I’m going to give this a factual answer anyway.
The “default” sex is female. When two organisms reproduce asexually the resulting organisms, clones, as referred to as “daughters.” The original state was asexual reproduction which, on the surface, is more beneficial than sexual reproduction. Sexual reproduction is a less effective means of increasing a population. In asexual reproduction all daughters can give birth but in sexual reproduction only about half of the population (females) can give birth. Furthermore, sexual reproduction carries risks - a creature must find a mate (not always an easy task), convince the opposite sex to be their mate (I think we all know the difficulty of this one), mate (sex can sometimes result in violence or death), and produce a baby which is composed of the DNA of a different individual as well as your own.
So how come the vast majority of eukaryotic species reproduce sexually even when asexual reproduction is available to them?
Genetic variation produces a healthier population. In populations where there is less variation (due to asexual reproduction) the offspring produced are sicklier than those produced by sexual reproduction.
In humans, there is no consensus on what makes someone a male or female because there are three markers – chromosomes, gonads, and genitals. In humans, males are produced by a gene that is found on the Y chromosome (although in rare cases it can be found on the X). This gene causes the body to become awash in male hormones and male gonads develop (testicles). Because the genetic default is female, if the androgens do not bind properly, it will have no effect and a female will develop despite having XY chromosomes (AIS). In other words, if you consider chromosomes to be the end-all determinants of sex, then some males will have vaginas. It is important to note that it is impossible for an intersexed individual to have both male and female gonads unless they are a chimera with two distinct sets of DNA. In other words, true hermaphroditism resulting from one set of DNA is impossible in humans. There is clearly a difference between male and female in humans, although some individuals fall inbetween.
Further complicating matters, the Y makes a male rule does not apply consistently throughout the animal kingdom. In fruit flies, two XXs will result in a female and anything else in a male. While in humans XO makes a female, in fruit flies a male is created. In birds, XX (or ZZ) is male and XY (or ZW) is female. In some animals that don’t have sex chromosomes, a fertilized egg becomes a female and an unfertilized one a male.
Now, as for looks, males and females look different because of sexual dimorphism which is differences in sexes due to secondary sexual characteristics. In some species sexual dimorphism creates males and females which look like they belong to two separate species. Male gorillas and orang-utans weigh twice as much as their female counterparts. Male chimpanzees and bonobos are about 1.35 times as heavy. In, early homo, sexual dimorphism shrank so that modern human males are about 1.2 times the weight of human females. In primates, pronounced sexual dimorphism is often parallel with competition of a small amount of dominate males for many females.
Although our sexual dimorphism is small, all children can tell the difference between males and females at a very young age.
So that’s sex, I won’t even begin to get into gender. It’s a shame that this thread was hijacked so much because it is a very valid question.