# Anybody Who Hates Their Parents or Children? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 17, 2011, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756 "2011-04-17T21:29:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/f04885/32.png) [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qin_Shi_Huangdi)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/1 "2011-04-17T21:29:19Z")
Just as the title says. ---
**Author:** ![Snarky\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Snarky\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snarky_Kong)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/2 "2011-04-17T21:30:35Z")
Were you just grounded? ---
**Author:** ![Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/f04885/32.png) [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qin_Shi_Huangdi)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/3 "2011-04-17T21:34:12Z")
> [@Snarky\_Kong](#): > > Were you just grounded? No I do not hate my parents and I do not have children. Why do people always assume my posts are for topical reasons? ---
**Author:** ![manila](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e5b9ba/32.png) [@manila](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/manila)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/4 "2011-04-17T22:08:23Z")
> [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](#): > > No I do not hate my parents and I do not have children. Why do people always assume my posts are for topical reasons? Because basically, a lot of your questions are always in the form of sound bites with no background or environment to consider when trying to come up with an answer that may be suitable to your requirements. For example, do you mean the impetuous teenage immature angst that makes you hate the world for telling you to clean up your room? Or the life altering hate when you see a parent forever maltreating their partner, yourself or a sibling, or even themselves through self destructive behavior? You often ask questions like this with the addendum " the post says it all" Can’t blame adults for thinking that the post only says the half of it. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/5 "2011-04-17T22:14:11Z")
Oh, Jesus. Can we do one thread without making **Quin** ’s age an issue, please? To answer your question, no, I do not hate my parents but some people seem to think this means there’s something wrong with me. I did not speak to my bio father for 10 years but it was more about self-preservation than hate. He is back in my life and I love him, but there is no father-daughter bond there. I had a college roommate who despised her parents for being emotionally abusive and she was constantly angry, bitter and miserable - not just about her parents, but everything. My SIL hates her father for being emotionally abusive and emotionally distant and has not seen him in years, but I don’t see that carry over into the rest of her life the way it did with my roommate. ---
**Author:** ![Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/f04885/32.png) [@Qin\_Shi\_Huangdi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qin_Shi_Huangdi)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/6 "2011-04-17T22:18:45Z")
> [@manila](#): > > For example, do you mean the impetuous teenage immature angst that makes you hate the world for telling you to clean up your room? Or the life altering hate when you see a parent forever maltreating their partner, yourself or a sibling, or even themselves through self destructive behavior? > > You often ask questions like this with the addendum " the post says it all" > > Can’t blame adults for thinking that the post only says the half of it. Alright, sorry. I don’t mean just temporary anger or annoyance but long-term hatred (for whatever reason) at your parents or children ---
**Author:** ![MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c0e974/32.png) [@MPB\_in\_Salt\_Lake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MPB_in_Salt_Lake)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 10:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/7 "2011-04-17T22:23:10Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > Oh, Jesus. Can we do one thread without making **Quin** ’s age an issue, please? > . n/m ---
**Author:** ![diggerwam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/919ad9/32.png) [@diggerwam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/diggerwam)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/8 "2011-04-17T23:11:03Z")
I am certain my sisters hate my father (who has since passed). I honestly don’t think that hatred has done positive things to their lives. It’s just not healthy to carry that kind of baggage. I believe in the old saying that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. I forgave the the old man quite a long time ago and I feel I’m much happier because of it. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/9 "2011-04-17T23:48:36Z")
I’d answer, but I don’t see why. You don’t engage in conversation (Quin), you don’t come back and say anything else. It’s a message board. That means discussion. Anyway there’s plenty of threads around wherein I discuss my parents. ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2011, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/10 "2011-04-17T23:51:41Z")
Yes. The bastard swallowed me whole. Why we never killed him, and only imprisoned him, I’ll never know. ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/11 "2011-04-18T00:23:57Z")
> [@Hades](#): > > Yes. The bastard swallowed me whole. Why we never killed him, and only imprisoned him, I’ll never know. Tragic. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/12 "2011-04-18T07:10:27Z")
> [@Hades](#): > > Yes. The bastard swallowed me whole. Why we never killed him, and only imprisoned him, I’ll never know. Sorry to hear that uncle. Me and my father are thick as thieves. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/13 "2011-04-18T07:10:55Z")
You’re the big Christian witnesser, Qin – so haven’t you read Luke 14:36? > [@](#): > > If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother… ---
**Author:** ![Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heffalump_and_roo/32/7691_2.png) [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Heffalump_and_Roo)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 7:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/14 "2011-04-18T07:30:05Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > Luke 14:36? :dubious: Which version is this? ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 7:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/15 "2011-04-18T07:37:56Z")
Nope. I’m estranged from a brother, but I don’t hate him. Hate takes energy and time, energy and time I’d rather use elsewhere. ---
**Author:** ![Markxxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@Markxxx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Markxxx)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 10:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/16 "2011-04-18T10:32:38Z")
Not me I loved my parents. In fact the only thing I hated was there weren’t more hours in the day, so I could’ve worked just that much harder to make their lives, a little bit easier 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Snarky\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Snarky\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snarky_Kong)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 10:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/17 "2011-04-18T10:50:43Z")
> [@Heffalump\_and\_Roo](#): > > :dubious: > > Which version is this? It’s Luke 14:26. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/18 "2011-04-18T15:28:10Z")
Hate? No. _Dislike_? Yes. I don’t hate my father; in fact I love him, in the sense that his well-being is essential to my peace of mind. But I rarely like him, and often actively dislike him. Hate & love are not opposites. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/19 "2011-04-18T16:12:56Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Hate & love are not opposites. Been listening to Aslan again eh, **Skald**? The lowerarchy will be very displeased. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2011, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756/20 "2011-04-18T16:15:11Z")
> [@Autolycus](#): > > Been listening to Aslan again eh, **Skald**? The lowerarchy will be very displeased. I don’t have the Evil Hat on right now, as you may have gathered from the complete lack of being killed for your insolence. When did Aslan ever say anything about love & hate not being opposites, anyway? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anybody-who-hates-their-parents-or-children/578756.md?page=2)