# Appropriate music for sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [November 11, 2006, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050 "2006-11-11T22:17:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Yellow\_Rights](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Yellow\_Rights](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yellow_Rights)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 10:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/1 "2006-11-11T22:17:59Z")
Go on then, list your personal faves and ones that would create a nice mood. 😃 Also, try to resist saying Barry White lol. ---
**Author:** ![Argent\_Towers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e8c25b/32.png) [@Argent\_Towers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Argent_Towers)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 10:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/2 "2006-11-11T22:32:23Z")
I personally can’t play music during sex. Maybe I’ll never be able to explain this, but to me, there’s nothing romantic or magical about sex - it’s a primal, animal activity for me, not something that should be accompanied by music. I’m not saying that sex is a “lower” form of activity than music here - in fact, I’m sort of saying that it’s a purer, deeper kind of thing, and that I don’t find that the artificial construct of music goes well with it. Another thing is that when the song changes, the transition takes me out of the moment. YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/3 "2006-11-11T22:39:43Z")
Moved from IMHO to CS. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 10:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/4 "2006-11-11T22:45:20Z")
[QUOTE=Argent Towers] I personally can’t play music during sex.. [/QUOTE] I was expecting a “my hands are busy” kind of joke here. Imagine my disappointment. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/5 "2006-11-11T22:47:44Z")
Massive Attack. _Mezzanine_ in particular. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/6 "2006-11-11T23:01:13Z")
Bolero. ---
**Author:** ![mamboman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecb155/32.png) [@mamboman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mamboman)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/7 "2006-11-11T23:24:47Z")
Miles Dabis “Sketches of Spain”. Good for gettin’ you there, good for gettin’ you through and good for gettin’ you up again when needs be. mm ---
**Author:** ![Turek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/turek/32/18782_2.png) [@Turek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Turek)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/8 "2006-11-11T23:39:43Z")
Enigma’s _MCMXC A.D_ ---
**Author:** ![Beaucarnea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c0e974/32.png) [@Beaucarnea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beaucarnea)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2006, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/9 "2006-11-11T23:57:23Z")
Playlist for the rough stuff: Led Zeppelin In the Evening Velvet Revolver Slither Led Zeppelin Houses of the Holy Toadies Possum Kingdom Queens of the Stone Age Burn the Witch Live Lakini’s Juice Stabbing Westward So Wrong Queens of the Stone Age No One Knows Disturbed Prayer Lostprophets Shinobi vs Ninja Dragon Stone Temple Pilots Sex Type Thing Godsmack Bad Religion NIN Only H. Tool Mezzanine Massive Attack ---
**Author:** ![AskNott](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asknott/32/5790_2.png) [@AskNott](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AskNott)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/10 "2006-11-12T00:01:41Z")
Bonnie Raitt singing You Got To Know How. Maria Muldaur singing Squeeze Me. A lot of Foghat’s work was referred to as “crotch rock.” Slow Ride, for example. There’s a couple of very sensuous arias in Bizet’s Carmen, but I don’t know the exact names of them. If a woman ever sang those to me, I’d be helpless to resist; wouldn’t you? ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/11 "2006-11-12T00:05:53Z")
I’m with **Argent** on this one – it’s a purer, deeper experience that the artificial construct of music doesn’t go with. Either that or I’m hopeless at multitasking. When I’m at home, I can have the radio on as background music. But when it’s music I’ve chosen, I have to listen to it. And when I’m in the sack, I want all my attention focused on my partner. ---
**Author:** ![betenoir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/258eb7/32.png) [@betenoir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/betenoir)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/12 "2006-11-12T00:58:29Z")
I will tell the story I have told before…I brought a friend home late one night. We decided to take our friendship to another level. Were going at it about 5am, listening to alt rock on FMU (a college station in New York). Then in the the throes, it turned 6 and they went to… Klezmer music!!! It is impossible to have sex to klezmer music. We were both giggling too much. I guess this is the opposite of what the OP was asking for. But I don’t know what’s good, when it’s good I can’t hear anything. ---
**Author:** ![Ranchoth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranchoth/32/1066_2.png) [@Ranchoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranchoth)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/13 "2006-11-12T01:00:07Z")
[QUOTE=freckafree] I’m with **Argent** on this one – it’s a purer, deeper experience that the artificial construct of music doesn’t go with. [/QUOTE] How 'bout the [Sacer Du Printemps](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rite_of_Spring)? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![SmartAleq](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smartaleq/32/163_2.png) [@SmartAleq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAleq)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/14 "2006-11-12T01:25:20Z")
Definite thumbs up for Massive Attack, add Morphine to the list, and for some odd reason Pink Floyd’s _Dark Side of the Moon_ has always worked well… Soul Coughing, too–might seem like an unusual choice but I stand by it. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Beaucarnea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/c0e974/32.png) [@Beaucarnea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beaucarnea)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/15 "2006-11-12T01:35:47Z")
[QUOTE=SmartAleq] Definite thumbs up for Massive Attack, add Morphine to the list, and for some odd reason Pink Floyd’s _Dark Side of the Moon_ has always worked well… Soul Coughing, too–might seem like an unusual choice but I stand by it. 😉 [/QUOTE] Morphine and Soul Coughing on my list as well. Yea, alternative sex! (But if I hear any Primus in that mix, I’m out the door sheet-clad.) ---
**Author:** ![Beware\_of\_Doug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/278dde/32.png) [@Beware\_of\_Doug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beware_of_Doug)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/16 "2006-11-12T01:35:55Z")
[QUOTE=Argent Towers] I personally can’t play music during sex. Maybe I’ll never be able to explain this, but to me, there’s nothing romantic or magical about sex - it’s a primal, animal activity for me, not something that should be accompanied by music. I’m not saying that sex is a “lower” form of activity than music here - in fact, I’m sort of saying that it’s a purer, deeper kind of thing, and that I don’t find that the artificial construct of music goes well with it. [/QUOTE] Damn straight. It turns the act into a movie scene, made for profit and witnessed by a million eyeless brainless critics; and the two of you into archetypes, incapable of anything except the pushing of buttons and the reenactment of some set common fantasy. Note to self: Semioticians don’t get laid. ---
**Author:** ![freckafree](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/freckafree/32/3050_2.png) [@freckafree](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/freckafree)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/17 "2006-11-12T01:47:35Z")
[QUOTE=Ranchoth] How 'bout the [Sacer Du Printemps](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rite_of_Spring)? 😃 [/QUOTE] AAACK! For me, _Sacre du Printemps_ will forever be associated with Pina Bausch’s interpretation of it. Sex to that sound track? Never in a million years. ---
**Author:** ![Baldwin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/baldwin/32/7264_2.png) [@Baldwin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baldwin)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/18 "2006-11-12T02:00:07Z")
_Carmina Burana_. Gosh, that was a great Christmas. ---
**Author:** ![SiouxChief](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@SiouxChief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SiouxChief)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/19 "2006-11-12T02:03:21Z")
[The Divinyls](http://www.lyricsfreak.com/d/divinyls/i+touch+myself_20040955.html). Had to be said. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2006, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050/20 "2006-11-12T02:11:55Z")
Garbage 2.0 Yeah, it sets a mood… if that mood is f\*cking 🙂 Romantic, not so much. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-music-for-sex/380050.md?page=2)