# Are there "rules" for a glory hole? **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [November 13, 2006, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281 "2006-11-13T18:49:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 6:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/1 "2006-11-13T18:49:46Z")
I know what a glory hole is, that is not the question. This weekend found me in a rather seedy location (don’t ask), and there happened to be a glory hole present. A some point somebody stuck their fingers through the glory hole and wiggled them around. I assume this was some kind of signal, but do not know if the person was looking to give or receive pleasure. But this leads to my actual GQ question: Are there a set of widely known and/or agreed upon signals or signs to determine who sticks what through the wall? Is there a written or unwritten code that most adhere to? Or is it just an anything goes, caveat emptor part of society? ---
**Author:** ![turnbuckle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/3e96dc/32.png) [@turnbuckle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/turnbuckle)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/2 "2006-11-13T18:58:57Z")
No teeth. ---
**Author:** ![Gfactor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@Gfactor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gfactor)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/3 "2006-11-13T19:22:13Z")
> [@](#): > > 1. If you like what you see, stick your finger through the glory hole far enough so that the other person sees it. Withdraw it to show him you are ready to receive him. If you want him to use a condom, place it in the hole between you now. from [http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/glorhfaq.html](http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/glorhfaq.html) ---
**Author:** ![Gfactor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@Gfactor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gfactor)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/4 "2006-11-13T19:23:17Z")
You can find other “rules” at the same site. ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/5 "2006-11-13T19:24:02Z")
Rules? Doesn’t that kill the romance? ---
**Author:** ![diggleblop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac91a4/32.png) [@diggleblop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/diggleblop)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/6 "2006-11-13T20:00:29Z")
Well, most Gloryholes are illegal due to indecent exposure and other sex in public laws. ---
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/7 "2006-11-13T20:21:59Z")
[QUOTE=diggleblop] Well, most Gloryholes are illegal due to indecent exposure and other sex in public laws. [/QUOTE] True, but most illegal activities have agreed upon rules of conduct. Gambling, prostitution and drug dealing are all illegal activities but participants in these activities know they are expected to behave and react in a certain manner, and willingly do so to keep the activity going. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 8:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/8 "2006-11-13T20:55:19Z")
We’re not talking about a gold mine here, are we. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/9 "2006-11-13T21:03:40Z")
[QUOTE=lieu] We’re not talking about a gold mine here, are we. [/QUOTE] Nor a glass-blowing operation, though there is a relevant gerund in the phrase… ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/10 "2006-11-13T21:44:33Z")
I was thinking mining too. ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/11 "2006-11-13T21:49:11Z")
[QUOTE=Gfactor] from [http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/glorhfaq.html](http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/glorhfaq.html) [/QUOTE] Is this site work safe? ---
**Author:** ![MostlyClueless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@MostlyClueless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MostlyClueless)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/12 "2006-11-13T21:52:43Z")
Big B/W banner on top that reads “[SEXUALITY.ORG](http://SEXUALITY.ORG)” “society for human sexuality” and “gloryholes FAQ” in a relatively big font. If you manage to scroll down immediately AND you know nobody is going to examine the text on your screen closely it’s okay. Only black text on a white BG. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/13 "2006-11-13T21:53:04Z")
[QUOTE=FormerMarineGuy] Is this site work safe? [/QUOTE] Probably not. I don’t see any overt pornography but there is a watermark graphic that’s kind of non-mixed-company safe… ---
**Author:** ![xizor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/xizor/32/102_2.png) [@xizor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/xizor)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/14 "2006-11-13T21:53:34Z")
[QUOTE=FormerMarineGuy] Is this site work safe? [/QUOTE] It is an all plain-text site, and there may be a word or two that would set off a filter. I would also say that this site completely answers my question. Nicely cited, Gfactor! ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/15 "2006-11-13T21:54:12Z")
Er…not mixed-company-safe. I got my hyphens shifted. (\<----- not a euphemism) ---
**Author:** ![Gfactor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@Gfactor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gfactor)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/16 "2006-11-13T21:59:39Z")
[QUOTE=jayjay] Probably not. [/QUOTE] Which is why I didn’t make it a link. C’mon; It’s about glory holes. I wouldn’t recommend reading it at work. Then again, I did. I’ve asked the mods to disable the link to the site in **FormerMarineGuy** ’s post, just to be on the safe side. ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/17 "2006-11-13T22:14:52Z")
[QUOTE=Gfactor] Which is why I didn’t make it a link. C’mon; It’s about glory holes. I wouldn’t recommend reading it at work. Then again, I did. I’ve asked the mods to disable the link to the site in **FormerMarineGuy** ’s post, just to be on the safe side. [/QUOTE] Oops, sorry. I forwarded the link to my home e-mail account for later ‘research’. ---
**Author:** ![Fish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bc8723/32.png) [@Fish](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fish)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/18 "2006-11-13T22:33:35Z")
Rule 1. The proffered member shall not be construed as a surface for graffiti. Rule 2. Glue, paint, spirit gum, and rubber cement shall not be used. Rule 3. If offered a member, please do not participate you have recently been eating jalapeños. Rule 4. It is customary not to hang one’s coat or scarf on the proffered member. ---
**Author:** ![Gfactor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9de053/32.png) [@Gfactor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gfactor)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/19 "2006-11-13T22:46:00Z")
[QUOTE=FormerMarineGuy] Oops, sorry. I forwarded the link to my home e-mail account for later ‘research’. [/QUOTE] Ahh. Wasn’t sure if you were whooshing or really curious. [Sexuality.org](http://Sexuality.org) isn’t a porn site and doesn’t have many photos or illustrations, but the domain name itself and much of the content could get you into trouble at work. ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2006, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281/20 "2006-11-13T22:48:46Z")
[QUOTE=Gfactor] Ahh. Wasn’t sure if you were whooshing or really curious. [Sexuality.org](http://Sexuality.org) isn’t a porn site and doesn’t have many photos or illustrations, but the domain name itself and much of the content could get you into trouble at work. [/QUOTE] I am actually very curious. The same curiousity as when one passes an ugly accident and is forced to slow down to take a peek at the dead bodies. Apparently this site takes glory holing mighty seriously. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-there-rules-for-a-glory-hole/380281.md?page=2)