# Are there any issues a person must agree with you on to be remain your friend? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 12, 2015, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869 "2015-05-12T16:43:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/21 "2015-05-12T18:46:43Z")
Actually…lots. 🙂 Also, **Scumpup** vs. **Skald** , that’d be a showdown. But your point about origin stories reminds me of something. Can we please stop doing origin stories for at least some people? JUST STOP. Everybody knows how the fuck Superman got here. Everybody knows about ol’ Spiderman. We’ve got it. Thor: The Dark World was miles better than the origin story. We always waste a movie on the background. I finally got around to watching Man of Steel. That movie is like 2 hrs 18 mins. A boring as hell first hour. I mean, I nearly shut off the movie and walked away. And a pretty awesome second hour! Showing real issues that Supes might have: can people accept him? Do humans even want a savior? How the hell could he really hide? And of course the very dramatic moment at the end, which I loved and which I thought was set up beautifully to really give him some angst. They even made Lois Lane acceptable! For the first time ever! But noooooooooooooooooooooo we have to sit through fucking Krypton blowing up yet again, even though I don’t even care. If I was Jor-El’s wife, he wouldn’t have died with the planet blowing up, I would have killed him. You dipshit, if you knew the planet was going to blow up, WHY DIDN’T YOU MAKE A POD BIG ENOUGH FOR THREE! _stabstabstab_ Ok, deep breath. I need to leave the thread now. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/22 "2015-05-12T18:50:50Z")
> [@August\_West](#): > > P.S. Thor is disqualified due to being a god. In the comics, Thor is disqualified because he’s not technically Thor any more. [She is.](http://i1.wp.com/www.comicmix.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/Female-Thor.jpg?resize=200%2C289) Say what you like about the man in the flying rat suit, he was never fired from his job being Batman. _By his dad_. Point: Batman. (This may be getting a bit far afield from the OP.) ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/23 "2015-05-12T18:52:04Z")
It really becomes clear how ridiculous Batman is when you make one tiny change. Call him Man-Bat. Suddenly you realize this is a grown man who dresses like a Bat to beat up thugs. Sigh. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/24 "2015-05-12T18:56:42Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > In the comics, Thor is disqualified because he’s not technically Thor any more. [She is.](http://i1.wp.com/www.comicmix.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/Female-Thor.jpg?resize=200%2C289) > > Say what you like about the man in the flying rat suit, he was never fired from his job being Batman. _By his dad_. > > Point: Batman. > > (This may be getting a bit far afield from the OP.) I checked with the guy who started the thread, and he doesn’t give a good goddamn. He just needs excuses to curse today. > [@Anaamika](#): > > It really becomes clear how ridiculous Batman is when you make one tiny change. > > Call him Man-Bat. > > Suddenly you realize this is a grown man who dresses like a Bat to beat up thugs. > > Sigh. All super-heroes fall apart if you look at them too closely. Except of course Thor and Wonder Woman. That was the problem with the Bale movies; by trying to be realistic, they just ramped up the stupid. Also, I would not engage in a fair fight with Scumpup. I am a bully, not a warrior, says so in the RhymerFaq. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/25 "2015-05-12T18:59:20Z")
So when is the Wonder Woman movie coming out??? Want! ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/26 "2015-05-12T19:00:15Z")
This thread is going off course. Everybody needs to realize that Skald is correct and move on. ---
**Author:** ![Velocity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/velocity/32/18006_2.png) [@Velocity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Velocity)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/27 "2015-05-12T19:31:00Z")
This became a Cafe Society thread very quickly. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/28 "2015-05-12T19:36:26Z")
To get it back on course, I will add to my earlier comments: I think my friends need to have three things. 1. Critical thinking 2. a sense of humor 3. Discretion If they show significant lacks in any of those, then the friendship is pretty well doomed. Less like “My friends need to agree with me on everything” but more like “Do they look at things clearly? Can they laugh about life? If they have something they cannot look at clearly, are they able to shut up about it?” Etc. ---
**Author:** ![Frodo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/frodo/32/302_2.png) [@Frodo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frodo)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/29 "2015-05-12T19:39:06Z")
Heck I’m even friends with people who liked the Star Wars prequels, so I suppose there aren´t ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 7:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/30 "2015-05-12T19:46:40Z")
I could not be friends with anyone who is a racist, homophobic, or Evangelical christian. ---
**Author:** ![Kenm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bc79bd/32.png) [@Kenm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kenm)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/31 "2015-05-12T19:54:07Z")
I crossed her off my social list when she said my left eye that without sunglasses is easily dazzled by bright sun so I squint was caused by demons that have control of my soul. I don’t agree. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/32 "2015-05-12T19:57:09Z")
> [@Frodo](#): > > Heck I’m even friends with people who liked the Star Wars prequels, so I suppose there aren´t I think Frodo got offed by someone who really didn’t like the prequels! Skald is that you? :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Frodo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/frodo/32/302_2.png) [@Frodo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frodo)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 8:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/33 "2015-05-12T20:08:26Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I think Frodo got offed by someone who really didn’t like the prequels! Skald is that you? :eek: FRODO LIVES! (but has no idea how the post ended up truncated like that) ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/34 "2015-05-12T20:14:17Z")
> [@Frodo](#): > > FRODO LIVES! > (but has no idea how the post ended up truncated like that) Welcome back mate! I was like, holy shit, he wasn’t even allowed to finish his sentence! ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/35 "2015-05-12T20:15:46Z")
He’s fine. Gollum just bit off the last tenth of his post. ---
**Author:** ![August\_West](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/august_west/32/18069_2.png) [@August\_West](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/August_West)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/36 "2015-05-12T20:22:58Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I know I once killed a budding friendship, nipped it right in the bud, because of this thing. She and I were getting along really well too. But then she commented about her horoscope and it transpired she really believed that shit. See, now I have to amend my previous statement. If someone really and for true believes that horoscopes have actual meaning, I can’t be their friend. You found the breaking point that I didn’t even know I had. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/37 "2015-05-12T20:25:09Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > He’s fine. Gollum just bit off the last tenth of his post. Niiiiiiiiice. > [@](#): > > See, now I have to amend my previous statement. If someone really and for true believes that horoscopes have actual meaning, I can’t be their friend. You found the breaking point that I didn’t even know I had. 🙂 Yes, she checked it every day. And I know where it stems from. My best friend growing up cancelled a couple of times she was going to meet up with me because “the stars weren’t aligned” or “her horoscope had a bad message”. Then I was too young to know better. ---
**Author:** ![Trinopus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Trinopus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Trinopus)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/38 "2015-05-12T20:32:05Z")
I’m with **dracoi**. It doesn’t really matter what they believe, so long as they’re willing not to talk about it all the time. I’ve lost friends who have very strong and very different opinions than my own – but only because I could not get them to STFU. It takes two to fight…but only one to ruin a nice afternoon. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/39 "2015-05-12T20:33:25Z")
To be my friend a person must agree that I am a great guy and it’s a privilege to know me and be in my company. Offering to pick up the check doesn’t hurt, either. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2015, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869/40 "2015-05-12T20:34:30Z")
I’m realizing now that I don’t have a favorite superhero. I have my favorite actors in superhero roles–Ruffalo’s Hulk, Downey’s Iron Man, Gina Torres’s Wonder Woman. But without the actors, I don’t really care all that much. As for friends, I’m kind of prickly and will stop hanging out with someone for a lot of reasons. Dudes who make rape jokes are on the list (like the guy I used to game with who thought it was funny to make a pedophile character, that kind of thing). People who are homophobes or racists are on the list. And if you’re gonna be an anti-vaxxer, you better be related to me. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-issues-a-person-must-agree-with-you-on-to-be-remain-your-friend/719869.md?page=3)