Are tattoos way overplayed by now?

Princhester,
Here are some quotes that I think can be interpreted as somewhat hostile.
“. . .OK - I may be a little bit biased - I can’t even look at the girl behind the coffee bar because she has so many piercings on her face - it makes me shudder to look at her face on - I have to avert my gaze. Tattoos are only slightly less off-putting for me”

Tattoos are so revolting as to make this person avert his gaze.*
“…Man, some folks get so defensive about their poorly thought out decisions.”

Utterly condescending and presumptuous.
“…Not mid reading, just an opinion based on the sort of irrational defenses offered by the people who got them. The fact remains, a person at 18 has no idea what their opinions will be at 81, and it is just plain presumptuous to think they would be able to. I’m just looking at this from the perspective of one more than half-way there at 51, and I know just how different I am at this age than I was at 18.”

More condescending tripe.

". . .I always figure those with tats dislike the look of their bare skin. I like mine. Perhaps when I get old enough to dislike the way I look I’ll get some. I don’t mind what anyone does with their skin but I can’t help thinking it’s a shame to see an otherwise shapely and would have been good looking woman covered in them. It seems a defacement to me. Bare skin is so beautiful until you age.

But that’s just me. Cut your nose off to spite your face if it makes you happy. It’s your nose. Show those close minded nose wearers."
Vaguely creepy and not so vaguely smug.

Those are just from the first page. If I had the time and the desire, I could indeed give plenty examples of the shit the anti tattoo crowd says. But I suspect you already know that. Not sure why this has turned into a war of semantics. You don’t like the term “hateful” or the hyperbole of " people losing their minds over" (or whatever the phrase was) then how about we just refer to it as people putting way more energy than is warranted into expressing negative opinions about something that doesn’t concern them, nor do they appear to understand.

So no hate and no one losing their mind then? None of your quotes says they hate the people. None are losing their mind. They are saying they don’t like to see tattoos or that they think tattoos are a bad idea. People are entitled to their opinion about their subjective experience. You are just making my point for me. People say “I don’t like to see tattoos” and people are so damn defensive they interpret this as some sort of personal attack or hatred.

Agreed. Princhester, I’m not really sure what you want. “Hate” doesn’t mean “passionate, frothy loathing” all the time. Sometimes it just means people who make comments saying that having a tattoo completely alters their judgement of a person, forever.

I mean, most of us are just having a fairly calm, rational discussion, while you are quibbling over words. Who cares? Sure. Fine. No hate whatsoever. You win.

I don’t think I can agree with this. If the commentary not only unrequested but given with no idea of it even applies to anyone in listening range, it’s not advice. That’s bloviating and it’s annoying. And advice that’s unwanted and inapplicable wouldn’t be good advice. Your original point was that you don’t get upset when people warn you about the risks of making a particular decision, you thank them for their input. (Although that differs from some tattoo commentary in that their warnings at least relate to something you are thinking about doing.) Do you regularly thank people for giving you unrequested, inapt, inapplicable advice? Do you thank them for constantly repeating their advice? I’m skeptical because I don’t think most people are that unfailingly and excessively polite.

In certain types of threads about relationships, yes, you’d see that. Not in just any thread about a marriage. The fact that marriage and relationships have much higher stakes probably makes people a little more selective about where they offer their opinion.

It frequently means expressing the same negative opinion over and over again because of the energy involved.