# Are orgasms while cheating mind-blowing? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 3, 2007, 7:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535 "2007-04-03T07:24:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![enigm4tic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@enigm4tic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enigm4tic)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/21 "2007-04-03T19:22:56Z")
oops I think I should clarify that the end of my post was supposed to mean “other sorts of risk may produce mind-blowing orgasms” as opposed to the first part of my post where in my experience (apparently in the minority) where the act in question did not produce a particularly mind-blowing orgasm for either of us (not to say it wasn’t great sex though) ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/22 "2007-04-03T19:44:53Z")
[QUOTE=Polerius] I did not mention risk in the OP, I mentioned taboo. Even if your spouse is on the other side of the world and is unlikely to barge in on you and catch you cheating, you know that it is a taboo thing that you are doing, and my assumption was that was something that made the orgasms more intense. And if the link that **Gfactor** provided is any indication, that seems likely. From a poll perspective, the only people so far who replied and have said they had had an affair, have affirmed the effect **LouisB:** “Orgasms while cheating are much better at first” **ShelliBean:** “The orgasms were mindblowing.” Now, if we could get a larger sample size 🙂 [/QUOTE] The risk was a big part of it for me. When I didn’t get caught at first I upped the game. When the boyfriend got back in town I would mention that I was going to the movies with a male friend. I did a lot of stupid stuff that had I not done, I would have gotten away with it. Risk was definitely an issue with me. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/23 "2007-04-03T21:42:21Z")
[QUOTE=Polerius] In fact, they said that the reason men produce so much sperm, is most likely not because the environment in the uterus is so hostile that you need a lot of them to get one to make it to the egg, but rather, all that semen provides a very basic function. It provides a physical barrier for the semen from the other guy. Basically, when the boyfriend/spouse comes back from out of town, they tend to initiate sex, and if the woman has just had sex with a lover the day before (or a few hours before), the lover’s semen is blocking the boyfriend’s semen, thus increasing the likelihood that she will get pregnant by the lover. [/QUOTE] Yes; a large percentage of sperm don’t swim straight, and end up tangling up with each other; this used to be thought a defect, but is now believed to be the point. Also, I’ve read that quite a few are hunter-killers; they don’t seek the egg, but seek out and destroy foreign sperm. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2007, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/24 "2007-04-03T21:56:24Z")
[QUOTE=Mangetout] Actually, it seems like it should be the case that _intercourse in any other risky situation_ should generate a similar effect (if any) - perhaps people would be more willing to admit that they’ve had sex in a situation where they shouldn’t have (for example, the stationery cupboard, or the changing rooms in a clothes store) and where they could have been discovered. [/QUOTE] Well, I’ve never cheated, but I had sex in a shrubbery once (at Prince’s Island Park, for you local folks - yes, that was my bare ass you saw as you drove along Memorial Drive). While I did have an orgasm it wasnt’ a very good one, specifically because I was concerned about us getting busted. So, I have a feeling that YMMV in these situations. ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/25 "2007-04-04T01:47:42Z")
[QUOTE=saoirse] I’ve got to say, if that’s the case then you’re doing it wrong. The more time you spend with someone, the better the sex is with them, if you’re paying attention, especially in the age of safe sex. What you don’t get, as **Sublight** pointed out, is the whole preliminary flirtation, which probably outlasts the sexual relationship. [/QUOTE] I did say that “boring” didn’t apply unless one or both partners lose interest. I also said YMMV. I had most of my affairs in a very casual way; a few relatively long term; a lot of one night stands, one that lasted five years and one that lasted, off and on, for nearly thirty years. Obviously, the last two weren’t boring at all. ---
**Author:** ![Quiddity\_Glomfuster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/c4cdca/32.png) [@Quiddity\_Glomfuster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quiddity_Glomfuster)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/26 "2007-04-04T03:30:59Z")
[QUOTE=alice\_in\_wonderland] Well, I’ve never cheated, but I had sex in a shrubbery once (at Prince’s Island Park, for you local folks - yes, that was my bare ass you saw as you drove along Memorial Drive). While I did have an orgasm it wasnt’ a very good one, specifically because I was concerned about us getting busted. So, I have a feeling that YMMV in these situations. [/QUOTE] Did you meet the guy who used to hide in the bushes and cough as you went by so you’d look over and see him beating off? ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/27 "2007-04-04T03:55:31Z")
Cheating risk is not the same as sex in public risk. If you get caught having sex in public, maybe you and the mrs suffer a little embarassment. Cheating risk carries with it guilt, which isn’t exactly a turn on for me. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/28 "2007-04-04T03:57:57Z")
[QUOTE=Quiddity Glomfuster] Did you meet the guy who used to hide in the bushes and cough as you went by so you’d look over and see him beating off? [/QUOTE] Actually that’s who I was having sex with.\* \*Joke, for the humour impaired. ---
**Author:** ![Polerius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/d78d45/32.png) [@Polerius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polerius)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/29 "2007-04-04T05:11:11Z")
[QUOTE=msmith537] Cheating risk carries with it guilt, which isn’t exactly a turn on for me. [/QUOTE] Yes, but for some, whose guilt-o-meter is not as sensitive, it _is_ a turn-on, if we are to believe the statistics. ---
**Author:** ![Lionne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Lionne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lionne)\ **Post date:** [April 4, 2007, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/30 "2007-04-04T18:04:14Z")
One for the poll: Mind-blowing, no. Pretty damn good, oh yes. ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2007, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/31 "2007-04-05T22:12:36Z")
[QUOTE=don’t ask] unadulterated pleasure [/QUOTE] Am I the only one who caught this? ---
**Author:** ![RedRosesForMe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/91b2a8/32.png) [@RedRosesForMe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RedRosesForMe)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2007, 10:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/32 "2007-04-05T22:38:14Z")
The one and only time I cheated on a boyfriend, it was a mixed bag. The sex was rather ho-hum, although I think that was due to his ineptness, not because of the fact I was cheating (and we were at his place- no chance of getting caught). The making out was incredible (in public, where any number of my friends may have seen us), and then that one time he spent the night at me and my bf’s apartment (not unusual, he used to do it all the time- he was our “Guy on the Couch”) and we stayed up watching movies (read: performing oral sex on each other) after the bf went to bed was incredibly hot, because the bf was in the next room and was very likely to catch us (and almost did). That said, when The Guy on the Couch would spend the night I often initiated sex with the bf, because I thought it was hot that this other guy was out on the couch and could possibly hear us on his way to the bathroom or something. You might say I’m a bit of an exhibitionist, and I’d agree. I’ve had sex in friend’s backyards on their patio furniture, on the side of a busy road when we got locked out of my bf’s apartment, all over the place. The risk of getting caught (whether by a SO or just random stranger) makes things much hotter for me. Of course, I’d probably just blush and be overcome by a case of the giggles if a stranger found me having sex on their front lawn, others would probably be horrified. YMMV. ---
**Author:** ![Chasing\_Dreams](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/258eb7/32.png) [@Chasing\_Dreams](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chasing_Dreams)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2007, 8:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/33 "2007-04-06T08:41:28Z")
[QUOTE=alice\_in\_wonderland] Well, I’ve never cheated, but I had sex in a shrubbery once (at Prince’s Island Park, for you local folks - yes, that was my bare ass you saw as you drove along Memorial Drive). While I did have an orgasm it wasnt’ a very good one, specifically because I was concerned about us getting busted. So, I have a feeling that YMMV in these situations. [/QUOTE] Do you happen to know a person named Harbir Gil? ---
**Author:** ![chowder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/977dab/32.png) [@chowder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chowder)\ **Post date:** [April 6, 2007, 9:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/34 "2007-04-06T09:43:25Z")
[QUOTE=Der Trihs] Yes; a large percentage of sperm don’t swim straight, and end up tangling up with each other; this used to be thought a defect, but is now believed to be the point. Also, I’ve read that quite a few are hunter-killers; they don’t seek the egg, but seek out and destroy foreign sperm. [/QUOTE] Wow! killer tadpoles :eek: ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [April 10, 2007, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535/35 "2007-04-10T18:24:41Z")
[QUOTE=Der Trihs] Also, I’ve read that quite a few are hunter-killers; they don’t seek the egg, but seek out and destroy foreign sperm. [/QUOTE] If one of these sperm _were_ to make it to the egg, is it safe to assume that the child would grow up to be one of those Minuteman Project vigilante border guard guys? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-orgasms-while-cheating-mind-blowing/398535.md?page=1)