbox](#): > > My GF lost a bunch of weight since we first met. She is thin now, and I like them thick (though I think she is beautiful any weight). I am going to try to feed her rich foods so she can gain at least ten lbs, but I don’t consider myself a feeder. If you’re planning to do this as described here, what a creepy, controlling, abusive thing to do. If you don’t have her explicit consent for this – as in, you’ve discussed this openly with her and she’s agreed to gain ten pounds – leave her the hell alone. The deceit alone is bad enough. It’s her body, not yours. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2012, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/9 "2012-01-03T20:44:50Z")
> [@rogerbox](#): > > My GF lost a bunch of weight since we first met. She is thin now, and I like them thick (though I think she is beautiful any weight). I am going to try to feed her rich foods so she can gain at least ten lbs, but I don’t consider myself a feeder. I’m so angry right now I could spit. How dare you? I mean REALLY! How DARE YOU? ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/10 "2012-01-04T02:04:47Z")
> [@rogerbox](#): > > My GF lost a bunch of weight since we first met. She is thin now, and I like them thick (though I think she is beautiful any weight). I am going to try to feed her rich foods so she can gain at least ten lbs, but I don’t consider myself a feeder. That’s a pretty dick move. As for the OP … never ran into a feeder and I’ve been a big girl my entire life. I’m pretty cool with other people’s kinks for the most part but this particular one is pretty fucked up. ---
**Author:** ![rogerbox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/76d3ee/32.png) [@rogerbox](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rogerbox)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/11 "2012-01-04T02:11:53Z")
I should’ve included better information so you guys would have a better picture/not burst a blood vessel. I am in a long distance relationship, and she lost weight after getting her tonsils removed. I’m flying to visit her in a couple of weeks for three weeks. We both like to eat out together at very nice restaurants (especially since it is long distance we have to make up for lost time), and during our 3-4 week long visits we both usually gain 10-20lbs ANYWAY and eat rich food ANYWAY. So I might have sounded like I am going to try to slip her fatty foods because I am a controlling dick, when in actuality that is just what happens when we have been apart and have money saved up and three weeks to spend together. If she was here we definitely both would not gain so much weight in such a short time. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2012, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/any-doper-women-been-in-relationships-with-feeders-who-wanted-to-fatten-them-up/608018/12 "2012-01-04T02:21:15Z")
'Nother fat chick with the luck (or maybe good sense) not to have come across a feeder. Now, my SO loves my curves (even my squishy belly and cellulitey butt and other parts I don’t like) and he doesn’t think I need to lose the weight I’d like to lose…but he’s supportive of my efforts to lose weight because that’s what I want. He’s requested that I “try” not to lose any fat from my boobs, though! 😃 It’s kind of nice, really. Takes the pressure off. If I lose weight, great! If not, I know he’s still really attracted to me.