# April R, we need to talk. Well no, I need to talk. To you. Because I'm fed up. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 31, 2015, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472 "2015-08-31T03:55:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/61 "2015-09-01T23:12:20Z")
I like to think of him reading these threads and quietly noting them for the divorce proceedings while he secures his assets as his lawyer has instructed. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/62 "2015-09-01T23:15:42Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > He is a useless cuckhold with a dubious taste in women. Now stop talking to us and go masturbate to the memory of a guy friend who likes the idea of a large mormon who wants to fuck him. > > Hell, your husband is so special maybe you should convince him to join in, you can all swan up to this losers place and have a very strange threesome. It will be awesome sex for you, and awesome drama to follow! Resorting to calling me fat. Hahahaha. You’re losing it. Your threesome idea though… ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/63 "2015-09-01T23:17:18Z")
> [@Penfeather](#): > > I like to think of him reading these threads and quietly noting them for the divorce proceedings while he secures his assets as his lawyer has instructed. You’re fantasies are more scandalous than my banal life. You should write a book. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/64 "2015-09-01T23:20:08Z")
> [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](#): > > What? I don’t think you understood what I wrote. I didn’t suggest you were lying. At least, not to us. Others in this thread have been suggesting I’m lying, to myself, to y’all, to my husband. You suggested I’m not making decisions of my own volition. I was stating that my motivations are pretty transparent, because I’m not a liar. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/65 "2015-09-01T23:31:27Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > He is a useless cuckhold with a dubious taste in women. Now stop talking to us and go masturbate to the memory of a guy friend who likes the idea of a large mormon who wants to fuck him. > > Hell, your husband is so special maybe you should convince him to join in, you can all swan up to this losers place and have a very strange threesome. It will be awesome sex for you, and awesome drama to follow! > [@April\_R](#): > > Resorting to calling me fat. > Hahahaha. > You’re losing it. > Your threesome idea though… Not a chance, **bucketybuck**. [Polyamory is for the unattractive](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=675925). ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/66 "2015-09-01T23:39:42Z")
> [@OneCentStamp](#): > > Not a chance, **bucketybuck**. [Polyamory is for the unattractive](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=675925). [Oh, the irony.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=15808341&postcount=12) At this stage I’m assuming that Mecute is the Greek goddess of falling objects about to hit the ground with a large messy splash. ---
**Author:** ![Penfeather](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/penfeather/32/384_2.png) [@Penfeather](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Penfeather)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/67 "2015-09-01T23:45:30Z")
[Christ, it gets worse.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=15810316&postcount=86) And the indignant cries of “But what about the _chil-dren_?” are pretty stomach-turning. ---
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/68 "2015-09-01T23:49:00Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > It didn’t feel right. I was doing for the wrong reasons. Reason being to appease a bunch of strangers on.a message board. No, reason being to bait a bunch of strangers on a message board. > [@April\_R](#): > > I hope y’all are enjoying yourselves. I’m finally at peace with the situation, so I find it extremely amusing how desperate some of you are to see it get dramatic again. It isn’t, so you can stop wringing your hands and holding your breath. Then I am wondering-why are you still here? ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2015, 11:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/69 "2015-09-01T23:58:39Z")
> [@Penfeather](#): > > [Christ, it gets worse.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=15810316&postcount=86) And the indignant cries of “But what about the _chil-dren_?” are pretty stomach-turning. :smack: Oh my goodness, you’re right. Yeesh: [QUOTE=AprilR] Faithfulness involves sexual and emotional intimacy. How can one be faithful if you are spreading all that around? It is a choice to have sex, not a need or something you can’t control, so even if you thought you loved someone else, you don’t need to do anything physical about it. Why get into a relationship at all in that case? Do you just like the warm fuzzies you get from being attracted to and attractive to someone, so you seek it out from multiple people? It’s just hard for me to not see that as selfish or short sighted. Long term committed relationships are not all warm and fuzzy, and love requires more than sex and feeling good all the time. Even if my husband falls short in some way or another in fulfilling some need I think I have, isn’t that more my fault for not trying to resolve that and looking inward without going to someone else? [/QUOTE] If the woman who wrote that had a time machine, 2015 AprilR would be sporting a fresh bitchslap right now. ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/70 "2015-09-02T00:02:02Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > My husband isn’t a pussy, nor is he trying to get rid of me. > That’s just stupid, if he wanted to get rid of me he could have done it already. And he isn’t a pussy, he just isn’t like other guys, at least according to you all. I guess it’s hard to understand a person who isn’t like everyone else. You didn’t answer the question about whether your mom chugged booze and took crack when she was pregnant with you. And, by definition, your husband’s a cuckold. You’re having another guy provide you what he should be doing. That’s what the word _means_. ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/71 "2015-09-02T00:03:03Z")
> [@Penfeather](#): > > I like to think of him reading these threads and quietly noting them for the divorce proceedings while he secures his assets as his lawyer has instructed. Or…possibly whacking off. ---
**Author:** ![Battle\_Pope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4bbf92/32.png) [@Battle\_Pope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Battle_Pope)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/72 "2015-09-02T00:05:27Z")
> [@April\_R](#): > > Not going to happen. > I know it’s fun to pile on an easy target. I hope y’all are enjoying yourselves. I’m finally at peace with the situation, so I find it extremely amusing how desperate some of you are to see it get dramatic again. It isn’t, so you can stop wringing your hands and holding your breath. Perhaps your husband is familiar with this [saying](https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/give_him_enough_rope_and_he%27ll_hang_himself) and is putting things in order. ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/73 "2015-09-02T00:06:49Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > You didn’t answer the question about whether your mom chugged booze and took crack when she was pregnant with you. > > And, by definition, your husband’s a cuckold. You’re having another guy provide you what he should be doing. That’s what the word _means_. I get the general idea that you must be a really really unhappy person ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/74 "2015-09-02T00:10:24Z")
What I liked about the poly thread was April’s profound and honest curiosity about lives different from her own. Or, she was a clueless and obnoxious twit throughout. I just can’t decide. ---
**Author:** ![Lobot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ce7236/32.png) [@Lobot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lobot)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/75 "2015-09-02T00:12:10Z")
The way I see it, cutting off all contact would destroy the fantasy/close off the possibility of having sex with this guy, even if it’s not acted on. That’s the real motivation for maintaining contact. It’s got nothing to do with sparing his feelings. **April** , just be honest with yourself at least. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/76 "2015-09-02T00:26:31Z")
> [@OneCentStamp](#): > > :smack: Oh my goodness, you’re right. Yeesh: > > If the woman who wrote that had a time machine, 2015 AprilR would be sporting a fresh bitchslap right now. But emotional infidelity is bs? The same person wrote both of those things? Ooookkkkkaaay then. ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/77 "2015-09-02T00:28:50Z")
> [@Robert163](#): > > I get the general idea that you must be a really really unhappy person That’s really the only arrow in your quiver, isn’t it Chuckles? I suspect it’s a way to deflect from having to come to grips with yourself being a dysfunctional racist moron. I assume this specific comment comes from me opposing your idea to commit ethnic cleansing against minority people who you see as inferior. If I am (and I’m not) an unhappy person, at least I’m not a _really_ stupid racist swine like you. [Link, for those who want to see Robbie’s plan for peace in the Middle East by way of ethnic cleansing and the most wacky bits of British colonialism](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=765942) ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 12:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/78 "2015-09-02T00:42:02Z")
> [@Fenris](#): > > That’s really the only arrow in your quiver, isn’t it Chuckles? > > I suspect it’s a way to deflect from having to come to grips with yourself being a dysfunctional racist moron. I assume this specific comment comes from me opposing your idea to commit ethnic cleansing against minority people who you see as inferior. > > If I am (and I’m not) an unhappy person, at least I’m not a _really_ stupid racist swine like you. > > [Link, for those who want to see Robbie’s plan for peace in the Middle East by way of ethnic cleansing and the most wacky bits of British colonialism](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=765942) I have no dog in this quarrel but I must say that that thread was one of the most mystifying pieces of stupidity I’ve ever come across here. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/79 "2015-09-02T01:22:31Z")
> [@OneCentStamp](#): > > Not a chance, **bucketybuck**. [Polyamory is for the unattractive](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=675925). That was so old. Get over it. I did. ---
**Author:** ![April\_R](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@April\_R](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/April_R)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2015, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472/80 "2015-09-02T01:31:04Z")
> [@raventhief](#): > > But emotional infidelity is bs? The same person wrote both of those things? > > Ooookkkkkaaay then. I’ve amended my stance. You’ve never done that??? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/april-r-we-need-to-talk-well-no-i-need-to-talk-to-you-because-im-fed-up/729472.md?page=5)