# Apology to Acsenray **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 4, 2020, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206 "2020-12-04T15:22:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![yarblek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/71e660/32.png) [@yarblek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yarblek)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 3:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/1 "2020-12-04T15:22:45Z")
I’m in a very bad place right now and I have to do something about it. So the following is a sincere apology to @Acsenray for my hateful bullshit in the Great Debates thread on IP rights. I have been angry for quite a while and it completely unnecessarily spilled over into that thread. Anger and resentment are truly the most destructive emotions. But I don’t know how to make it better, other than saying I am truly sorry and will not engage it behavior like that in the future. Certain previous posts of mine show that I’m not exactly of sound mind anyway, in fact I’m quite disgusting, evil and stupid. But I will reflect on what I have done and become better, even if that seems like a fools errand considering my low intelligence. I don’t provide much value to this board (or in general lol) so I will try to limit my posting. Hopefully this doesn’t come off as too ‘woe is me’ and pathetic. Thank you for reading. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/2 "2020-12-04T15:26:07Z")
I’m worried about your statements of self-loathing. I have found counseling to be very helpful with certain things in my life. I encourage you to talk to someone who can help. Other than that, there was no need to engage in a public act of self-rendering here. Remember, we are all just people. ---
**Author:** ![Pleonast](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pleonast/32/1183_2.png) [@Pleonast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pleonast)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/3 "2020-12-04T15:27:54Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > Remember, we are all just people. Except for @discobot. ---
**Author:** ![discobot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/discobot/32/570_2.png) [@discobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/discobot)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/4 "2020-12-04T15:27:56Z")
Hi! To find out what I can do, say `@discobot display help`. ---
**Author:** ![Si\_Amigo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/si_amigo/32/2877_2.png) [@Si\_Amigo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Si_Amigo)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/5 "2020-12-04T15:28:46Z")
For what its worth many people are thrashing out now due to the Covid situation. Its not making anything better for people with mental health issues. You are not alone if that is any condolence. Just don’t hit the reply back button too soon. ---
**Author:** ![yarblek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/71e660/32.png) [@yarblek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yarblek)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/6 "2020-12-04T15:52:42Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > Other than that, there was no need to engage in a public act of self-rendering here. You are right. I now realize it would have been better to apologize in the actual thread or maybe vis PM. I’m not very smart. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/7 "2020-12-04T16:02:18Z")
I didn’t read the exchange in question (I tend to avoid GD), and frankly, I’m not sure who you are… but I’m sorry you’re hurting. I have a short temper and these lockdown conditions have stressed me out to the max. I guess it’s a good thing I live alone… Maybe there _was_ no need for you to issue a public apology, but it took some guts and self-awareness, so bravo you. 👏🏽 Doing it here was perfectly okay. Smarts has nuttin’ to do with it. I have also been afflicted with waves of self-loathing. I suspect it’s more common than people will admit, 'cause we’re all supposed to be cool and into _self-care_ and stuff like that. All this time and isolation have created fertile conditions for endless rumination and self-judgment. If possible, cut yourself some slack. Everybody here has pissed someone off at one time or another. Some people do it deliberately. Just reading your post I can tell that you’re not nearly as bad as the 20 or so people I had on my ignore list on the old board. Now _those_ were some people who were not self-aware enough to feel any self-loathing. 😁 Take it easy, my friend. This too shall pass… eventually. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/8 "2020-12-04T16:05:33Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > Take it easy, my friend. This too shall pass… eventually. But please do try to talk to someone. It can be very helpful. As ThelmaLou says, we’re all under a lot of stress. Everyone can use some help. ---
**Author:** ![yarblek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/71e660/32.png) [@yarblek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yarblek)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/9 "2020-12-04T16:18:32Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > Maybe there _was_ no need for you to issue a public apology, but it took some guts and self-awareness, so bravo you. 👏🏽 Doing it here was perfectly okay. Smarts has nuttin’ to do with it. Thank you. It did take bit. ---
**Author:** ![yarblek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/71e660/32.png) [@yarblek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yarblek)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/10 "2020-12-04T16:20:23Z")
I have an appointment with someone in January so don’t worry. Thank you. 😄 ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/11 "2020-12-04T16:32:26Z")
> [@yarblek](#): > > Anger and resentment are truly the most destructive emotions. Please don’t direct that anger and resentment toward yourself, either. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/12 "2020-12-04T18:29:15Z")
> [@yarblek](#): > > I have an appointment with someone in January so don’t worry. Thank you. 😄 That’s great news. We’re all suffering in a general sense. And I can tell you I’m suffering from a lot of things in a specific sense. So, hang in there. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/13 "2020-12-04T19:24:25Z")
Look, there have been a lot of people over the years who have posted hostile and hateful things for which they have _not_ apologized. So it’s refreshing when someone does. It’s reaching out with the intent to undo the damage done. Give yourself credit for that inclination. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/14 "2020-12-04T20:09:11Z")
Hi there! If you’re not used to introspection, or if it tends to lead you to down yourself, speak with your counselor about that right off the bat. I did counseling earlier this year for the first time, and it has been HUGELY helpful. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2020, 9:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/apology-to-acsenray/927206/15 "2020-12-04T21:35:45Z")
> [@yarblek](#): > > I’m quite disgusting, evil and stupid Definitely not modding. Insulting posters is not allowed here. I guess that includes self-insults. Try to be kinder to yourself.