# Are You A Poster Nobody Wants To Get To Know Better?

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [August 9, 2006, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045 "2006-08-09T19:29:56Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 20\
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**Author:** ![Mindfield](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mindfield/32/19759_2.png) [@Mindfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mindfield)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/101 "2006-08-10T16:02:24Z")

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[QUOTE=Antinor01]  
There are no name tags. No one wants to get to know us better anyway, so what use would it be to display our name on a tag?  
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Because it’s a lot easier to say “Who the hell is Mindfield?” than “Who the hell is that guy? You know, the one with the posts I can’t recall in threads I don’t remember?”

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**Author:** ![InappropriateHumor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/eb8c5e/32.png) [@InappropriateHumor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InappropriateHumor)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/102 "2006-08-10T16:02:38Z")

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Dear Mr. Guevara:

I am writing in response to your advertisement for the following position:

**Foreign Minister - Job Description: _Define and implement Party policy towards other threads. Monitor these threads to make sure they don’t get too powerful by going multi-page._**

My qualifications are manifold and include having the word manifold in my vocabulary.

I have the ability to monitor many threads, as demonstrated by my extensive (2 year) experience in the field of lurking and living vicariously through virtual strangers.

I also have demonstrated the ability to limit the length of many threads by posting to them, and on some occasions by merely viewing them. My posts are apparently so without merit, that they work as a natural braking mechanism. I am a powerful force in the fight against lengthy threads. Moreover, I vow to use my power strictly for the benefit of the Party.

In summary, I believe I would be a valuable asset to the Party and look forward to serving it.

In desperate anticipation,  
InappropriateHumor

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**Author:** ![Loopydude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e56c9b/32.png) [@Loopydude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loopydude)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/103 "2006-08-10T16:05:21Z")

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[QUOTE=Captain Lance Murdoch]  
I read your posts all the time. I don’t find them boring.  
[/QUOTE]

More slander. Get another room, you scoundrels!

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**Author:** ![Pazu](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pazu/32/15522_2.png) [@Pazu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pazu)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/104 "2006-08-10T16:27:17Z")

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[QUOTE=Anaamika]  
I’m breaking all the rules to post in this thread and say - I like most of the people in this thread. So there! Nyah!

[/QUOTE]

As a member of this still-forming group I would like to publicly dissociate myself from “most of the people” identified by **Anaamika** above.

Obviously, she’s trying to start a schism.

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**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/105 "2006-08-10T16:32:10Z")

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[QUOTE=Pazu]  
As a member of this still-forming group I would like to publicly dissociate myself from “most of the people” identified by **Anaamika** above.

Obviously, she’s trying to start a schism.  
[/QUOTE]

Well, I cannot speak for **Anaamika** , but I am sure she did not mean you. 😉  
Who are you again?

Jim

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**Author:** ![Pazu](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pazu/32/15522_2.png) [@Pazu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pazu)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/106 "2006-08-10T16:40:07Z")

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[QUOTE=What Exit?]  
Well, I cannot speak for **Anaamika** , but I am sure she did not mean you. 😉  
Who are you again?

[/QUOTE]

Are you talking to _me_? **Really?** :eek:

Wow…

😉

Since I see your location is “Central NJ” and I’m originally from central NJ, you’re allowed to hear the above in a stereotypical Jersey accent.

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**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/107 "2006-08-10T17:10:38Z")

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[QUOTE=picunurse]  
Now wait, I need a clarification. I was mentioned in that other thread, but not as one someone wanted to know better, but as someone, someone already knows and someone wishes to know less, rather than more.

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Parsing…

Was that me? Slow connection today, so I can’t go back and look unless I want to wait a half an hour, and I have to get to work. But if it was, I like you, and would like to know you more. My shyness is _crippling_, **M**., beyond what most people understand. ☹ I’ve been getting better, or I thought I was, because of my co-workers, but then again, it might be because I have no choice but to see them. And to be quite frank, this morning, before going to work, I feel kind of ill and weird, and I don’t really want to go. But I will, because I am a productive member of society now and I am contributing to the household finances.

I am sure my actions are unintentionally maddening, but I cannot express how much I do want to see you more. I feel like crying just typing this. You know the first night I went out to trivia night? When I came home I sobbed all over my husband, and I told him I wanted to be able to do that more. I have a brave public face, even somewhat goofy, but inside I’m _scared to death_. I have a real problem, and I sincerely apologise if it comes across as avoiding you. I like you very much, and I hope I can keep showing up at trivia night. I always keep an eye on the trivia thread to see when you will be going, because those are the nights I want to go for sure, or at least I try to talk myself into going. So you probably didn’t know this, but you have been my crutch. If you weren’t going, there’s no chance I would go, even though I really like the others, too. You gave me that much courage, because you’ve been so kind to me. I owe you big.

I’ve emailed you three times since trivia night (and a couple times before that), but no reply, so I have to assume I’m still having trouble. I need a gmail invite. I lost mine.

Anyway, I suppose this leaves me wide open for some heavy mocking here on the boards, but I had to get it out and make sure you knew. And it will be that much more embarrassing if you either didn’t mean me, or I misunderstood your post entirely. But at least you’ll know _I like you_.

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**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/108 "2006-08-10T17:13:30Z")

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Um, excuse me, picu? My very first post???

> [@](#):
>
> My crew of girls, of course. Whether they want to see me or not is another matter!  
> Anastaseon  
> Misnomer  
> Draelin  
> harmless (who doesn’t post anymore, sadly)  
> fetus  
> picnurse

ARE YOU NOT IN THERE??? (albeit misspelled)

Pazu, I may not have known you before now, but you can bet you’re on my radar now. As is LoopyDude.

Uh-oh. Here comes the OP. _runs_

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**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/109 "2006-08-10T17:13:41Z")

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Personally, I don’t mind being a pariah. It allows for a unique freedom of expression unfettered by social convention while building inner strength of character. It also allows me complete freedom to step off stage and enjoy the play at any time.

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**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/110 "2006-08-10T17:16:12Z")

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Unpopular Dopers Unite!

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**Author:** ![NajaNivea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/22d042/32.png) [@NajaNivea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NajaNivea)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/111 "2006-08-10T17:21:19Z")

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I wonder if the act of applying for one of the open listings causes the OP to want to get to know you better in order to hire for said position, thereby negating one’s qualifications for the club?

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**Author:** ![Ghanima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Ghanima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ghanima)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/112 "2006-08-10T17:27:28Z")

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We interrupt this thread to bring you a Howard Jones song that’s been stuck in my head since yesterday and that I am now inflicting on others in a desperate ploy to rid myself of it:

“I’d like to get to know you well,  
I’d like to get to know you well,  
I’d like to get to know you well  
so we can be one  
we can be one  
together…”  
:::d&r:::

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**Author:** ![Loopydude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e56c9b/32.png) [@Loopydude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loopydude)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/113 "2006-08-10T17:27:58Z")

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That is indeed the crux of the problem of a having a cabinet. How can one cultivate a pariah status whilst applying for and/or serving out a secretarial position? It’s self-defeating.

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**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/114 "2006-08-10T17:29:13Z")

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[QUOTE=Eleanor of Aquitaine]  
That was pretty funny, **Chez**. Now I want to get to know you better.

Eleanor (who nobody wants to get to know better)  
[/QUOTE]

Your usename is my username’s granddaughter. So we are like family…I feel I already know you better.

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**Author:** ![Godfrey\_Daniels](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Godfrey\_Daniels](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Godfrey_Daniels)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/115 "2006-08-10T17:30:16Z")

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1. nada
2. nope
3. nyet

I was here before the big crash, but left for a year or so. No meltdown or anything, just slowly drifted over the horizon. I still don’t post much, but I’m here pretty much every day.

I’m the epitome of uncool, I guess. Over-the-hill gummint worker who also happens to be a washed up part time musician in a band that plays western swing. :gak!: (no, seriously, my self esteem is just fine.)

I were a smart person, but I find that as you age in our culture, you’re perceived as dull and uninteresting. In my case, maybe so.

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**Author:** ![Mindfield](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mindfield/32/19759_2.png) [@Mindfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mindfield)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/116 "2006-08-10T17:37:14Z")

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[QUOTE=Ghanima]  
We interrupt this thread to bring you a Howard Jones song that’s been stuck in my head since yesterday and that I am now inflicting on others in a desperate ploy to rid myself of it:

“I’d like to get to know you well,  
I’d like to get to know you well,  
I’d like to get to know you well  
so we can be one  
we can be one  
together…”  
:::d&r:::  
[/QUOTE]

“Button up and tighten your lip and keep a check on what you say  
Those crazy words you fling from your mouth gonna bounce back on you someday.”

(Just fighting Jones with Jones)

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**Author:** ![Rebecca\_DiMwitter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a87d85/32.png) [@Rebecca\_DiMwitter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebecca_DiMwitter)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/117 "2006-08-10T17:49:15Z")

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[QUOTE=Clockwork And Candy]  
**1) Are you overcome by nostalgia for the time when people wanted to get to know you better?**

No. I don’t think a person can be overwhelmed by nostalgia for a time that _NEVER HAPPENED_. _sniff_

**2) Was there ever a time when people wanted to get to know you better?**

…

Did you not read what I just typed? No, there wasn’t. Congratulations on pressing the issue. You’re just the King of Cuteington, aren’t you? :-\*

**3) Do you think there ever will be a time when people want to get to know you better?**

Probably not. I rarely post, especially if the thread has already reached two or more pages. And even when I do post, I usually forget about it and never check back. (Whoops.) One must also take into consideration the fact that I’m not as intelligent, articulate or interesting as the greater majority of SDMB. I think my posts are somewhat off putting to certain members, even.

Oh, well. But, hey; us stupid people need love too! ☹  
[/QUOTE]

You and **Count Blucher** were the two I was going to mention on the other thread as “completely enthralling”, along with **Left Hand of Dorkness** , who was definitely mentioned already. I read all your posts (provided I am interested in the thread, of course) because the 3 of you amuse me to no end! Who cares about “intelligent” and “articulate”, when a girl can get “riotiously, soda-spraying-across-the-keyboard funny” from the likes of you?

So this belongs more appropriately in the other thread—so what? Sue my chalk-white, never-seeing-the-sun butt. I myself certainly belong in THIS thread. And most of the objects of my affection are here as well.

Motherly kisses to you, **c and c**!

–Beck

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**Author:** ![koeeoaddi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/koeeoaddi/32/408_2.png) [@koeeoaddi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/koeeoaddi)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/118 "2006-08-10T18:13:55Z")

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Eh, I just figure nobody can spell my name.  
Yeah. That must be it…🙂

Oh, and **Rebecca DiMwitter** , your name made me laugh out loud.

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**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/119 "2006-08-10T18:17:38Z")

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I think you guys have the wrong end of the stick, anyhoo. Think about it. A thread like that is bound to attract certain people, mostly people with an MPSIMS type of mindset. (Not that there’s anything wrong with that!) But if you were well-known in the Pit, or GD, or GQ, you probably won’t be mentioned in that thread because the people who are likely to mention you just roll their eyes when they see that kind of thread. You guys are probably getting a lot of respect, just not in that thread… I don’t see a lot of the big GD names in there, for example.

As for the people with less than 300 posts, how are we supposed to like you if you never post? :dubious:

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**Author:** ![Pazu](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pazu/32/15522_2.png) [@Pazu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pazu)\
**Post date:** [August 10, 2006, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/are-you-a-poster-nobody-wants-to-get-to-know-better/368045/120 "2006-08-10T18:31:10Z")

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[QUOTE=Anaamika]

[…]  
Pazu, I may not have known you before now, but you can bet you’re on my radar now.

[/QUOTE]

You’re trying to ruin me here, aren’t you?? Admit it!!

Besides, you **did** laugh at one of my jokes in some thread or another long ago…ah, these gems of memory, so rare, so pathetic…

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