Disclaimer: I’m Dutch and tipping over here is very different. The main difference is that minimum wage is higher to begin with, so most adults waiting full-time get paid decent salaries. Most waitstaff in the average restaurant is young, students or even highschool students, because minimum-wages are much lower for people between 16 and 21 who don’t have to support families from their earnings. Threfore, youngsters waiting table are usually doing it for fun and fun money. That’s why tippin in the Netherlands isn’t such serious business. Tips are a “nice if you do, okay if you don’t” thing over here.
That being said, I don’t get the whole “good service/bad service thing.” AFAIC, the minimum service is the maximum service. Extra’s are just a nuisance.
Ideally, this is how I want my restaurant visit to go.
If necessary, I’ve made reservations. We come in; pick our own seats; the waiter takes my orders within 15 minutes after seating. If I ask the waiter a question, he or she tries to answer it. Questions can range from “We’re in a bit of a hurry, is it possible to finish our meail before seven?” to “Do you have a kiddie chair” to “What, exactly, is Filet Mignonne?”. A waiter is perfectly entitled to say “I’m afraid that isn’t possible” or “yes, thye’re over here in the corner, do you want me to help setting it up for you?” to “I don’t know, would you like me to ask the kitchen?”. When the food is ready, the waiter brings our food to the table. If I want more to drink or more to eat, or if I want to pay, I signal the waiter or walk up to him if he’s busy in another part of the restaurant.
As for demeanor, the waiter should show an easy minimum of politeness. She can be taciturn or bubbly if (s)he feels like doing so. (S)he should wear something clean that makes it easy to spot he’s the one who is waiting tables.
That’s it. That’s the minimum and the maximum of what I expect from waitstaff. A helpful attitude if I had any questions or requests for extra’s (separate checks, kid-chairs, free tap-water refills) or if the food was extra good, I’ll reward with 10 dollars tip on an average 60 dollar meal. If the food was as expected and I didn;t ask any extra service from the waiter, I tip anywhere between 0 and 3 dollars.
Any more “service” is a nuisance, not a service.
I don’t want to be seated. I don’t want to be helped in or out of my coat. I can carry my own bags. I don’t want insincere compliments. I don’t want recommendations for what to eat, or drink, if the menu is clear enough I can decide that for myself, thankyouverymuch. I don’t want my waiter summing up the daily specials or extra possiblities; what he says goes in one ear and out the other anyway, and it is much more practical to have the specials written out on a paper menu or on a blackboard on the wall. I don’t want my waiter to bring me unasked for “extra’s”.
I don’t want my waiter hovering near my table, so I have to keep my voice down when talking with my partner. I don’t want him to come to my table at random moments, breaking into the conversation, asking if everything is allright. Basically, I don’t want to think of my waiter at all while I’m having dinner, and I don’t want him to think of me, either.
Does any of the above “things Maastricht doesn’t want from waitstaff” constitute the difference between good and bad service to you?