# Appropriate to ask people to get vaccinated before spending lots of time with a newborn?

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [November 12, 2010, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-to-ask-people-to-get-vaccinated-before-spending-lots-of-time-with-a-newborn/560491 "2010-11-12T22:35:29Z")\
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**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\
**Post date:** [November 18, 2010, 9:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-to-ask-people-to-get-vaccinated-before-spending-lots-of-time-with-a-newborn/560491/61 "2010-11-18T09:34:28Z")

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> [@CandidGamera](#):
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> Who’s whining? If you want someone to do something, ask them to do it. DON’T whinge and wheedle and imply and intimate. People who can’t come out and actually say what they want are infuriating, and should be ignored until they grow a spine.

Two things:

1. There are a lot more people who get offended by being direct than there are people who find indirectness insulting.

2. By ignoring rather than addressing the problem, you are doing the exact same thing you hate. Heck, you’re being more passive aggressive than they are, since you are doing it out of spite.

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**Author:** ![CandidGamera](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/candidgamera/32/2878_2.png) [@CandidGamera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CandidGamera)\
**Post date:** [November 18, 2010, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/appropriate-to-ask-people-to-get-vaccinated-before-spending-lots-of-time-with-a-newborn/560491/62 "2010-11-18T14:39:49Z")

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> [@BigT](#):
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> Two things:
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> 1. There are a lot more people who get offended by being direct than there are people who find indirectness insulting.
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> 2. By ignoring rather than addressing the problem, you are doing the exact same thing you hate. Heck, you’re being more passive aggressive than they are, since you are doing it out of spite.

I don’t know where you’re getting #2. That’s not what I suggested. I suggested ignoring the spineless lump and their child, not ignoring the spineless lump’s instructions regarding the care of their child. And believe me, there wouldn’t be anything passive about it - I’d tell them why and ask them to call me when their spine grew in.

As for #1 - I don’t really give a rat’s ass.

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