# Are Loveless Marriages Better Than Divorce

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-loveless-marriages-better-than-divorce/564874>\
**Category:** Great Debates\
**Created:** [December 20, 2010, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-loveless-marriages-better-than-divorce/564874 "2010-12-20T20:42:51Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![smiling\_bandit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@smiling\_bandit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smiling_bandit)\
**Post date:** [December 23, 2010, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-loveless-marriages-better-than-divorce/564874/21 "2010-12-23T02:50:39Z")

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> [@Tristan](#):
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> Yes. I am a romantic at heart, and I do my best. Difficult with my work schedule, but I’m trying.
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> The fact that she hates flowers, candy, cards, surprises, and thinks that cuddeling and hugging is annoying is a bit of a buzz kill on that front.
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> I agree 100%, a marriage is about give and take. Took me a while to figure that out… I was all about the give, and went to far. HArd to stay married to someone who you don’t respect because they let you treat them like a door mat, apparently.
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> We shall see what happens.

Makes it tough. The only thing I can offer is to ask her how you can show your love, if you do. Ultimately, you can’t make her do anything right or wrong.

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**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\
**Post date:** [December 23, 2010, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-loveless-marriages-better-than-divorce/564874/22 "2010-12-23T15:51:59Z")

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You can tell her to go fuck herself since she’s cheating on you. At that point there’s no relationship to save, as far as I’m concerned.

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**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\
**Post date:** [December 23, 2010, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-loveless-marriages-better-than-divorce/564874/23 "2010-12-23T21:55:41Z")

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> [@Tristan](#):
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> Huh. I’m kina surprised by the folks who say that their own folks stuck it out and ended up just fine.
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> I’m currently married, and while I love my wife, she likes me more as a friend she occasionally has sex with. I haven’t been told "I love you"by her in just over a year now. She actively wanted me to move, and we had decided on divorce a while back.
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> She has since changed her mind, but I have been contemplating moving next Summer anyways, as I don’t want to be stuck in the Friend Zone for life, while she persues a side relationshion (cheating, again).
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> Shit’s just complicated, isn’t it?
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> Maybe I should wait it out.

I’m kinda in the same boat, except with children and no cheating (I think!).

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