That sounds about right.
There’s plenty of real, ugly racism in Australia, but there’s also a greater tendency to make light of racial and ethnic and cultural issues. There really are situations where people can say the sort of things you’re talking about and not mean anything by it except to make a good-humored observation about people’s differences.
Casual stereotyping of Jewish people is very common in Australia, and i think one of the reasons is that, while Australia has a small but thriving Jewish community, it does not have the sort of national presence or history that Jewish Americans do. I had a friend whose wife was notoriously tight with money, so he used to refer to her as Mrs. Goldstein, and no-one really thought anything of it.
Of course, i don’t claim to know how actual Australian Jews feel about this sort of thing; i’m sure some of them are as offended as an American Jew would be. One reason i don’t know is that i hardly know any Australian Jews; i met more Jews in my first few months in America than i met in my entire life in Australia.
Sometimes the different attitudes to “harmless” casual racism have trouble bridging the cultural barrier between Australia and the United States. Harry Connick, Jr., was recently a guest judge on a stupid Australian variety show, and one of the acts was four white guys in blackface. Connick was clearly quite upset, and the Aussies were just as clearly perplexed as to why he was upset. And these Aussies were not uneducated rednecks; they were, i think, all doctors. Many (not all) Americans tend to be more finely attuned to the historical significance, in their own culture, of things like blackface minstrelsy, and to understand why a bunch of white guys painting themselves black might be offensive. Australia, lacking the particular history, doesn’t always engender the same sensibilities.
I also know Australians who recognize that the word “nigger” is very offensive in the United States, but still don’t quite grasp the historical significance, and don’t quite understand exactly how beyond the pale it is.
But even moving beyond what might be interpreted as fairly innocuous things, there’s plenty of genuine, hateful racism in Australia. When i was in high school, in the 1980s, it was in a part of Sydney with a lot of Asian immigrants, especially from Vietnam. Like most of my friends, i used to refer to them as “slopeheads,” and complain that they should just go back where they came from and/or learn to speak English. Luckily, a bit of travel and some growing up allowed me to leave that shit behind, but it lingers in the culture. It just tends to shift from one group to another.
In the 19th century, and right up through WWII, Chinese in Australia were subject to much hostility. In the immediate post-WWII period, the immigrants most often targeted by racism were Mediterraneans, from places like Italy and Greece. Then, after the wars in Indochina and the subsequent increase in immigration from Vietnam, Cambodia, etc., south-east Asians became the racists’ punching bags. And, in the last decade, attention has begun to focus on people of Middle Eastern descent. A news organization in Australia recently fired one of its own cameraman for calling a news subject, in the course of filming him, a “fucking terrorist.”
Actually, in cases where you need a word to describe all of Australia’s indigenous people as a single group, there’s nothing wrong with Aborigine, or aboriginal Australian, or indigenous Australian. If you are referring to specific groups, there are more specific words for particular regions (Koori. Murri, etc.), and there are also even more specific words for particular tribes.
It’s certainly true that the “Abos”, as you say (and there are more offensive terms, too), have had it very tough, and i also agree that New Zealand has been far better on this score than Australia. Things have improved recently, and the apology a few years ago for the Stolen Generations was a good move, but plenty more needs to be done, and the attitude of many Australians is still quite hostile. I think, in part, that hostility sometimes develops from a guilty feeling; Australian know, for the most part, how badly the Aborigines have been treated, and it’s one area where it’s hard to fob the blame off onto someone else. Some react with concern; others get defensive.
It’s not simply a color thing, because black people from Africa, and African Americans tend to get treated pretty well.
I have a friend who works out in my gym. He’s an African American guy who was in the US Marines for over 20 years, from the late 1970s through the late 1990s. During that time, he made multiple trips to Australia, and all he can ever tell me about it is how great a time he had, and how he never sensed even the slightest racism during his time there. I’ve tried to point out to him that he is a somewhat unusual case, and that there is plenty of racism in Australia against other groups, but he just won’t hear it. He says he felt far more comfortable, as a black man, in Australia than he felt in the United States.