# Are funny women attractive? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 2, 2006, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027 "2006-08-02T15:35:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2006, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027/81 "2006-10-13T14:36:32Z")
As one of life’s naturally ugly people, I rely on my sense of humour to get me through the day. Of course it doesn’t help that my sense of humour is quite dry and sarcastic…I guess I’m doomed then, aren’t I? ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2006, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027/82 "2006-10-13T14:37:13Z")
[QUOTE=Baffle] Yes, but women who find me funny are more attractive. [/QUOTE] Heh. Women who find me attractive are usually funny. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![Brandon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f08c70/32.png) [@Brandon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brandon)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2006, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027/83 "2006-10-13T15:20:36Z")
[QUOTE=fetus] That said, don’t do Klonopin, kids. Do I have stories or do I have stories… [/QUOTE] _Slight Hijack_: Upon Googling Klonopin I see it is a brand of Clonazepam. What are these stories you speak of, and why are they negative? _On Topic_: Absolutely. A girl that is funny is attractive, but as others have stated the type (and timing) of the humor employed is critical. I find the psychological link provided upthread by \*\*amarinth \*\* that summarizes the study fascinating, and in my own anecdotal observations the findings are rather spot on. A girl laughing is very attractive, and that may be what some men are thinking of when they say they want a sense of humor. It’s hard to tell over a message board if the sense of humor you have is one that I, personally, would find attractive. The best I can offer you is if that is your true sense of humor, remain steadfast in your utilization of it. Better to find out early if it is compatible with the chap you are interested in. However, there is something to be said for toning your “self” down at times. **Baldwin** has a very good point about knowing when to turn it off. Some have said that I am funny offline (there’s no accounting for taste), but I have had trouble in the past turning it off. This has gotten me into trouble a few times, and I believe I have developed it to keep some relationships distant. In fact in some of my younger relationships I probably was more interested in an audience than a genuine relationship, and that never ended well. Just keep in mind that you need to show your humor, but you don’t want to give off the impression that you are a performer and he is the audience. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2006, 12:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027/84 "2006-10-15T00:54:07Z")
I love a woman who can make me laugh. When I describe one of the great loves of my life the description always includes: No one could make me laugh like she could - I miss her still. ---
**Author:** ![astorian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ad7895/32.png) [@astorian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astorian)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2006, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027/85 "2006-10-15T20:22:15Z")
ASSUMING that the woman in question is attractive, fun to be with, interesting, etc., a sense of humor is a huge bonus. NO sane man is going to reject an otherwise wonderful woman just because she’s funny (or, more specifically, “funnier than he is”). The ONLY caveat I add is this: if a “funny” woman finds she’s having problems with relationships, she should not focus on her sense of humor- I can almost guarantee that’s not the real problem. We all know of the stereotypical “nice” guys who can’t build or keep a romantic relationship going, and start to think, “My problem is, I’m just too nice.” Speaking as just such a guy, I can say firsthand to those males: the problem is NOT that women think you’re too nice. Rather, they think "He’s nice, BUT \_\_\_\_\_ (fill in the appropriate flaws here). Look at yourself honestly, and I’m willing to bet you know exactly what your problems are, and being “too nice” isn’t one of them. Similarly, if a woman ever thinks, “You know, the only thing wrong with me is that men think I’m too funny,” I would urge her to look at herself in the mirror and be honest: is being funny the ONLY reason you can think of that men aren’t swarming to you? Or is the problem actually that “She’s nice and she’s really funny, BUT \_\_\_”? ---
**Author:** ![Plan\_B](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Plan\_B](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Plan_B)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2006, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027/86 "2006-10-15T22:09:48Z")
I think funny is attractive in all two genders that I’m familiar. I’ve encouraged my kids - boys and girls - to develop that skill as much and as soon as possible. ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027/87 "2006-10-16T04:12:58Z")
I can’t believe this thread is still going on. Are funny women attractive? YES Are smart women attractive? YES Now let’s get back to discussing sequential thread titles and/or words that end in -gry. ---
**Author:** ![Stentor\_2.5](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bc8723/32.png) [@Stentor\_2.5](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stentor_2.5)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2006, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027/88 "2006-10-16T14:02:55Z")
My $0.02 There are a lot of things that will attract me to a woman and make me interested. If you want me to be absolutely crazy about you, though, make me laugh. As for funny women who had relationship problems, all I can say is a lot of women in showbiz had relationship problems. I’ve also heard that a lot of people who are funny on stage aren’t funny in their day-to-day lives, and vice versa. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-funny-women-attractive/367027.md?page=4)