# Are there any popular songs about bisexuals and/or pansexuals? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Tags:** music\ **Created:** [October 12, 2026, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793 "2026-10-12T20:57:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/1 "2026-10-12T20:57:06Z")
Please, no iffy “Well, since they don’t specifically say whether Steve or Bobbie are male or female, I guess maybe…?” responses. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/2 "2026-10-12T20:59:54Z")
I Kissed A Girl by Katy Perry ---
**Author:** ![Snarky\_Kong](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a183cd/32.png) [@Snarky\_Kong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snarky_Kong)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/3 "2026-10-12T21:01:21Z")
Lola by the Kinks. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/4 "2026-10-12T21:03:13Z")
Blur’s “Girls & Boys” is pretty pan-inclusive _Looking for girls who are boys who like boys to be girls_ _Who do boys like they’re girls, who do girls like they’re boys_ _Always should be someone you really love_ _Girls who are boys who like boys to be girls_ _Who do boys like they’re girls, who do girls like they’re boys_ _Always should be someone you really love_ ---
**Author:** ![Q.Q.Switcheroo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/q.q.switcheroo/32/5713_2.png) [@Q.Q.Switcheroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Q.Q.Switcheroo)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/5 "2026-10-12T21:08:18Z")
[![](https://img.youtube.com/vi/5e7844P77Is/maxresdefault.jpg ""Gettin' Bi" (feat. Pete Gardner) - "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend"") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5e7844P77Is) ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/6 "2026-10-12T21:19:25Z")
I am willing to be convinced otherwise, but that seems more like a straight girl kissing a lesbian just to knock something off her bucket list ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/7 "2026-10-12T21:24:05Z")
I think it’s implied that the speaker in Green Day’s “Basket Case” is bisexual, as he seems to be unsure whether the prostitute he hired is male or female: _I went to a whore_ _He said my life’s a bore_ _So quit my whining 'cause it’s bringing her down_ ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/8 "2026-10-12T21:29:40Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > I am willing to be convinced otherwise, but that seems more like a straight girl kissing a lesbian just to knock something off her bucket list I’d go with bi-curious. It may have started out as just wanting to try it [I kissed a girl just to try it], but then she goes on to say she liked it [I kissed a girl and I liked it], she’s confused [My head gets so confused] about it but it ‘feels right’ [It felt so wrong It felt so right Don’t mean I’m in love tonight]. ---
**Author:** ![RealityChuck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitychuck/32/195_2.png) [@RealityChuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityChuck)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/9 "2026-10-12T21:39:31Z")
Ob La Di, Ob La Da. In the last verse, Desmond seems to be crossdressing. ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/10 "2026-10-12T21:39:36Z")
Go back to 1995 for the Jill Sobule song, less shock value and more self exploration of her sexuality. > **[The Original "I Kissed a Girl"](https://www.savagecontent.com/post/the-original-i-kissed-a-girl)** > > The Katy Perry hit is so popular that most people don't know the older “I Kissed a Girl” track by Jill Sobule... ---
**Author:** ![Chronos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chronos/32/134_2.png) [@Chronos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chronos)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/11 "2026-10-12T21:45:12Z")
“Tango Maureen”, from Rent, is a duet by Maureen’s girlfriend and boyfriend (I think one of them is an ex, but I’m not sure which one). ---
**Author:** ![Exapno\_Mapcase](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/exapno_mapcase/32/1051_2.png) [@Exapno\_Mapcase](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Exapno_Mapcase)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/12 "2026-10-12T21:48:23Z")
Depending how you look at a throuple, David Crosby’s “Triad,” rejected by The Byrds but sung by Grace Slick of the Jefferson Airplane on _Crown of Creation_. > [@Snarky\_Kong](#): > > Lola by the Kinks. Also depending on how you look at it, neither one of the protagonists has ever been with a woman. > [@chela](#): > > Go back to 1995 for the Jill Sobule song You beat me to mentioning it. Far better song. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/13 "2026-10-12T21:56:20Z")
Men Who Love Women Who Love Men - Steve Goodman > There are men who love women who love men > There are women who love women every now and then > There are men who love men because they can’t pretend > They are men who love women who love men It’s mostly about gay men, but there’s a mix in there. ---
**Author:** ![Leaper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/4bbf92/32.png) [@Leaper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaper)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/14 "2026-10-12T21:56:24Z")
Gender expression in clothing doesn’t really have direct connection to sexuality, though, IMO. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/15 "2026-10-12T21:56:44Z")
Crossdressing is something else. ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/16 "2026-10-12T21:58:24Z")
> [@Exapno\_Mapcase](#): > > > [@Snarky\_Kong](#): > > > > Lola by the Kinks. > > Also depending on how you look at it, neither one of the protagonists has ever been with a woman. One could be bisexual withoutt having “been with” both sexes. ---
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/17 "2026-10-12T22:06:20Z")
[![](https://img.youtube.com/vi/3H4rYa2SVYo/maxresdefault.jpg "She’s A Dancer") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3H4rYa2SVYo) ---
**Author:** ![Exapno\_Mapcase](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/exapno_mapcase/32/1051_2.png) [@Exapno\_Mapcase](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Exapno_Mapcase)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/18 "2026-10-12T22:07:38Z")
Technically true, but unless that is specifically referenced in the lyrics it could apply to anyone and everyone. Lola is a special case because it can be read in so many ways. One of them is that the narrator didn’t understand his own sexual identity until he met Lola. Another is that the narrator thought he wasn’t interested in men until he met Lola. Yet another is that he was attracted to Lola as a woman until he made the realization. None of them are determinative of his current or future sexual identity. Absolute brilliant song. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/19 "2026-10-12T22:08:32Z")
Which puts that song in the “Maybe?” Category. ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2026, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793/20 "2026-10-12T22:09:50Z")
Another is that they were attracted to Lola and didn’t really care if they were a man or a woman. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-any-popular-songs-about-bisexuals-and-or-pansexuals/1033793.md?page=2)