# Are there love songs that don't focus on appearance? (To women, particularly) **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [September 23, 2009, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306 "2009-09-23T23:11:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![cjepson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a9adbd/32.png) [@cjepson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cjepson)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/41 "2009-09-24T14:48:10Z")
Bob Dylan, “Love Minus Zero/No Limit”: My love, she speaks like silence Without ideals or violence She doesn’t have to say she’s faithful Yet she’s true like ice, like fire People carry roses And make promises by the hour My love she laughs like the flowers Valentines can’t buy her Cat Stevens, “Hard Headed Woman”: I’m looking for a hard headed woman One who will take me for myself And if I find my hard headed woman I won’t need nobody else Lovin’ Spoonful, “Darling Be Home Soon”: Come And talk of all the things we did today Here And laugh about our funny little ways… …My darling be home soon It’s not just these few hours but I’ve been waiting since I toddled For the great relief of having you to talk to ---
**Author:** ![Finagle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@Finagle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Finagle)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/42 "2009-09-24T15:09:52Z")
Sugar Magnolia by the Grateful Dead Up on Cripple Creek by the Band ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/43 "2009-09-24T15:12:15Z")
My Girl by the Temptations doesn’t mention appearance. ---
**Author:** ![cjepson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a9adbd/32.png) [@cjepson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cjepson)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/44 "2009-09-24T16:10:13Z")
[quote=“Finagle, post:42, topic:511306”] Sugar Magnolia by the Grateful Dead/QUOTE] That reminds me of another Dead song, “Scarlet Begonias”: “She wore scarlet begonias tucked into her curls I knew right away she was not like other girls” One of my favorite couplets in popular music. ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/45 "2009-09-24T16:52:20Z")
[On The Street Where You Live.](http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/myfairlady/onthestreetwhereyoulive.htm) ---
**Author:** ![Oredigger77](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/oredigger77/32/3181_2.png) [@Oredigger77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oredigger77)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/46 "2009-09-24T17:00:34Z")
The Way You Do the Things You Do by the Temptations _As pretty as you are You know you could have been a flower Your good looks was a minute You know that you could have been an hour The way you stole my heart You know you could have been a cuckoo And baby you’re so smart You know you could have been a schoolbook Well you could have been anything that you want to And I can tell The way you do the things you do_ It doesn’t focus on looks but they are a component. ---
**Author:** ![Ichbin\_Dubist](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/51bf81/32.png) [@Ichbin\_Dubist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ichbin_Dubist)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/47 "2009-09-24T17:12:25Z")
The Magnetic Fields, “Asleep and Dreaming”: _You may not be beautiful It’s not for me to judge I don’t know if you’re beautiful Because I love you too much_ ---
**Author:** ![villa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/bc79bd/32.png) [@villa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/villa)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/48 "2009-09-24T17:12:34Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > Brad Paisley: It’s mentioned, but not the majority of the song > > She’s a yellow pair of running shoes > A holey pair of jeans > She looks great in cheap sunglasses > She looks great in anything > She’s I want a piece of chocolate > Take me to a movie > She’s I can’t find a thing to wear > Now and then she’s moody Off the same album, there is [‘The World’](http://www.cowboylyrics.com/lyrics/paisley-brad/the-world-16138.html)… “You think you’re one of millions but you’re one in a million to me When you wonder if you matter, baby, look into my eyes And tell me, can’t you see You’re everything to me” ---
**Author:** ![MovieMogul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f08c70/32.png) [@MovieMogul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MovieMogul)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/49 "2009-09-24T17:43:08Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > My Girl by the Temptations doesn’t mention appearance. Yeah, but it doesn’t mention anything else, either. Love the song, but it’s all about how she makes him feel and nothing about what it is about her that makes him feel that way in the first place. ---
**Author:** ![xnylder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/bbce88/32.png) [@xnylder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xnylder)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/50 "2009-09-24T17:54:50Z")
Sting, “Fields of Gold” _Will you stay with me, will you be my love Among the fields of barley Well forget the sun in his jealous sky As we lie in the fields of gold_ The only hint about the woman’s appearance is that she has long hair. ---
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/51 "2009-09-24T18:04:25Z")
Several songs from Wilco. **I Got You (At The End of the Century)** I got you and that’s all I need I got you I got you and I still believe That you are all I will ever need It’s you, oh All the way back in the seventies You were my little TV queen Your Tarzan and your friend Janine I got you I got you and I still believe That you are all I will ever need It’s you, oh **Reservations** I’m bound by these choices so hard to make I’m bound by the feeling so easy to fake None of this is real Enough to take me from you Oh I’ve got reservations About so many things But not about you I know this isn’t what you were wanting me to say How can I get closer and be further away When the truth Proves it’s beautiful to lie **Either Way** Maybe you still love me Maybe you don’t Either you will or you won’t Maybe you just need some time alone I will try to understand Everything has its plan Either way I’m gonna stay Right for you **You and I** Oh, I don’t want to know And you don’t need to know That much about me You and I We might be strangers However close we get sometimes It’s like we never met But you and I I think we can take it All the good with the bad Make something that no one else has You and I ---
**Author:** ![Bridget\_Burke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7cd45c/32.png) [@Bridget\_Burke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bridget_Burke)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/52 "2009-09-24T18:06:11Z")
In the psychedelic era, the mind’s eye saw beyond mere earthly beauty… Love’s “She Comes in Colors” _Whoa-oh-oh-oh my love she comes in colors You can tell her from the clothes she wears._ The Stones used the same phrase in “She’s Like a Rainbow”–on their best-forgotten _Their Satanic Majesties_. Texas’s own 13th Floor Elevators sang “She Lives in a Time of Her Own” _Her eyes breathe light, reflect the aura of her hair She sends, attends, behind an alpha stare She seeks the stars and spirals up the stair She lives in a time of her own_ Not exactlly “five foot two, eyes of blue.” ---
**Author:** ![Colophon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f05b48/32.png) [@Colophon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colophon)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/53 "2009-09-24T18:10:23Z")
While it does focus on appearance, Spinal Tap’s _Big Bottom_ doesn’t exactly highlight classical attractiveness, with such gems as: > [@](#): > > The looser the waistband, the deeper the quicksand and: > [@](#): > > Big bottom, big bottom > Talk about mud flaps, my girl’s got 'em > Big bottom drive me out of my mind > How could I leave this behind? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/54 "2009-09-24T18:50:49Z")
> [@Poysyn](#): > > _Annie’s Song_ - John Denver But one of his senses is sight. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/55 "2009-09-24T19:05:16Z")
> [@Finagle](#): > > Sugar Magnolia by the Grateful Dead That was the first one to come to my mind. What a great song. I happened to hear a particularly kick ass version of it at the Furthur show last Sunday. ---
**Author:** ![Contrapuntal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e274bd/32.png) [@Contrapuntal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Contrapuntal)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/56 "2009-09-24T19:16:09Z")
Only the greatest love song ever!! [Tupelo Honey.](http://www.lyricsfreak.com/v/van+morrison/tupelo+honey_20143306.html) ---
**Author:** ![EinsteinsHund](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/einsteinshund/32/8400_2.png) [@EinsteinsHund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EinsteinsHund)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 8:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/57 "2009-09-24T20:58:54Z")
> [@Colophon](#): > > While it does focus on appearance, Spinal Tap’s _Big Bottom_ doesn’t exactly highlight classical attractiveness … And there’s always _Whole Lotta Rosie_: _Wanna tell you a story ‘Bout a woman I know When it comes to lovin’ Oh, she steals the show She ain’t exactly pretty She ain’t exactly small 42-39-56 You could say she’s got it ALLLLLL!!!_ Oh, sorry, I see, it’s all about physical attraction (a special one …) 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Jennyrosity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@Jennyrosity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennyrosity)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/58 "2009-09-24T21:25:26Z")
My husband and I had “Something Changed” as one of wedding songs. [It’s a love song](http://www.risa.co.uk/sla/song.php?songid=19359) but it never mentions looks. ---
**Author:** ![statij](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c2a13f/32.png) [@statij](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/statij)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/59 "2009-09-24T21:29:25Z")
It’s not that it doesn’t focus on appearance, but it kinda looks at the other side of it: AC/DC: Whole Lotta Rosie She ain’t exactly pretty Ain’t exactly small Forty-two, thirty-nine, fifty-six You could say she’s got it all! ---
**Author:** ![statij](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c2a13f/32.png) [@statij](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/statij)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-love-songs-that-dont-focus-on-appearance-to-women-particularly/511306/60 "2009-09-24T21:30:57Z")
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