# Are foot massages only for SO's? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 11, 2017, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585 "2017-10-11T18:27:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![laurieb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/51bf81/32.png) [@laurieb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/laurieb)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/1 "2017-10-11T18:27:29Z")
I’ve always been of the opinion that a foot massage should be reserved for one’s SO. I feel like it’s a romantic thing, and personal as well. The only other person that has given me a foot rub other than my boyfriend was my sister’s ex. I was 12 and he was 20. It was awkward as hell, and maybe that’s why I hold that opinion. Other than a massuse, is there ever an appropriate time to get a foot rub from someone who is not your SO? ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/2 "2017-10-11T18:29:30Z")
I think of an SO as someone in a pretty serious relationship. I think people on a date without any strings attached could do foot massages. Not sure if you meant to include that as an ‘SO’ relationship. ---
**Author:** ![laurieb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/51bf81/32.png) [@laurieb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/laurieb)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/3 "2017-10-11T18:39:55Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > I think of an SO as someone in a pretty serious relationship. I think people on a date without any strings attached could do foot massages. Not sure if you meant to include that as an ‘SO’ relationship. I totally would include that as well. ---
**Author:** ![Gorsnak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gorsnak/32/7587_2.png) [@Gorsnak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorsnak)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/4 "2017-10-11T18:46:35Z")
I believe this debate has already been had: > [@](#): > > Jules: Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa… stop right there. Eatin’ a bitch out, and givin’ a bitch a foot massage ain’t even the same fuckin’ thing. > > Vincent: It’s not. It’s the same ballpark. > > Jules: Ain’t no fuckin’ ballpark neither. Now look, maybe your method of massage differs from mine, but, you know, touchin’ his wife’s feet, and stickin’ your tongue in her Holiest of Holies, ain’t the same fuckin’ ballpark, it ain’t the same league, it ain’t even the same fuckin’ sport. Look, foot massages don’t mean shit. > > Vincent: Have you ever given a foot massage? > > Jules: [scoffs] Don’t be tellin’ me about foot massages. I’m the foot fuckin’ master. > > Vincent: Given a lot of 'em? > > Jules: Shit yeah. I got my technique down and everything, I don’t be ticklin’ or nothin’. > > Vincent: Would you give a guy a foot massage? > > [Jules gives Vincent a long look, realizing he’s been set up] > > Jules: Fuck you. > > Vincent: You give them a lot? > > Jules: Fuck you. > > Vincent: You know, I’m getting kinda tired. I could use a foot massage myself. > > Jules: Man, you best back off, I’m gittin’ a little pissed here. ---
**Author:** ![laurieb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/51bf81/32.png) [@laurieb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/laurieb)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/5 "2017-10-11T18:57:59Z")
> [@Gorsnak](#): > > I believe this debate has already been had: Good ol’ Pulp Fiction. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/6 "2017-10-11T18:58:31Z")
I’m with Vincent on this issue. ---
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/7 "2017-10-11T19:02:34Z")
You didn’t even get to the part where Vincent explains WHY a foot massage is a big deal: > [@Vincent Vega](#): > > But you’re saying a foot massage don’t mean nothing, and I’m saying it does. Now, look, I’ve given a million ladies a million foot massages, and they all meant something. We act like they don’t, but they do, and that’s what’s so fucking cool about them. There’s a sensuous thing going on where you don’t talk about it… but you know it, she knows it, fucking Marsellus knew it, and Antoine should have fucking better known better. IT’s at that point Jules appears convinced. If I gave a foot massage to a woman other than my wife, my wife would be furious and offended, and she would absolutely be justified. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 7:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/8 "2017-10-11T19:33:17Z")
> [@Gorsnak](#): > > I believe this debate has already been had: Damn you! You beat me to it!! ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/9 "2017-10-11T19:35:17Z")
If only Harvey Weinstein was a Doper, we could get the definitive opinion on this pressing issue. ---
**Author:** ![laurieb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/51bf81/32.png) [@laurieb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/laurieb)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/10 "2017-10-11T19:41:04Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > If only Harvey Weinstein was a Doper, we could get the definitive opinion on this pressing issue. Please don’t even bring that royal asshat’s name up here. ---
**Author:** ![BobBitchin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7ea924/32.png) [@BobBitchin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobBitchin)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/11 "2017-10-11T20:09:01Z")
I think a foot massage is like dancing. Sometimes it means “let’s fuck” and sometimes it doesn’t. Some spouses/partners think it’s a problem, others don’t. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/12 "2017-10-11T20:09:06Z")
? I guess I am the odd person out here, a foot massage is just a foot massage. Now if it were a naked whole body massage, that is different [though I have gotten naked whole body massages from a friend, he was in school for massage therapy at the time and my husband was there the whole time, and he got his whole body massage from Max as well.] Now shrimping as part of the foot massage takes it to the sexual level. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/13 "2017-10-11T20:20:33Z")
> [@RickJay](#): > > If I gave a foot massage to a woman other than my wife, my wife would be furious and offended, and she would absolutely be justified. Yeah, but would she throw you off a balcony, through a greenhouse, and give you a speech impediment? ---
**Author:** ![Llama\_Llogophile](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@Llama\_Llogophile](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Llama_Llogophile)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/14 "2017-10-11T20:59:19Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Yeah, but would she throw you off a balcony, through a greenhouse, and give you a speech impediment? Well, it seems excessive, but that doesn’t mean it couldn’t happen. ---
**Author:** ![Flyer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/flyer/32/7298_2.png) [@Flyer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flyer)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/15 "2017-10-11T21:07:39Z")
I’ve given foot rubs to my cousin. I don’t understand what the big deal is. If a relative or close friend has tired feet, and you **don’t** offer to give the person in question a foot rub, I think that you’re inconsiderate. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/16 "2017-10-11T22:41:21Z")
I like me some foot rubbing! ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/17 "2017-10-11T22:47:08Z")
I’ve studied therapeutic massage, as has my wife. We’ve given foot massages to friends, of both genders. No big deal. But then again, I stick knives into people on a regular basis, and my wife doesn’t mind that. So we’re not your average couple. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2017, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/18 "2017-10-12T02:05:35Z")
Nah. I’ve been invited to weddings just for my ability and willingness to massage feet at the reception and the wife is fine with the concept. When you have a skill, use it. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2017, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/19 "2017-10-12T02:20:11Z")
You know what? My ex asked me to rub her feet occasionally, and I hated it. It felt demeaning to me. Feet are kinda rough, and ugly, and smelly. Maybe that’s why she’s my ex. What a horrible thing to be asked to do. Feet suck. The end. ---
**Author:** ![Driver8](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b5a626/32.png) [@Driver8](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Driver8)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2017, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585/20 "2017-10-12T02:36:06Z")
My dentist’s office keeps offering them, so I hope this thesis is wrong. I haven’t taken them up on it, because I’d feel a little weird about it. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-foot-massages-only-for-sos/798585.md?page=2)