# Anything infuriate you beyond proportion? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 13, 2009, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657 "2009-10-13T15:10:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![pharris](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f1d935/32.png) [@pharris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pharris)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/181 "2009-10-16T04:20:20Z")
> [@MissTake](#): > > … People, in this day and age of CheckCards / DebitCards, still waiting for the cashier to ring everything up, _then_ pulling out the checkbook, digging around for a pen… Oh look! A coupon! Where am I at? What day is it? Amen, sistah! I also get steam coming out my ears when the able-bodied person in front of me just stands there tapping their foot while the poor cashier finishes bagging their groceries. HELP them, you lazy mo-fo! The one that will someday make my head explode is when someone calls my office for information that they KNOW they are going to want to write down (providing said information is the majority of my job) and then when I start to give them the information they say, “Wait a minute, let me find a pen.” The day someone invents the highly-coveted device that allows you to slap someone silly through the telephone is the day I can stop taking my high blood pressure medications. ---
**Author:** ![Terraplane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@Terraplane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Terraplane)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/182 "2009-10-16T04:40:46Z")
> [@MissTake](#): > > People, in this day and age of CheckCards / DebitCards, still waiting for the cashier to ring everything up, _then_ pulling out the checkbook, digging around for a pen… Oh look! A coupon! Where am I at? What day is it? My personal favorite is when they not only take their time writing the check, but also make a point to put the transaction in their ledger too. Put it in your wallet or purse and do it later. Grgrgrgraagh! ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/183 "2009-10-16T05:54:02Z")
OK, I’ve thought of another one. Definitely infuriating beyond proportion for me. When I go to the cash register and the charge is (let’s say) 8.17 and I hand the cashier a $10 and the change is handed back to me as a “receipt sandwich”: coins receipt bills Yeesh! I hate that! I have to confess I actually lose my temper and act like a jerk, it’s such a STUPID way to give someone their change. I slam down my grocery bags and my wallet, take what has been handed to me in BOTH hands, SLAM the coins down on the counter or belt, peel the receipt away and toss IT down, pick up wallet, insert bils, pick up coins, put in pocket, pick up wallet and groceries and glare. Clueless cashier looks back at me going Wha? PEOPLE. Wake the fuck up. That is totally not how you give someone their change. In fact, of all the way to do it wrong, that’s the wrongest. Here’s the classic right way: "Eight seventeen out of ten, eighteen, nineteen, twenty, twenty-five, fifty, seventy-five, nine, [has been returning coins FIRST, obviously, smallest change first], ten [bill ABOVE the change], thank you [hands receipt]. It all goes into the receiving hand. Coins end up in the hollow part of the palm of the hand. Bills lay above it where they are easily snagged by the fingers and separated from the coins, one-handed, for easy insertion into the wallet. Receipt on top easily separated from the rest for discarding or pocketing separately. (No one I know puts the receipts in with the bills). But OK that arose in the day when cash registers didn’t TELL the cashier what the change amt was. I have no problem with this alternative, more modern way: "Your change comes to one dollar and eighty four cents, here’s one [dollar goes first] and eighty four [coins] and here’s your receipt. Bill goes into palm, snagged between two fingers for easy independent handling; coins on top of bills is fine, receipt comes after and is snagged between different fingers. A quick tilt and the coins slide free and into the change pocket, the bills (trapped between index and middle finger perhaps) into wallet, and the receipt (perhaps between thumb and forefinger) kept separate for tossing out or dealing with separately. Its that “receipt sandwich” thing that just makes me nuts. There’s no way to deal with that mess one-handed. ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/184 "2009-10-16T05:58:12Z")
I think you win the thread. (the “beyond proportion”) part. ---
**Author:** ![Haunted](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/898d66/32.png) [@Haunted](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Haunted)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 12:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/185 "2009-10-16T12:29:58Z")
It bugs the crap out of me when somebody comes to my house without calling first. I work at home which means I am at home most of the time, so this happens a lot. Does anybody else think it’s rude to show up at someone’s door without making plans first? ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/186 "2009-10-16T12:59:08Z")
> [@Haunted](#): > > It bugs the crap out of me when somebody comes to my house without calling first. > > I work at home which means I am at home most of the time, so this happens a lot. Does anybody else think it’s rude to show up at someone’s door without making plans first? Depends entirely on the people involved and their relationship. I’ve had friends who _insisted_ it was fine to just drop by any time, and friends who were uncomfortable with that. It _is definitely rude_, though, to just drop by uninvited without knowing whether the person you’re visiting is comfortable with it, though. Unfortunately for me, “dropping by uninvited” is part of my job. I am a rental property manager, and I live in one of the properties I manage/own. Tenants are _always_ ‘dropping by’ with a concern, a question, a complaint (and sometimes, when I’m very lucky, money). I’ve put up a sign that asks them to please limit these visits to 9AM-7PM Monday through Friday, unless it’s an emergency. They usually don’t respect that, though. ☹ I have one tenant who will sometimes _call_ me at 6:30AM to ‘see if I’m up’. Uh, yeah, I’m up, because the freakin’ phone is ringing! Seriously, I’m up by 6:15 on school mornings anyway, but I _hate_ getting phone calls that early. Hmmmm. So there ya go, another item for the list: I disproportionately hate the phone ringing before 8AM or after 9PM, even if I am awake.:mad: ---
**Author:** ![The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Tao_s_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/187 "2009-10-16T13:08:31Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > OK, I’ve thought of another one. Definitely infuriating beyond proportion for me. > > When I go to the cash register and the charge is (let’s say) 8.17 and I hand the cashier a $10 and the change is handed back to me as a “receipt sandwich”: > > coins > receipt > bills > > Yeesh! I hate that! I have to confess I actually lose my temper and act like a jerk, it’s such a STUPID way to give someone their change. I slam down my grocery bags and my wallet, take what has been handed to me in BOTH hands, SLAM the coins down on the counter or belt, peel the receipt away and toss IT down, pick up wallet, insert bils, pick up coins, put in pocket, pick up wallet and groceries and glare. Clueless cashier looks back at me going Wha? > > PEOPLE. Wake the fuck up. That is totally not how you give someone their change. In fact, of all the way to do it wrong, that’s the wrongest. > > Here’s the classic right way: "Eight seventeen out of ten, eighteen, nineteen, twenty, twenty-five, fifty, seventy-five, nine, [has been returning coins FIRST, obviously, smallest change first], ten [bill ABOVE the change], thank you [hands receipt]. It all goes into the receiving hand. Coins end up in the hollow part of the palm of the hand. Bills lay above it where they are easily snagged by the fingers and separated from the coins, one-handed, for easy insertion into the wallet. Receipt on top easily separated from the rest for discarding or pocketing separately. (No one I know puts the receipts in with the bills). > > But OK that arose in the day when cash registers didn’t TELL the cashier what the change amt was. I have no problem with this alternative, more modern way: "Your change comes to one dollar and eighty four cents, here’s one [dollar goes first] and eighty four [coins] and here’s your receipt. Bill goes into palm, snagged between two fingers for easy independent handling; coins on top of bills is fine, receipt comes after and is snagged between different fingers. A quick tilt and the coins slide free and into the change pocket, the bills (trapped between index and middle finger perhaps) into wallet, and the receipt (perhaps between thumb and forefinger) kept separate for tossing out or dealing with separately. > > Its that “receipt sandwich” thing that just makes me nuts. There’s no way to deal with that mess one-handed. Why not grab your grocery bags after you’re handed the change? ---
**Author:** ![Kyla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/eada6e/32.png) [@Kyla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kyla)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/188 "2009-10-16T14:42:22Z")
> [@Koxinga](#): > > Or have reviewing bad movies in the Satellite of Love. > > Also, my mother told me if I didn’t behave she was gonna sell me to the Gypsies. When my cat was just a kitty, he disappeared for two weeks. I was devastated. My twelve-year-old neighbor told me that the gypsies ate him. Cause you know those gypsies! Ha! ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/189 "2009-10-16T14:45:23Z")
Bullying enrages me. Which is odd, because I used to be a bully. But I’m not now, and when I see someone using greater size, strength, and/or status to intimidate others, it never fails to piss me off. There’s probably a fair amount of guilt in that reaction, of course. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 2:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/190 "2009-10-16T14:59:32Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > Its that “receipt sandwich” thing that just makes me nuts. There’s no way to deal with that mess one-handed. I just close my fist like superman trying to make a diamond outa a lump of coal and shove the mess into my pocket and deal with it later. Not optimum, but beats stroking out or killing someone 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/191 "2009-10-16T15:16:59Z")
Speaking of movies, going to the movies, paying them $9.00+ for each ticket, paying $5.00 for popcorn and $4.00 for a drink, and then having to sit through COMMERCIALS infuriates me. And they’re stupid commercials too. ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/192 "2009-10-16T17:38:47Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Bullying enrages me. Which is odd, because I used to be a bully. I would have bet the rent money against that. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/193 "2009-10-16T18:01:50Z")
> [@Haunted](#): > > Does anybody else think it’s rude to show up at someone’s door without making plans first? The only people I know who would do that fall into two groups: 1. people with an urgency (like “hurry, Timmy, that door on the right! I’m really sorry to bother you, but he really needed to pee and all the bars are closed…”) 2. self-centered people who assume that since you’re there, you’re there for them. It’s one of the reasons I can’t live in the same town as my mother and brothers. She’d be “dropping by” at all hours, which is incompatible with me working from home or getting any work down around the house. My brothers, SiL, my friends, my mother’s friends… all call, even if it’s from downstairs saying “hey, I’m here and was wondering if it’s a good time for me to come in?” And if I say it’s a bad time, they say “ok” and we agree on when to meet, no harm, no foul. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/194 "2009-10-16T18:12:56Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > I just close my fist like superman trying to make a diamond outa a lump of coal and shove the mess into my pocket and deal with it later. > > Not optimum, but beats stroking out or killing someone 🙂 That’s what I do, except shove it into my pocket. But I ALWAYS make a point of thanking the cashier who gives me the money “correctly”. I always said, you get more flies than honey, though there are certainly days I want to behave like AHunter! The commercials in movies thing - I don’t mind previews, one bit. I don’t even mind that segment they have that airs TV Shows and other adverts. It’s when I have to watch an advert for some sort of product that I get all mad. People do not come to my house unannounced. On the very very few times they have tried I have simply not let them in. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/195 "2009-10-16T18:30:36Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > . > > People do not come to my house unannounced. On the very very few times they have tried I have simply not let them in. I know whose house I running to when the zombies attack cause they will never get in ! Wait, that won’t work :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/196 "2009-10-16T18:38:59Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > I know whose house I running to when the zombies attack cause they will never get in ! > > Wait, that won’t work :smack: If the zombies attack and you come banging on my door you’ll be lucky if you just get turned away and not, say, beaten to death with a crowbar! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/197 "2009-10-16T20:13:17Z")
> [@you\_with\_the\_face](#): > > I’ve mentioned this before and I’ll continue to mention it until legislation is passed to abolish this practice: > > When a stranger tells me to smile. > > I’m sorry, but do I know you? Who are _you_ to tell _me_ what to do with my face? If I feel like smiling, I smile. If I don’t, I don’t. See how this works? A person chooses their own facial expression. This is not a publically decided thing, like who wins on American Idol. For all you know, my mom could have died this morning from a fire that incidentally consumed all my worldly possessions. And you’re telling me to smile? Presumptuous is not even the word. What do you think I am, some clown whose sole purpose in life is to go around amusing you? Well, we’re all out of clowns here, bub. If it bothers you that I don’t look like Bobo the Fool with a perma-grin plastered on my face, how about you get to stepping to the nearest carnival. Lots of phony smiles going on there. Ditto. To the Nth. ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/198 "2009-10-16T20:56:48Z")
Agree with most of these, especially the bills, change, receipt thing! Mine: People who bring their dogs to the off-leash dog park but don’t want any other dog to touch their dog. Over the summer, the husband and I took our dogs to a fantastic off-leash park by the river (yes, it’s designated off-leash). People also launch the rafts from this location so there must have been about 35+ vehicles there, 50 or so people, and at least 20 dogs, including our two. Walking back to the truck, this SUV pulls up next to us and a family of four and their lovely golden retriever get out. The woman puts a leash on her dog and of course my male dog runs up to sniff. She said “Ugh, don’t let that dog touch you. I hate it when strange dogs try and sniff you” and had this look of utter disgust on her face (my dog was clean and dry, btw). Well. Let me tell you, I had to hold myself back from screaming “Get your fucking dog out of the dog park if you don’t want any other DOGS to get close to it. There are 20 dogs down there, what the fuck are you going to do then?” I stood at the passenger door for a good 30 seconds looking at her and debating with myself whether I should say something. I didn’t, and it still makes my blood boil just thinking about it now. ---
**Author:** ![ENugent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/4af34b/32.png) [@ENugent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ENugent)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/199 "2009-10-16T22:25:41Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > OK, I’ve thought of another one. Definitely infuriating beyond proportion for me. > > When I go to the cash register and the charge is (let’s say) 8.17 and I hand the cashier a $10 and the change is handed back to me as a “receipt sandwich”: > > coins > receipt > bills > > Yeesh! I hate that! I have to confess I actually lose my temper and act like a jerk, it’s such a STUPID way to give someone their change. I slam down my grocery bags and my wallet, take what has been handed to me in BOTH hands, SLAM the coins down on the counter or belt, peel the receipt away and toss IT down, pick up wallet, insert bils, pick up coins, put in pocket, pick up wallet and groceries and glare. Clueless cashier looks back at me going Wha? You would just love the drive-thru McD’s by my house. The cashier takes the coins, _folds the receipt around them in a little bundle_, then puts that on top of the bills and hands it to you. And of course you’re one-handed, because you’re using the other one to drive. I know she’s doing it so she doesn’t drop the coins on the asphalt. But it still irritates me no end. ---
**Author:** ![BlankSlate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blankslate/32/80_2.png) [@BlankSlate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlankSlate)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2009, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657/200 "2009-10-16T23:13:13Z")
Count me as another who gets disproportionately irate when tailgated. It’s just such a stupid act. It creates a dangerous situation where none should exist. I wish law-enforcement was geared to aggressively curtail dangerous driving (tailgating, weaving in and out of traffic etc.) more so than speeding and petty tag infractions. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657.md?page=9) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/anything-infuriate-you-beyond-proportion/513657.md?page=11)